I have an older neighbor she is 38 and has children the same age as mine, I'm 20. We had a sgreat first of the summer our kids were playing together and having a blast. My husband built them a deck and charged them 2 grand less then they would have paid. After that it's been weird. She won't talk to me, or show me her new baby. NOTHING. She really doesn't have the best relationship with her husband and I gave her emotional support to just work it out. She never says hi or anything and her house is in front of mines. We own and so do they. Is she mad at me or something? We have never been negative to each other, and treat our children equally. I even made a diaper cake for her baby since she didn't have a baby shower. Does she not like me since I am younger?
2006-10-30 15:21:15 · 18 answers · asked by fourcheeks4 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
the baby was just born and this has been going on for 4 months
2006-10-30 15:41:36 · update #1
they were quoted 4,683.34 to have their deck made and he did it for 2 grand. She was so pleased with the work. My husband and her husband used to go fishing together and her husband and his friend made comments about how beautiful and sexy I was and I hope it didn't make it's way back to her. How could I look sexy with two children, and pj's on. I don't make myself appealing to other people at all. Just my husband in our home.
2006-10-30 15:45:10 · update #2
SOMETIMES YOU HAVE TO LEAVE PEOPLE ON WHATEVER STOOP THEY SIT ON. GO ON WITH YOUR LIFE
2006-10-30 16:19:45 · answer #1 · answered by Renee F 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I doubt it has anything to do with your age. I am an older mother (37) of young children, and I can see nothing wrong with a having a friendship with a younger mother. Most mothers with kids the age of mine are younger, so it would be pretty limiting if I were to be that picky. Perhaps she is angry about something, but until she is ready to tell you what the problem is, there is nothing you can do. Since you mentioned she was having marital problems, that could be the issue. It may have nothing at all to do with you. If her marriage is failing, she may just not feel like talking about right now.
2006-10-30 23:33:21 · answer #2 · answered by FabMom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She feel that you still overcharged her for having the deck built. If you offered her emotional support after this fact then she probably feels that she told you too much and regrets that she told you. Or she may think that you told someone else. The best solution is when you see her to ask her how she's doing and ask if you did anything to upset her. There may be a misunderstanding on both sides. Communication is key!!!
2006-10-31 00:26:11 · answer #3 · answered by truth hurts 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids eh? Lol....did you maybe say something in front of your kids or her kids that might have gotten back to her??? Kids will listen and easily spread the word and even exaggerate a lot too. I would simply ask her if anything is wrong, if she would like to talk to you about something or if she needs a break/help? Ask her if she is enjoying the new deck? If there is something upsetting her from one of these things.....then it is sure to come out, either verbally or by a facial expression...just keep fined tuned to her every move/response! Good Luck
2006-10-30 23:34:52 · answer #4 · answered by lostonehere 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like her problem may not even have anything to do with you, especially since you seen signs that there maybe trouble at home.
Why not be a good friend instead of a neighbor, and just ask her one day, if everything is okay.
And let her know that you're here for her, should she need a friend, and not just a neighbors that wonders.
2006-10-30 23:31:44 · answer #5 · answered by * Deep Thought * 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's not that some people are like that - thought they have good feelings towards you or bad they don;t like to show - it;s complicated to explain but they are shy inside in some other way that normal people it's hard to explain - but I would suggest that keep on try to do your best from your side after all she is a women and human and its not stone that has to melt it;s just heart - she will one day but try your good effort from your side . Go to her and ask her in a friendly manner if you did anything wrong for which she is doing like this or something else - best be good to her more than you do . For flight attendend they are asked to serve their customers with smile because smiling and being polite can weaken anyone heart .. just be warm and freindly to her comfoert her . Tusr me it will work
2006-10-30 23:27:39 · answer #6 · answered by Thinking 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all.....I'm very sorry for you, because you did so much for her......no matter what she's going through she could at least show you some friendly face.....she should be thinking that you were always there for her to show your emotional support .......and another thing she could have pressure by her husband.....or she's one of them who doesn't know how to appreciate things.......if i were you i would ask her flat out.....what's the problem is it something I've done?
Best wishes and good luck
2006-10-30 23:47:19 · answer #7 · answered by sherry 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, I hope her kids are very young since you are only 20. maybe she thinks he over charged her. I don't think age would be a factor in this, cause 38 isn't that old.
2006-10-30 23:24:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may just be going through a tuff time with a new baby in the home or her husband. Don't take it personal & continue to say, HI..
2006-10-30 23:24:33 · answer #9 · answered by notAminiVANmama 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just try to be nice to her maybe she is going through something and she can't bring herself to talk about it. Maybe she noticed your husband did construction around the house, used your family to get a cheap deck got what she needed and that was that.
2006-10-31 00:28:17 · answer #10 · answered by Shadow Kat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may be uncomfortable if she told you something about her husband that was negative and now they are trying to work things out.
2006-10-30 23:32:38 · answer #11 · answered by lucy02 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋