So I am new in this whole business with dating. I dont know when its time to have sex with my girlfriend? How do I know. I mean I feel that attracted to her but I dont know how she feels to me. Do I just ask her? What the hell do I do?
2006-10-30 13:42:45 · 20 answers · asked by awesome127 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Next time you snuggle up and start making out take things a step further. Touch her naughty bits and see where it goes. If she's ready then she'll let you proceed but if she's not she'll stop you. Don't just ask her women don't like, for some odd reason they expect you to just read their mind and know.
2006-10-30 13:46:55 · answer #1 · answered by DialM4Speed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tricky it seems, not so tricky though, if you've been dating for quite awhile, like a few months, then maybe you should just talk to her about it...it seems kinda scary at first, but so was the first day of the first grade, we all have to talk about 'IT' sometime in a relationship. But don't assume anything and for God's sake, don't be pushy about it either. I know your hormones are just a racin' through that bod of yours, but when you finally decide to approach her on the matter, don't worry about whether she likes you or not, because if she didn't, she wouldn't be with you in the first place, I'm sure she's probably wondering the same thing as you and isn't quite sure how to approach you either. If its been a relatively short relationship, a couple of weeks to a month, I would definitely give it a couple of months at least before I brought it up, if she hasn't shown you any kind of 'sign' by then, then go ahead and approach her, but be respectful of her feelings and her decision which ever way the wind blows. Don't be selfish, your first time with her should be the best for the both of you. And don't forget your condom dude.
2006-10-30 21:59:29 · answer #2 · answered by MrBigskyBlueyes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you and your girlfriend will have to talk about it. It's not just something you can jump into, it may end up hurting your relationship. Talk about it and see if your girl is on the same page. Both of you have to be ready for that type of responsibility. If she isn't ready then you can't keep asking her, when the time is right she will let you know. Don't rush it take it slow it will be alot better when both of you are relaxed. I has sex when I was 15 with a guy who was al little older than me and it was the biggest mistake of my life. He told me that he loved me and that he wanted to be with me. Well after he got what he wanted he avoided me and only called me when he wanted it. I was very hurt! Most women get attached very easily and most guys just want one thing. So you got to be careful. If you do decide to have sex make sure you use a condom!!!!!
2006-10-30 21:56:40 · answer #3 · answered by lem 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait till you are older and have both been together for a while..... asking her would be a good start, but you might scare her off or make her feel like you are pushing her to have sex. Just take your time with it.
2006-10-30 21:45:48 · answer #4 · answered by kooimanlora 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you wait. She will tell you when. Do not force her. It may take time but the risk is more for them than us. Don't just have sex just because you have the urges. Make love. Respect her too. I know I sound too corny but your relationship will last longer because she will also respect you. I know a lot of couples who split up even with a lot of sexual activities because they don't respect each other. Good luck.
2006-10-30 21:48:26 · answer #5 · answered by George S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no rule that says the two of you HAVE to have sex. Take things slowly, and when the time is right, then you'll know. Don't worry about sex, just enjoy being with your girl.
2006-10-30 21:45:23 · answer #6 · answered by LibraT 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im young but i know...start off by doing little things such as kissing or touching...you dont wanna make it seem like your trying to force her just move slow and let things lead from there, just like someone else said No is No!
2006-10-30 21:51:12 · answer #7 · answered by Amber j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly you should talk to her about it get her views on it.. If you truely care about each other i am sure it will just come naturally. Always be safe and if she ever asks you to stop or says she doesn't want to do anything don't pressure her..
2006-10-30 21:46:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
run ur hands on her face, through her hair. see if she gets turned on. if u start kissing start making out, while your making out try to feel her up if she pushes ur hand away then tell her your sorry but shes just so damn sexy u cant help it [it makes us ladies feel good about ourselves] if she does that then just wait longer. if she doesnt push ur hand away then take off your shirt if she gets excited and can lead on to what ur doing shell take off her shirt too. if she does that then shes probably ready. btu if she calls you a pervert or whatever then just tell her your sorry a lot. really sorry. and make sure u whisper i love you to her. only if u really love her though.
2006-10-30 21:46:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey man there really is no set time line on when you have to have sex when it happens it happens. so just go with the flow and wait and see.
2006-10-30 21:47:33 · answer #10 · answered by montana_infantry_man 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋