okay so i have this boyfriend and hes in jail... yeah i know that already makes this sound bad but thats beside the point. we broke up this summer because he messed me over... but i messed him over to... but idk what to do because hes says he loves me now and he wants to be with me and how i give him something to look forward to in life when he gets out and how hes gonna change his ways.... but then its that thought hes in jail and hes thinking all this but when he gets out its a tottaly different world and he might feel differently... i dont know what to do with this situation.....
2006-10-30 15:01:18 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dump him. They always say that when they're locked up. They don't want you to go out and meet somebody new. It is a feeling of not being so alone in their misery that they drag you along with them. Dump him.
2006-10-30 15:13:06 · answer #1 · answered by artist_eye1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay your right, he is in jail and he is feeling lonley. By him saying that he wants to make it work between you too, is his waying for saying that he needs someone to talk to. My aunt was in this same situation, she wrote this guy in Jail, sent him money and she fell in love, she wanted to be with him and he wanted to be with her, or so he said. and when he finally got out, NOTHING he totally forgot about her. He USED her while he was in jail. You have to live your life, your not together with him, you were broken up before he went in jail. There is no point in waiting while he is in jail. Live your life and have fun. Don't even think about him or talking with him, until he is out of jail and then you can see how it goes. I know you may have feelings because of the breakup but that is normal. You will be fine. Try to live your life and don't think about your ex.
2006-10-30 23:09:50 · answer #2 · answered by totallylovableandinlove 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Actions speak louder than words. Give him some time after getting out & see what type of guy he is going to be after being in jail. My hubby works with people in jail & he says they all change until they get back out around the old gang.
2006-10-30 23:05:49 · answer #3 · answered by "karma" 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dear Brei,
Always remember that you cannot base any relationship on changing people. What you see is what you will always get... now and later.
Dig deep into yourself and decide what kind of person, relationship and being do yhou want. With advice from respectable people around you, find out where you may meet such persons or situations; then, go there.
Good luck, may God bless you richly and may you have the life that you deserve.
2006-10-30 23:07:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly sweetheart, I wouldn't wait. Loving him is ok in this case and your heart will get broken and all but it will feel worse if he gets out of jail and blows you off. I wouldn't take the chance. Try to find someone else, you only have one life, you can't live it waiting.
2006-10-30 23:04:46 · answer #5 · answered by thehereyes 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should tell him wait to you get out and show me that you can really change because i really don't know if you will or if its just the jail talking. tell him he needs to prove it to you first because you don't want to wait up for the call about he is dead or locked up again.if the way he messed you up is he cheated then no don't take him back because once a cheater always a cheater.
2006-10-30 23:09:47 · answer #6 · answered by jam 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh come on, Cheese girl, you desrve better than a jail bird.
With a guy like him, you might as well slice yourself, and nibble it on crackers or rolls. Almost every where you look, a girl like you could find some guy whose better for her.
2006-10-30 23:04:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a bad situation. I would cut ties with him and spend time on your own or find a different guy.
2006-10-30 23:05:13 · answer #8 · answered by Answer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of him. Sure he says he loves you and will do right by you when he gets out. That is easy to say when you are in jail.
2006-10-30 23:05:52 · answer #9 · answered by Val 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't get involved with him you are going to have to move on beacuse if you stay with him chances are your going to end up in jail with him!
2006-10-30 23:03:47 · answer #10 · answered by ♥ [þæ] ツ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋