I dunno, it all depends on the person but if i read just the first line of your question i would probably send you a nasty comment too. People just hear what they wanna hear so therefore they get nasty. ANYHOW, in response, tell him you're not interested and if that doesnt work im pretty sure you can file something at work saying that he's causing problems for you and let your manager take care of it :) Good Luck!
2006-10-30 15:51:04
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answered by Anonymous
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HOMER meets BARBIE
First it sounds like the whole office needs to practice some work place etiquette. You need to go to the human resources department and tell them about this. There is absolutely no excuse for you to have to endure this kind of harassment in your place of employment. If you do not get some sort of reassurance this will stop immediately. Go seek the advice of an attorney.
Second, men and women , beautiful or homely , weather they want to admit it or not are initially drawn to another person by looks. And that there is a definite "class" that we all fit into as far as looks go. Someone from the debate team would never be dating the head cheerleader. And a rocker dude would never date (although he would cream her twinky if she'd let's) a girl that is head of the chess club. So by you coming right out with the truth and to add the cherry you are confident enough in yourself to admit you belive you are pretty. People incredibly intimidated by woman and men posses these qualities. The more inadequate they belive they are the more nasty the put downs will be. Because subconsciously they feel they are lower than you in some way. The only way they can raise themselves up to you, is to put you down (put downs) There is nothing wrong with telling the truth, I guess this is proof that the truth can hurt. It sounds like you work with a bunch of teenagers. So hold your head up Honey and SMILE , cuz with every snarl and comment they toss, trying to hurt you they are just complimenting you. The meaner the better!!Not only that but now they will be wondering why your in such a fabulous mood since they are obviously trying to make you miserable.
Now, I am never tactful and very opinionated. Though I'm not mean. I often open mouth insert my foot and poop it out, I'm smooth though , I'll do a 180 and catch it on a silver platter. My point to all this is that if I were you I'd go to one of those places that makes name tags or personalized license plates and I would have a name tag made for work just to eat at them a little more. Course I love to push it to the max, but it would say...
hello my name is..
JODI
Bloomingdale's Most
Beautiful employee
2006
And as I always say "SMILE, it confuses people!"
2006-10-30 16:12:56
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answered by JodiBaby 3
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Since you explained yourself clearly here, you don't seem shallow and I do agree with you. LOL, sometimes when you speak, it might come out differently then you expected.
This is the world, everybody gets jealous&bitter especially if they think someone is trying to put them down or something THOUGH you said (or I'm just inferring) that you don't do that.
Besides, each person's view on something/somebody is different.
I think that in this whole thing, they misunderstood you. ):
Somehow, what you typed, makes me seem like you're also about to get nasty :x 'cause you typed, "claimed that I'm not pretty and attractive" made it seem like you found it a big deal. Some people don't have high self-esteem (me.)
2006-10-30 15:51:48
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answered by LiLiESS 1
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well if you worded the question as you did here with your reason for not liking his advances are he is ugly, it makes it look as though you are simply turning him down based on looks. that would be being shallow. If you have other reasons that that for not liking it, then no you are not shallow. as for the idea of men not making them attractive. I am sure it is the same for men and women, they dream of the hottest person. but you know that looks change daily and over time that great looking person will be old so who the hell cares what they look like. If you are hot fine, you should not discount someone because they are not. people don't like to hear about people who are not going to give people a chance for superficial reasons. so they lashed out at you. I am sorry they did, I am sure you have your reasons for not liking him, but if you are only turning him down cause of his appearance then you might want to do some soul searching. there is no way to make yourself attractive since everyone finds different things attractive.
2006-10-30 15:53:12
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answered by daggermouth 3
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all that you mentioned, bitter, jealous and didn't read your whole question. it sounded like you were more upset over this moron staring at your chest and making you feel uncomfortable, i don't think it really mattered he was old and pot bellied. but you're right it is a double standard can you imagine what would be said if it were an old pot bellied woman hitting on a young good looking guy ! ignore the nasty posters...what do they know anyway
2006-10-30 15:51:48
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answered by Anonymous
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If you ask about that on here, you have to expect some nasty answers, dont let it bother you. Some people read to much into the question or they dont read the whole question...Just scroll on by the bad ones, its not worth getting angry at, heck who knows who is typing at the other end of the computer...
2006-10-30 16:11:51
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answered by ABBYsMom 7
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Because you are only describing looks and nothing else. When you say fat and ugly.....you are talking about outside looks. People are better than that. That is why people say you are shallow. You can be both pretty and ugly at the same time. Inside and out. The choice is yours
2006-10-30 15:51:14
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answered by Justwondering 2
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I don't think they've read the whole question. As far as in the workplace others don't care alot of times they just need someone to pick on or talk about. This is exactly why a guy told you you weren't that attractive. Think of them in middle school. He defiantly should not be hitting on you at work that's harassment.
2006-10-30 15:58:02
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answered by Dotr 5
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I'm a little confused. You say that you don't value looks as much as other things, but then you imply in your first paragraph that you don't like this guy because he is unattractvie and fat. If you don't like the guy that is fine, but I wouldn't tell him that he is ugly. That is just cruel. But i'm not privy to the whole situation.
But being "ugly" is not fun, yes people get nasty because they are jealous and bitter.
2006-10-30 15:49:18
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answered by s_e_e 4
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You have to expect some people to answer your question improperly, because you may have worded your question just a tad bit wrong. It sounds like you have great self esteem, and that is a positive. Just remember that before someone can love you, you must love yourself. BUT>>>>there is a fine line between Love and Vanity of yourself. Perhaps people misunderstood your question. Consider rewording it and post again?
2006-10-30 15:50:30
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answered by cricketfish 1
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