Hey! Okay, I'm an 17 year old girl and I work at a Barbeque restaurant. Anyways, I work with a lot of guys from my highschool and we all get along great and have so much fun at work. The thing is though, they are ALWAYS picking on me, being sarcastic, laughing, sexual inuendos, poking my sides, coming up from behind and scaring me, grabbing my shoulders, etc. It sometimes makes me wonder if they could not like me as a person but they hug me so I guess they do? I know that this could be considered sexual harassment, but we are all cool with eachother and the same age and I don't feel threatened. I just don't understand why they are always teasing me and they love it, they seriously laugh so hard! why?! They couldn't like me because they are always picking on me CONSTANTLY, but one of the guys I did find out said I was "beautiful" to a friend..but seriously..why do they act like this??
2006-10-30 13:54:49 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
its a comfort level. they feel like you are one of them. And maybe you dont want to be one of them. you just need to tell them how you feel. thats the only way to fix it.
2006-10-30 13:59:09 · answer #1 · answered by snowteller 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have my own opinion as a man who used to be 17. I suggest first off that you NOT consider sexual harassment in the future mainly because these guy's are friends of yours and like you as a friend. Most guy's around your age are playful, fun acting, and only want to do things that make girls like them. These guy's from what you have said may mess with you but it is harmless. It is good that you are mature enough to know that too. I used to work at a restaurant similar to you when I was 18 and 19. The guy's there used to pick on the waitresses all the time almost. It was actually funny because the girls reacted and always played around too. Again, we all knew each other and the girls did some pretty crazy stuff too. They want you to give them attention seeing as how males usually seek attention and just want to be nice to you. I am so used to men being attacked with sexual harassment issues when things are really not like that and it is nice to see that you are not uptight about these dudes. I hope I have given you some good advice because one of these males may very well like you and end up being your boyfriend one day and more, but who knows? Take care, Matthew
2006-10-30 14:05:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-21 00:47:53 · answer #3 · answered by montesi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is sexual harassment,and if you don't do something to stop it,it will get worse.It is fun and games for them.Your feelings don't count when it comes down to there jokes.It it is cool with you,then why are you complaining about it?Obviously it is not that funny.Do you want to change that?Then you will have to put then in there place.Tell them to stop touching you like that,and(mean it).Every time,and i do mean every time one of them touches you,stop them right then and there.Don't forget,these are young men you are working with.They are catching a feel on your body.It is a game to them,and the further you let it go,the further they will take it.You have to be stronger than what you are with them.You the weaker sex as far as they are concerned.Prove them wrong.Don't take any sh*t from any of them.You can always fine employment elsewhere and don't have to take the abuse your taking now.You have to decide,will i stand up for myself and possibly loose this job,or will i take the abuse just to keep the job?
2006-10-30 14:24:28 · answer #4 · answered by Willnotlietoyou 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let them know you have boundaries. Being a young woman is hard because you constantly teeter the line of having a sense of humor and wanting to be easy going and then looking like a prude when you want them to not touch you a certain way.
Watch what happens when one of them decides it is okay to grab your butt or say something overtly sexual to you personally. Then when you complain, you will be made to feel like a prude. Then you will actually have to act like one from then on. Its a double edged sword, if your too easy going, you will be taken advantage of. If you draw the line somewhere, suddenly you are no fun.
2006-10-30 14:02:13 · answer #5 · answered by E R 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because they are guys, and that is the only thing they know. Look at how they are always picking on and teasing eachother also. They see you as one of them and that's good. If you ever needed anything I'd bet they'd be there for and protect you if ever needed. The only thing that can be bad is if you ever fall for one, the most likely reply would be "That would be to weird. Your like a sister to me."
2006-10-30 14:02:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys always to touch girls. So they like to get a bit physical.
But I think you should serious consider drawing a line and tell them not to touch you. Because it can get out of hand gradually.
In short, don't take these guys too seriously as they love to play with girls.
2006-10-30 13:58:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
boys are boys..
maybe you're an easy target like me..
i mean.i react to everything...and they find it funny..i cant help it either..
also it could also be because you're the only girl that they know. isnt it the same way with girls? if ther is only one guy in the group dont we pick on him too like when we are talking about our periods we make fun of him cuz he has to hear all about our girl stuff. and like.. stuff like that..
im not a guy but thats what i think.
hope it helps girlie..
:D
ciao for now
2006-10-30 13:58:59 · answer #8 · answered by cHubbiEz_ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes guts can be jerks! This could be seen as sexual harasssment but, if you don't have a problem with it, then I guess that its okay. On the other hand, if it does bother you, tell them.Concentrate on the one who said that you were beautiful, he sounds nice.
2006-10-30 14:00:53 · answer #9 · answered by toya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes this is a kind of harassment. Be carefull and dont be cheated. Its a vague term 'Your are beautiful'. Seems he wana get some thing out of you. Therefore BE MORE carefull from all of them and be silly to accept their praises/admirations.
2006-10-30 14:01:21 · answer #10 · answered by MY Regards to All 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say this but you also have a responsibilty to teach these young goofs how to behave in the future...let them know that is not acceptable...I don't want to deal with goofs like that and the oversensitive women that they antagonize in the future
2006-10-30 14:04:12 · answer #11 · answered by loofa36 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋