Would this make you mad?

Question

I moved in with my boyfreind about four months ago. We got kicked out of our appartment because our land lord doesn't want us to have dogs. We have to be out by tomorow. I found a place after calling around and looking at places... My boyfriend hasn't even seen the place, eventhough he has has plenty of oppertunities to see it. I have spent all day packing, moving, and cleaning. He hasn't done one thing... On top of that my brother pormised that he would come over tonight and help me. He didn't show up, and didn't call. Infact I made dinner for all of us, and the steaks I made are now cold on the counter. I know that my brother is a busy person, but i do so much for him, i would think that he would step up to help seeing how much of a pinch we are in. The best part of all of this is that my bestfriend (we've been friends for twenty years) had the day off today. Everyday she has been calling to see how the appartment hunt was going, but she didn't even offer to help.

it's not like my friend has anything pressing going on today. She couldn't miss a soft ball game.

Do i have the right to be mad at all three of them?

Answer 1

Yeah but the one who you should take it out on is you lazy AS$ boyfriend!!! Also if you two tried to sneak your dogs in then you have nobody to blame but yourself.

Answer 2

If you guys had signed and read the lease aggreement, it would have most likely prevented the both of you from moving a second time. Also, this event might be a good indication how your boyfriend, which might be your future husband might act when the both of you are married. You know the old saying right? You can't really change a person, so if your boyfriend acts like this and makes you do all the work, good chances are that after the both of you are married, he too will act the same way. You should find another respectful and sweet boyfriend that will help you out and one that is more responsible.

As for your brother, I might be mad at him since you helped him out so much, but you should forgive him. He might have been really busy or some other circumstances prevented him from helping you out. Did he know about the dinner???

As with your best friend, just wondering if you asked her to help you. And if you did, then you should be mad at her. You should be proud of yourself for doing so much and yet no one really acknowledges all of your hard work. Hope this helps.

Take care.

Answer 3

your friend is not a mind reader if you need help ask for it?as for your boyfriend ..let him pack his own stuff just worry about your stuff since he is clearly being selfish you need to ask if he is stil interested in moving to a new place with you since he sure a heck isnt showing it.why should your brother help if your boyfriend wont even help?you should be mad at the boyfriend not your brother or friend did you call your brother to see if he is all right maybe something came up and he was unable to call or something cut him some slack this is yours and the boyfriends responsibility anyway.even though you say you have always helped your brother out .it should be out of love and the kindness off your heart,not for what you can get in return.seriously you better have a nice long chat with the boyfriend.

Answer 4

Well that depends. My boyfriend and I had to move on the fly. I told him look you find a place I will pack. I worked 2 jobs and it was hard to make time to see them but I trusted that he would pick a suitable place. And I kept my end and packed. Since I was working he and his friends moved like all our stuff. When I could get off work I helped out where I could and they were all really great about the situation.
With your brother and your friends they could have been there for you but I would talk to them and just say hey, I was really thinking you would help us out and you weren't there. Or next time they move don't help them. But try talking to them first.
Good luck to ya.

Answer 5

u do. Did the landlord say you could have a dog, then change his mind? That's dishonest. You can have an attorney write to a landlord or manager. Did you tell the land lord you had one dog, and agree to let you have that one? Did you turn around and decide t have two or more? That's an agreement violation. So it really depends on the true details of the matter.

Answer 6

Wow..Yes I would be very pissed off today if I were you. It seems like they aren't caring about what is going on. You could use some help here! If I were near I would glad to help you in anyway I could. I would never mistreat my friends in anyway. It seems they're being selfish and mean. I would move my things and leave his sitting there. Best wishes

Answer 7

ok I would be really really mad at the lazy boyfriend as he is supposed to be your partner! Have you ever thought that maybe your friend didnt offer to help as she doesnt really approve of your relationship? or doenst like your boyfriend? And the same goes for your brother - no excuses for him but maybe he doenst like your relationship or boyfriend either and both of them are trying to let you know without telling you. But considering your actual boyfriend has done nothing to help, I would ditch him and move somewhere else.

Answer 8

Honestly, you are living with a lazy bum... He doesn't seem to be interested in providing you with a safe, secure and loving environment. Imagine if you had children.

You are expecting your family and friends to pick up where he is failing in the relationship. Not fair to you or them....

Girl get out, the writing is on the wall.....

Answer 9

When I was shifting back to my home-country from a Middle Eastern one, my wife and two adult sons who had shifted out to their own respective condos, because they had oodles of money, hired professional movers to pack their things and move them to their new places. But the family had milked me completely dry and I just didn't have enough money at that time to hire professional help.

The two boys kept telling me that they would come around to help me pack my things, but whenever I called them they had some excuse or the other the younger even saying that he had made 'plans' with some friends to go bowling or something.

So I stopped calling them and single handedly packed everything myself, sometimes taking upto an hour to do just the one thing as some items were very large and had to be shipped in the cargo hold of a plane - hence had to be packed very carefully. I used to work late into the early morning packing away for days and nights !!!

And these were lads that I had looked after in style giving them the best of everything, sent them to Egland to study, got them great jobs - through my contacts, when they returned after getting their degrees.

So why are you getting so upset over the way that your boyfriend, 20-year old pal and brother let you down ? THIS IS WHAT THE WORLD HAS BECOME TODAY - when you shouldn't expect ANYTHING NICE from ANYONE - and if ever someone IS nice, then JUST CONSIDER YOURSELF LUCKY and count your little blessings !

AT LEAST THAT IS WHAT I DO NOW !!!

Answer 10

Just the other person, who stuff you are packing.
Since he isn't doing, pack your stuff and get it moved then let him sweat his stuff (unless he is paying all the rent, then the person who pays ALL the rent gets slack)