I am getting married to a Marine in about a month. We are also having our wedding in June though. We decided to get married by a judge first so that way when it is time for me to move where he is (i cant yet due to college so i have to wait till the end of this school year) the paper work will be taken care of and we will have a place to live. Is it wrong to get married twice? We thought about having the wedding actually be a blessing but i am still wondering if this is acceptable or not. Please help!
2006-10-30 14:14:03 · 8 answers · asked by nano 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Pastor here - Absolutely OKAY. Spot On. Marvelous, Superb, and good. Bravo, Kudos, and similar beasts of approval. I rejoice for you. Jolly Good.
And a groovy witness to boot.
2006-10-30 14:20:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, it is poor etiquette to have two ceremonies, and bad manners to lie to your guests at the "big fancy wedding" next June about what they are witnessing (a re-run, not your actual wedding).
Get married whenever you want/need to, and send out wedding announcements immediately afterwards. For the etiquette of sending annoucnements, see: http://www.crane.com/Etiquette.aspx?C=WeddingEtiquette&S=Wedding_Announcements
If you cannot afford a wedding reception right now, you really do not need to have one. Just take your parents and grandparents out to dinner after the ceremony with the judge.
Later you can throw an Anniversary Banquet or dinner-dance, to celebrate with a larger group of people, when circumstances permit.
But please, not two wedding ceremonies. That's not appropriate.
2006-10-31 05:02:01 · answer #2 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just wait until June and have one wedding. Getting married by a justice of the peace is tacky - save up for a nice wedding!
2006-10-30 22:16:23 · answer #3 · answered by Rachel 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Kind of. Your first wedding will be the "real" wedding.
Your second wedding will just be a renewal of vows. If your 2nd wedding is a religious ceremony it will also be Sacramental.
Oh yes, of course this is "OK", I think it make a lot of sense for a military family. Congratulations.
2006-10-31 09:51:03 · answer #4 · answered by ee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say its your wedding and you should do it how you want. my friend had two weddings. one was done by a justice of the peace and the other was in a church with all her family. a blessing would be fine if that is what you want.
2006-10-30 22:17:43 · answer #5 · answered by blondiekittie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your wedding only happens once. Why bother having the second one?
2006-10-31 14:31:00 · answer #6 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's more common than you think. You get married legally first then when the time is right you have a religious ceremony
2006-10-30 22:37:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
DO WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY. MY COUSIN DID THAT SAME EXACT THING. THEY MARRIED BEFORE HE WENT OVERSEAS. WHEN HE RETURNED 8 MNTHS LATER, THEY DID THE REAL THING.......MY FIANCE AND I ARE MARRYING ON FEB 14, UNLESS HE GETS DEPLOYED-THEN WE WILL SOONER, AND THEN WE ARE HAVING RECEPTION FOLLOWING WEEKEND. IT'S IMPORTANT FOR HIM TO GET MARRIED ON VAL DAY--PERSONAL.
2006-10-31 00:14:54 · answer #8 · answered by kimandkaitlyn2005 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋