is 15 too old for a bedtime?

Question

my son is 15 and he falls asleep around 1am and has to wake up at 5:30 am.he gets home from school at 4:00 and sleeps from 5 to 10pm.i think thats ridiculous and it bothers me so i want 2put him on a 9pm bedtime.but my wife thinks hes 2 old for a bedtime. is he too old? and if u think he is. how old is too old?

Answer 1

I think 9pm is a tad early for a 15 year old. 10 pm sounds better on school nights. He's still a kid an you have to keep control or he'll walk all over you. He's at that rebellion age. But no a time limit isn't out of the question. Kids shouldn't be napping after school. The should be active so they don't get fat and lazy. I did read a study once that said kids his age need 12 hours of sleep a day. Sounds like a lot to me.
How can anybody get good grades in school if they only get 5 hours of sleep before class every night? Your wife will have to understand is all.

Answer 2

He should not be sleeping all evening like that. Especially since it bothers you. He needs to be spending time with the family during the hours of 5 and 10. And sleep when everyone else is asleep also. I wouldn't let him get away with this behavior if I were you any longer. It will be hard for him to get on a good sleeping schedule but it's got to start somewhere. I would allow him to rest only an hour or so after school. Then, make him get up help with dinner, do homework, and whatever. And I would suggest that you give him a bedtime of 9 but perhaps allow him to read with a small light on until he feels like he can fall asleep, but not any later then 10. Best of luck to you.

Answer 3

No, he is not too old for a bedtime. Is he getting A's and B's with the schedule he has now? He needs sleep but he needs it at night and he needs to be out getting exercise and socializing some during the day or doing homework and chores. Something besides zoning out. He's zoning out the family and it's not good! He needs to be down 9:30 and asleep by 10:00. he needs at least 7 -8 hrs at night to function. He's getting the sleep but he's zoning out the family and that will become a big problem as he gets older. He needs to spend time with you all. My opinion. She doesn't want the fight he's going to give. It's easier to let him do his own thing. When he's 17-18 he'll be out all night in the summer....now that needs to be addressed right now while he's still young enough to handle and change those bad habits.

Answer 4

15 years old is to old for a bed time. In 3 years your son will be 18. He needs to start making his own decsions now. Unless he's failing in school or not doing his chores then I don't see why it is such a problem on how late he goes to bed. If you really waanted to change him I wouldn't set a bed tim, I would set a no bed time, telling him that he couldn't come straight home and go to bed. I would make him do his homework, chores, or something besides sleep. After staying up til 1 the night before he will probably be tired by 11 and want to fall asleep.

Answer 5

I'm 55 years old & I need a bedtime. It's your responsibility to teach your children proper sleeping habits. If he has to get up at 05:30 am then 09:00 pm would give him a full 81/2 hours of sleep providing he actually drops off as soon as he goes to bed.
We should all be getting a minimum of 6 to 8 hrs of uninterrupted sleep every night.
This habit of sleeping for 5 hours in the evening, & then getting up for 3, & then going back down for another 4 1/2 has a high potential of bringing on a bad case of teanaged depression, if it hasn't already.
It will take him a minimum of 2 weeks to make the adjustment to any new sleeping routine, so you will want to start soon, & give it a proper chance & don't give up.

Answer 6

So when's he doing his homework if he sleeps from 5 to 10pm and he's not home from school until 4pm? I think "bedtime" is the incorrect word but he needs some guidelines to set a proper sleep pattern. If he's up that early he should be in bed much earlier than 1am, say 11:00 tops. That's still not much sleep for someone his age but it's better than 1am.

Answer 7

Nope he isn't too old. Up until the time my 18 year old sd move out she had a strict 11pm bedtime. The weekends (friday and saturday she was allowed to stay up all night if she wanted). As long as they are in your house and attending school they should have a bedtime. There is no reason for a 15 year old to come home and sleep that long in the early evening. That is why he is up that long at night.

Answer 8

Well. Is he still doing well in school? Is he doing his homework during his waking hours? Behaving? I think that if he is still doing well and there are no problems then he should be allowed to continue what he's doing. If he isn't, however, than I think you have the right to assign him a bedtime. Although, I think 9 is a little harsh. Maybe 10-12? I'm 15 and I go to sleep around midnight or 1 and wake up at 6:20. This amount of sleep works well for me. Hope this helps.

Answer 9

He obviously doesn't have a clue. Until he leaves your home, has his own place and going to a job... You are not doing him any favors by letting him sleep dysfunctionally.

Do you think he will hold a job with this sleep pattern? Maybe...but will he have a better chance if he learns to sleep correctly?

A person is never too old to have a bedtime. It is just most of us impose this on ourselves. We have to be responsible. If I don't pay the mortgage, who is going to pay it? Mom and Dad?

Now if he goes out and rents a place, holds down a job... being self sufficient... then fine... sleep any way he feels like it. But as long as he lives off you... train him to function in this society. Or be prepared to take care of him when he is 30...40...50...

Answer 10

I don't think 15 is to old for a bed time. The reason they are still home with us is because they don't always make the best decisions for them selves. So we are here to help them make those decisions. I would say if you want your kid to get a good education and you really care about them i would set down the law and make them be in bed by 11:00 at the latest. Because if they don't get sleep they don't learn if they don't learn they end up with crap jobs or living with you the rest of there life.