recently my fiance and i been having problems, i guess when it really started was a couple of days ago when this half naked girl on his computer started calling,i dont want us to break up i love him,i believe him i guess when he said he'll never cheat on me but i want advice...thx for answering
2006-10-30 14:01:36 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't be jealous if nothing happened, but tell him to get her out of his life by whatever means necessary... even if it means getting offline.
2006-10-30 14:03:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well the half naked girl on the computer had to get his number from him. and even though he said he would never cheat, by him giving the half naked girl his number for her to call, that is basically a cheat. it is not a physical cheat, but it is a mental, emotional cheat. Therefore you have two options, you can either keep being upset, and telling yourself that he is not cheating and you dont know how the half naked girl got his phone number.....or you can face the truth, the truth being that he gave the half naked girl his number, and he does have some sort of "sexy" relationship with her that does not include you. Whatever his motives are or were with the half naked girl. they did not include you. there in lies the problem of internet relationships. The guy can always say that because he did not do anything physical with another female, that it is not cheating. However, if a guy has a girlfriend or in this case a fiance, then technically it is cheating because it is a relationship of interest that does not involve the third party (that being you) and that is disrespectful to your relationship with your finace, therefore making it a problem. So what are you going to do about it? ignore it or face it head on. Often times men wait and see just how much they can disrespect us so please do not let him or any man do so. hold your head up, straighten yourself out, stop crying...and remember that you are a beautiful person in your own right, who will not be disrespected. Think of it this way, if your best friend who you let use your computer, let half naked girl on wouldnt you get mad at her and say why are you letting her on this computer? so dont let him get away with it because of "love" straighten out this situation now before it goes any further! good luck...ill send up a prayer
peace and blessings,
phatbeatz
2006-10-30 22:14:18 · answer #2 · answered by PhatBeatz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He cheated when he made contact with the 1/2 naked girl, & gave out his phone number. What explaination could he possibly have for giving out his number to another woman that he met on the internet?
Why is he meeting women on the internet, if he's got a fiance?
You don't want to break up with him, but is he going to commit to the relationship, or is he still on the prowl?
You love him, but how much does he love you, if he's doing things that will obviously hurt you?
Your problems with him started more than a couple of days ago, I am afraid. It's more like you became aware that you had a problem with him only a couple of days ago.
I am sorry, but if you & he have set a wedding date, I recommend that you put it on hold until you can resolve the issue of his infidelity.
2006-10-30 22:11:53 · answer #3 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you love him but don't be foolish. You want to believe him but the proof is in the doing. Is it not cheating to communicate with another woman? She was half naked on his computer, right? What do you think she is calling him for? To talk about you? You are getting early warning signs of a life filled with trust issues and infidelity. Be smart.
2006-10-30 22:06:26 · answer #4 · answered by shellese2 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If there is no evidence that he is really cheating then stay until you do find some really good evidence but until then tell him that you don't appreciate the girl calling and you think that it is disrespectful. if he is with you then you should be the only woman in his life besides woman family members. be straight up don't hide your feelings and if you don't feel like it's fixed then try again but you can only try so many times so if it ends up being over then you just move on because there are other men out there. god bless and good luck
2006-10-30 22:06:02 · answer #5 · answered by Mrs.Dennis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am also engaged and I am having a few problems. Mine are different then yours but I know that if my future husband was getting calls from nude women I would rethink this whole thing. Maybe give the relationship some more time. No one needs to break up but they need more time to think about it.... Good luck to you!!
2006-10-30 22:08:50 · answer #6 · answered by kat_burk76 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either you trust him or you don't. If it's just harmless fun then you need to be made aware of it. Talk it through and see where things stand between you two. If there's something going on that you aren't comfortable with then it needs to stop. Hopefully you guys can come to an understanding and work this out. Good Luck!
2006-10-30 22:10:04 · answer #7 · answered by ardeth75 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This "half naked girl from the computer" didn't get his contact details out of her crystal ball, you know.
He's cheating alright.
2006-10-30 22:03:24 · answer #8 · answered by Liz 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
woah. That's crazy. I mean how many excuses can he have, especially since he had to give her his number. You make want to take a break, for his sake mostly, definitely before you get married. If he come back you know he's yours, but make sure he know that you don't think it's cool for him to behave that way. It's straight up disrespectful.
2006-10-30 22:05:28 · answer #9 · answered by miaalyse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heres the thing. nothing is for sure. marriage is that big step that allows us to complement our life not complete it.with that being said, i will advice you to stop and revulate here. you love this guy however there is this girl who is calling right in your ace. there is nothing wrong but awkard. men any men should always respect you. and rember to be loved you must love yourself first and if he seems like he can't commit to marriage then once agin revulate. good luck sweetheart, i know you will be fine.
2006-10-30 22:07:35 · answer #10 · answered by Natalie B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you feel disrespected and that you are upset by what he did. If he wants to talk to other girls then he can do that but you are not going to be around. Don't put up with that. If you are having problems now and he is talking to other girls then what is going to happen if you get married. I know, DIVORCED and maybe DIVORCED WITH KIDS!
2006-10-30 22:11:58 · answer #11 · answered by Michael C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋