My GF and i dated 3 years. We took a break for about a month and a half. During which we always talked and saw each other with the usual i love yous. I talked to other girls on a friend level but thats it. Next thing i know she has a guy spending the night and a week later she is scre*ing him. 3 times in one night and no condom! we were both virgins when we met! I was so devistated that when she came wanting me back i took her right away. was that stupid of me? what SHOULD i of done?
2006-10-30 13:56:18 · 31 answers · asked by 2nice 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i wouuldnt of taken her back but thats just me ,,, Are u stupid for takeing her back ? no, u have to set the rules for how u want to deal with this though if u feel wrong for takeing her back then dump her and on the same note if your happy with her then keep her ....
2006-10-30 14:00:55 · answer #1 · answered by aaron 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
2nice,
You are really TOOOO nice. Virginity is something precious & special nowadays. It should be treasured as such. I personally think that your gf had something going on with this "other guy" waaayyy before you guys took your "break". You don't just hook up with someone & have sex with them WITH NO CONDOM 3 times in one night....ESPECIALLY if you are a virgin....she should have shared that treasure with you since you were together for THREE YEARS. This is what leads me to believe that she was screwing around with that other guy beforehand.
If I were in your shoes, I would never have taken her back. And that's coming from a FEMALE here. I know it's "easier said than done" though. You sound like you love her with all you heart & dedicated yourself to her & only her. YOU, my friend, ARE THE REAL TREASURE. She should have seen that before she screwed you over. I know from experience that ppl like her are a dime a dozen. Ppl like you are far, few & in between.
Hold your head up high....for you deserve to. Get rid of her before she hurts you anymore. Find someone trustworthy who you can give yourself to....body, mind, & soul. She is not the one. Mark my words, 2nice, she will be gone before you know it.
And, not to sound too mean, if you have had sex with her (I hope not), you should get yourself checked out. If she gave it up that easy to a guy she was only seeing for a month, then I'm sure she's not of the best moral character...be careful and respect your body & mind. You deserve to. I hope I've helped....if I can anymore....I have an email. Use it...
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2006-10-30 14:14:51 · answer #2 · answered by moonbaby3504 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah that wasn't the best thing 2 do. She basically had a "rebound" guy after you. Now she wants that safe relationship again w/u. I'd give it some time & she needs 2 be tested if sh'e not using condoms. Is she stupid too, that's sooooo dangerous. She could give you an STD. I'd back away from her & let time take it's course. Explore other options in this world dude.
2006-10-30 14:01:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anna Banana 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should have forgotten about her. If it was that easy for her to leave you and be with someone else, what makes you think it won't happen again. See, I truly believe when your not married, the whole world is open to you, you don't have to put up with anything, especially being disrespected. Why on earth would she tell you about it and in detail too. I don't know, I just think when you are single there should be a small margin of what you would put up with because you have choices. When your married, it's so much harder to end things, too many obstacles. What ever you decide, I hope you find happiness.
2006-10-30 14:06:07 · answer #4 · answered by june clever 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you were. I'm not going to trash the girl.. if you were on a break I guess she wasn't cheating. Still, that shows she has some wild oats left to sow. Plus, it sounds like you two are using each other as the "fall back" partner, the safety net. That ain't healthy. You two should take another break, this time 1 year to maybe forever. I have spoken.
2006-10-30 14:16:43 · answer #5 · answered by Chance20_m 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you were broke up....evidently he dint want her. now she decides to come back to you. I cant say she will do it again but she did it without a condom. what happens if she gets pregnant with the guys kid. you going to do that. I say let her go. Dont let your heart make the wrong decisions for you. use your head. I know it will be hard. But I am telling you now she is going to use you if you let her. she got the taste of a new guy and its all over from here. Just break it off and find somebody else.
2006-10-30 14:03:03 · answer #6 · answered by imphilthe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's different now. Not the one you used to know. Sex to her is delicious and she craves for it. 3 times a night. Oh boy! Do you really want her back? She will compare you with that guy. That guy already did the nasty and she tasted it. Her innocense is gone. But if you think that does not matter and still love her and you want to work it out, get her back but remember like a car she's second hand. Sorry...
2006-10-30 14:03:50 · answer #7 · answered by George S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love her then you will forgive her but you were not together when she did this so it is unfortunate. I know that it hurts you but it sounds like you really like her so that is why you took her back. You are not stupid for taking her back though. Talk to her and see why she slept with that guy instead of coming to you. Also, why did she come back to you and not stay with the other guy?
2006-10-30 14:07:11 · answer #8 · answered by Michael C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were taking a break from the relationship, I assume that you were both free to date others. Sure, you say you only talked to other girls while she went much further with her other guy, but still - if the freedom to see others was specified as part of the "taking a break" deal, then she was perfectly within her rights.
2006-10-30 14:01:17 · answer #9 · answered by Liz 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
How can you really be upset if you guys weren't together? At least this was done during your seperation period. I mean, I know it hurts but the bottom line is: you guys were seperated. So, no...it wasn't stupid of you. You guys are back together now. Let it go and worry about how "not" to seperate again.
2006-10-30 14:01:18 · answer #10 · answered by shellese2 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋