I met this boy while working this summer and we've been texting each other pretty much everyday. We've hung out and have a lot in common. He is pretty open with me and flirts all the time. We applyed for the same job and he even asked to work with me.
This past week, he asked me to go out for coffee with him one night. He left his friends at the bar to come get coffee with me. Two days later, we go to the movies together and he pays for me. Then we're driving around later, and i ask if he wants to stop my my friends house. He says that he'ld like to meet them. we hang out there a little and leave. once we leave, he asks if i want to go to get some food at the diner. we hang out there a bit and he drives me home. on the way home, he asks me if i want a ride to work the next day and i agree.
now the day after, he sends me a message saying he hope he knows he just wants to be friends and that i'm a cool girl. why would he bring that up unprompted after all his flirting with me?
2006-10-30 13:54:03 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hey well i think he maybe has some commitment issues or he's insecure about how you may feel about him, or he's not being completely honest with you in something. With guys or anyone for that matter you can't ever tell what their thinking or what their gonna do, all you can really do is act with your heart but also think with your head and make sure everything adds up, trust your instinct. obviously he's interested in you so i don't understand why that sudden statement, but maybe he's been hurt before and he's scared and insecure, guys are way more insecure than girls. they need love and attention even though it may seem like thats not true. my best advice would be, go with the flow, get to know him more as friends and see what happens, if nots good for you get out and if he opens up go for it, you'll feel that spark if you two are for each other, try talking to him casually about what he mentioned that could help also. good luck and God Bless =)
2006-10-30 14:05:07 · answer #1 · answered by latina ♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hes afraid you are going to read more into it than what he wants. He wants to be friends, Wants to run around with you, but doesn't want it to look like you 2 are committed. So he can appear single while he out doing his thing. As far as how to handle it...I'd just hang back, don't do anything any different. And I bet he'll come to you. He's doing all the offering. If he didn't like you he would want to do all this riding around. NO pressure on your part will probably hook this guy.
2006-10-30 22:11:27 · answer #2 · answered by Psycomagnet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means he just isn't that into you. For whatever reason, he doesn't really want to date you, but doesn't have the heart to tell you to go to hell. Women do this to guys all the time, why is it such a shock guys do it from time to time? For a more positive spin, maybe he really just wants to be friends. Platonic relationships between adults of the opposite sex are possible you know.
2006-10-30 22:10:17 · answer #3 · answered by Chance20_m 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he was interested in something more but for whatever reason changed his mind. Or maybe he just wanted to make sure your both on the same page. Right now he's only interested in being friends. Go with it and enjoy!
2006-10-30 21:57:48 · answer #4 · answered by DialM4Speed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps it's his strategy for winning you over. Maybe it's his way of "playing hard to get," thinking that you'll want him all the more. Honestly, I've never showered a girl that I justed wanted to be friends with with that kind of attention.
2006-10-30 22:02:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he likes one of your friends and wants to make sure you 2 are cool b4 he goes after your friend
2006-10-30 21:57:10 · answer #6 · answered by mr inneed 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋