How is a good way to tell ur mom that ur pregnant?

Question

OK! I am pregnant and I have no idea how to tell my mom! Im 14(my birthay is today). Im 2 months pregnant and Im starting to kinda show. I dont know what to do cause my boyfriend just found out I was pregnant 2 days agoand he is freakon out! I mean, he's so nervous, he hasnt talked to me since I told him! I dont know what to do cause I dont know what a good way to tell me mom about this cause for one thing, Im not even supolse to date my boyfriend cause my mom doesnt like that he is 16 and Im 14, and he's turning 17 November 15. so, we have about a 2 and 11 month age difference. PLEASE HELP ME CAUSE IM FREAKON OUT AND IM PREGNANT! also, please dont tell my to just dump my boyfriend cause I really love him and I cant ever do that. It may seem like he has taken advantage of me but he hasnt! SO, please help me!!!!!!

Answer 1

Spend some girl-time together. Go shopping or to lunch or to a movie. When you're ready, tell her you need to talk about something. Then just tell her. She's going to freak, yes, but you need to tell her. You've made some very adult decisions and now you need to act like an adult. She will be mad at you for sneaking around behind her back. Take your punishment and move on. Keep control of your emotions and you'll be fine.

Answer 2

I am a mom so I am going to be honest with you and tell you what I would say to my own child. Let your mom know that you need to have a serious talk with her. Tell her that something has happened that is going to change everyone's lives. Let her know that you love her, and that you are sorry you couldn't follow her rules. But you made a decision to be with this boy and you really feel you love him too. Tell her you are pregnant. This is going to be emotional for both of you, she is going to cry becuase she may feel she didn't protect you enough or teach you better, let her know that this isn't her mistake, a baby is never a mistake. And if you are concerned about keeping that baby, I am not saying that you aren't going to, that you are willing to look into your options. even if you only say this to her to make her feel better.

I will not tell you to dump him, I think he may be afraid of the consequences of getting you pregnant, like he may feel he can go to jail, however, the age gap for statuatory rape, that is sex with an underage person is 3 years, since he isn't 3 years older than you, he shouldn't worry about that, but there is also his responsibility to this baby, and whether or not he wants it to be, he is going to be a father. maybe you should call him and talk to him about his fears, I can almost garentee that you have some of these same fears for him. Good luck hun. I wish you the best.

Answer 3

first of all calm down.don't you have an adult you can talk to a teacher a preacher, an aunt if your going to have the baby then you and your boyfriend have to speak to your mother together the both of you made the baby together.you are really young to have a baby,your body is still developing.i'm not condemning you but i wish you had talked to an older woman before you had sex so you would have known how to protect yourself from get pregnant or catching any stds.your mother would be hurt,but it better you tell her so she can help you. you sound like your in this alone,tell your boyfriend no need to hide now he'll have to face the music sooner or later be a man and step up

Answer 4

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Answer 5

OK, I have always told my kids, no matter what be honest, I know that this is a big one for you, So be ready for your mom to freak out. But the world hasn't come to an end.After it settles in she will be there for you, She's a Mom and that's what Moms do. I would be more worried that your boyfriend won't want the baby, and you might loose him, so be ready for anything. Tell Mom Its better it comes from you and not hearing it at the supermarket, by someone else.
Happy Birthday.

Answer 6

Good grief child. Sigh. Sit your mom down, when nothing else is going on, and you are alone, and talk to her. I know it is hard, but it needs to be done. You need to start going to the dr and taking vitamins and such. I got preg when I was 17 (I am now 21) I couldn't bring my little heart to tell my dad (my mom abandoned us so ti was just my dad) so I just kept saying daddy, would you lvoe me not matter what I did? What if it was really bad. Even if it ernt against everyhitng you ever taught me, and he answered yes to each one, and finally said, Amber - are you pregnant? I put my head down and said yes. My situation was a little diff because I was a bit older ( I waitted the 3 months until I turned 18 to tell him ). Your mother is not going to hate you, but she will be upset and rightfully so. You are her daughter and she loves you, and as a mother she knows how hard and how many sacrafices you have to make since she is one. And ya wanna know what? She is going to love her grandchild to death! Just tell her you understand she is upset, but you need her now more than ever.
14 is young to have a child, but it has been done. Life as you know it is over. Time to grow up, for real. You have a lot of thinking to do. And if you are really scared to tell your mom, have an aunt or family friend you trust come over and tell your mom with them. I know how hard it is. It seems like the scariest thing in the world, but you need to talk to her ASAP, because there are tests and things you need to get done that can only be done at certain times in the preg. Think of your baby.
And I would never tell you to dump your bf, it takes two to tango and he needs to take responsibility for this little life he helped create. Have your mom call his mom, or tell him to tell his parents. Everyone involved needs to be on the same page.
Goodluck to you, and if you need someone to talk to my email addy is [e-mail]. You can talk to me about anything you need to get off your chest or advice or whatever. You are going to need a friend...and trust me when I say, your friends at school...don't hold your breath on being able to count on them.

Answer 7

The only thing I can say is the sooner you tell her the better. It sounds like she had good reason to forbid you from dating your boyfriend, but now that the damage is done, she will help you deal with it. Just get her alone and tell her. Be up-front and to-the-point, no cute tricks. That will only anger her more. Yes, she will be angry at first. But she loves you and she will help you through this.

Answer 8

OK WELL GOOD LUCK FOR ONE THING. WELL I WAS 23 WHEN I GOT PREGNANT WITH MY FIRST. SHE WAS OK. THEN WHEN I WAS 24 I GOT PREGNANT WITH MY 2ND. AND WE WERE ON OUR WAY TO A HOSP. 30 MIN. AWAY TO SEE MY SISTER AND HER PREEMIE SON THAT WAS ONLY 4 DAYS OLD. AND I WAS DRIVING AND I TOLD HER ON THE FREEWAY SO SHE COULD NOT JUMP OUT OR ...KILL ME. AFTER THE SHOCK SHE WAS GONE SHE WAS FINE. AND NOW MY SON WILL BE 6 IN 9 DAYS. I THINK THE SOONER YOU TELL HER THE BETTER. SHE WILL BE MAD AT FIRST, AND PROBABLY HURT. BUT YOU ARE HER ...BABY. AND MOTHERS NEVER STOP LOVING THERE KIDS. AND SOON ENOUGH YOU WILL FIND OUT.

Answer 9

hi
one question here, are you willing to have a baby at that age?
i mean, think of it, you must be, financially, emotionally and physically ready..but if you decide to keep your baby,
talk to your boyfriend first, tell him, you both did this and no way he's getting out of the responsibility..and tell him that you love him so much that you would eventually get through this...
just find time (and fast!) to sit and talk to your mom, open the topic by, i know it's wrong mom but it's already here and im willing to keep my baby...important: you have to say "sorry"
she may say hurtful things at first and stuff, but hey, you gotta accept it..and eventually ofcourse your mom wil NEVER leave you...you're carrying her grandchild...tell her yourself before she would find out by herself...good luck..
my scenario's the worst..my mom knows im sexually active..ok,
it could get any worse..but hey this is life, we make mistakes to learn...

Answer 10

First you need to be honest with your Mom. You are already pregnant so that can't be changed. Sit down and be honest with her and make the best decision for you and your future. Your boyfriend is young and probably scared, but he wasn't scared when yall laid down and had unprotected sex so if you haver to go to his parents so be it. But do what's best for you. Best of luck.