okay so my bf cheated on me..but then he left me..wasnti supoose to leave him..and he also told me tat he loves the other girl n tat he loves me too.. i know he is a jerk but i sill love him!! he wants to stay wid me and her.. only i know about the girl.. she doesnt know about me.. i feel if i agree on his desicion then i wud be ruining the other girl's life! HELP ME!! i cant forget him easily..its HARD..
i was so mad at him.. tats y i also slapped him across his face.. was i right?
2006-10-30 14:17:05 · 26 answers · asked by meee 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Drop it like its hot!
Say Buh Bye and move on and don't look back, no matter how hard it seems.
2006-10-30 14:19:16 · answer #1 · answered by Keanu 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Would u agree if he were to bring the girl home and sleep on yoru bed?Wld u want to be like the muslim wives who have to bear with the fact that the husband is sleeping with another woman and being aware that he only loves you 50% or less?
if you answer yes, then, you should grit your teeth and live with the misery all your life.
If no, kick that ***-H*le out of your life and start anew.
You deserve someone who's more loyal than him.
He could do this to you once, he could do it again.
Don't let the heartache repeat itself.
2006-10-30 14:36:09 · answer #2 · answered by kittenheart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you need to learn how to write in complete sentences.
Second of all: you should never settle for less than you deserve, if you want to stay with him knowing that you are sharing him with somone else, What value do you give yourself? Why would you stoop that low? He proabably left you because he knows he messed up and he knows that he probably hurt somone great, and good let him realize this but also let him know youre not going to be second best to anybody tell him you refuse to the The Other Woman. Give yourself the value you deserve, good luck to you!
2006-10-30 14:24:45 · answer #3 · answered by ~* Pink Princess *~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well its good you found out. he wants to have his cake and eat it too. he pretty much did you a favor by breaking up with you. but if he admits he loves her (even if he loves you), dont you think that you deserve someone who loves you only? if you agree to this, it will bring your self esteem down like you have no idea. he wants to have a open relationship. some people are cool with that. but its only fair if everyone involved is ok with it including the other girl. now i think you should move on. whats the point in having a boyfriend if he gets to be with other girls besides you. then you shouldnt be with him. leave it open for yourself to meet other guys. guys who are a one woman type of man. because this will only lead to him thinking he can go out with anyone and with you saying its ok, then you wont be able to get mad if he cheats on you ever again because all you are doing is setting yourself up for it. its only going to hurt you more if you stick around. and if and when the other girl finds out, you are going to look like the hoe! because you dont care that hes with someone else and most likely she is the one who will break up with him and even if he stays with you, hes going to be missing her. is that what you really want? i say dont do it.
2006-10-30 14:27:00 · answer #4 · answered by Esme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on because there are other guys that will just want just you. Are you willing to share him with another girl. If he is having unprotected sex with her and you then you know where that might lead! You need a guy to like you and only you. Isn't that what you wanted in the first place. Of course he wants his cake and eat it to. Most guys want more than one girl at a time and they will continue to do that when girls like yourself continue to let it happen. Find a guy that respects you and wants to love you.
2006-10-30 14:24:04 · answer #5 · answered by Michael C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The question I have for you is, "Why are YOU the one feeling guilty?"
He cheated on you, even said that he loves the other girl, so why are you feeling down on yourself? Yeah, it will hurt and yeah, you have feelings for him, but consider this for a moment...
What if you found out much later, after you have spent many years of your life with him? What if you found out only by contracting a disease from him that came from his mistress (or mistresses)?
Count your blessings that you know now instead of later and go out and find someone who will love you and ONLY you.
2006-10-30 14:25:14 · answer #6 · answered by calledkevinalot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your getting played. No you dont really love him you love the way he makes you feel. And not in a good way. Don't agree to his sickness and find a way to tell the other girl. This sounds like a bad episode of Cheaters waiting to happen.
2006-10-30 14:19:50 · answer #7 · answered by E R 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only thing you did was right was to slap him on his face.
If I'm you, I will contact the other girl and tell her he was two-timing her. Give up on him. Throw away all his stuff. Spend time with your family and friends. People who truly love you.
If you stop being with him, you will feel sad for a PERIOD of time.
If you stay being with him, you will feel sad for the REST OF YOUR LIFE.
2006-10-30 14:21:41 · answer #8 · answered by Schizophrenic 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So your self esteem is SO low, that you would even consider staying with this jerk. and let him play both you and this other girl? Run, don't walk, from this conniving bas tard. DON"T look nack, get ahold of this other girl, let her know how much of a jerk he is. If she doesn't believe you, just let her find out on her own.
2006-10-30 14:23:01 · answer #9 · answered by sweetgurl13069 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u go gurl! but if u still love him, do what u can to make him happy. Im kindof in the same situation, so im not gunna critisize you. give it a little more time, but if nothing happens within a month...u should move on.
2006-10-30 14:32:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave his sorry butt.
He doesn't deserve you.
Tell the other woman, she deserves to know. And, get yourself checked for STD's. She might not be the only one he's cheated on you with.
Once a cheater always a cheater.
2006-10-30 14:20:25 · answer #11 · answered by Sylvie M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋