ok here is what is going on me and my boyfriend have been together for a year and half an me my son moved in after a year an everything was fine an one day he says he loves me but not in love with me so i moved back in with my mom he said he is confused well he stills calls an says he needs more time an my mom passed away after i got back home an my boyfriend has been there but still acting the same my life is so messed up i've been strong for my son sake .what should i do about him i asked if there i s someone else he says no but deep down i know we should be apart but i need him so much what do i do??
2006-10-30 14:01:57 · 8 answers · asked by Jluckie28 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It comes down to this..... What do you want from the relationship? If you want to be more than just a girlfriend then you need to let him know and see if he's even interested. But don't get upset because he told you the truth. Right now he's not in love with you, maybe that will change, maybe it won't.
2006-10-30 14:09:34 · answer #1 · answered by DialM4Speed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a mother, you should think good and hard before moving in with a man. You have probably learned from this mistake that it is not fair to let your son become attached to a man who is not necessarily in it for the long haul. I would suggest not living with a man unless you are married. That would set a good example for your son and help to ensure that your relationship is a committed one. There are no guarantees even if you are married, but at least you are making an effort to build a stable home for you child.
2006-10-30 14:08:39 · answer #2 · answered by schweetums 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to just let him go. Cut all ties and get on with your life. You will find that right guy. You need to br strong for your son. Put him first for a while and you will meet Mr. Right. It will take time. This way your son don't get attached to this other guy that you want be with in the future.
2006-10-30 15:24:32 · answer #3 · answered by Ready G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you two been intimate or just blah.. if you haavent had the passion hes probably bored. im sure hes curious and needs a little something else besides the typical hey honey hows it going. heres the thing. if your thinking about him, then you still love him and he still loves you. hes just not in love with you because he has forgot why he ever loved you in the first place. wow thats confusing. the solution? be annoynomus(or however its spelled) and (yes its more of a girl thing but some guys think its sweet) send him flowers or choclates or something he likes and attach a little note saying thinking of you, or a sweet little note. that may make him really think about it.
2006-10-30 14:13:07 · answer #4 · answered by Amyscastle 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ummmm....use him? sounds like you need a companion, especially in this situation. Clear your mind. This whole situation sucks, if you think about it in a crunched-down, little summary, but if you think of it as a timeline of what happened when, you can figure things out a little more clearly. this answer is a little all over the place, but you get my drift? I hope?
2006-10-30 14:07:11 · answer #5 · answered by Dan C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he says he love you been is not in love with, hes pretty much saying hes physically attracted to you, but not wanting true commintment. i would try to end it if you have a chance. but then again that will create some trauma for your son. but he will find a cope to cope.(i did)
2006-10-30 14:06:07 · answer #6 · answered by dark_lord_zephyr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweet heart you got to be strong. If this guy is acting wishy-washy, you might need to move on.
2006-10-30 14:17:26 · answer #7 · answered by s_reneeus 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find someone elts that will show you love and be there for you and your son.
2006-10-30 14:07:49 · answer #8 · answered by james t 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋