GIRLS advice-my gf thinks she's fat?

Question

hey girls,

my girlfriend is only a size 10 (Australia) but she is now talking about getting down to a size 6......she's smart, slim and extreemly attractive and I constantly tell her that she aint fat, because she's anything but, she's the sexiest thing the world has ever seen, so much better than them models going around....anyway I'm looking for some more advice as to how I can make her stay as perfect as she is and not go down another size or 2, she dont need it...

thanks girls

Mitch

she's 17 people,
hope this helps abit

Answer 1

Just tell her exactly what u just said (which by the way was very nice) and she should understand where u are coming from. But, it's her body and if she wants to go down some sizes u have to let her do what she wants.

Answer 2

Well Mitch, I'm afraid you might be trying in vain to get her to see the light. I think size 10 is gorgeous - slim but still a little bit of flesh. BUT unfortunately many girls think that is too big. And once a woman gets the idea in her mind that something is wrong with her, it's very difficult to get her to believe otherwise. Trust me, as a woman living in a house with three other females I see it constantly. My sister is absolutely gorgeous, she always has at least 5 guys at school after her and she came in second in a state modelling contest. But is she happy with herself? Of course not. She hates her hair, her big knees, her skinny legs, her small bum, her small boobs, her teeth (which are naturally perfect by the way), her feet... And no matter how many times we tell her she's gorgeous she just won't believe it. So you might be fighting a losing battle here, probably the best you can do is keep complimenting her, tell her how sexy she looks and how gorgeous she is, how great her bum looks in what she's wearing etc. And when you see really skinny girls tell her she's so much sexier than them. Hopefully she'll get the point that she's gorgeous the way she is. Here are some other things for her to consider:
- size 6 clothes are often really hard to find. She'll probably be disappointed many times when she finds something she really likes and they don't have a 6.
- many people resent people that are really skinny. My sister who is just naturally a very very skinny size 6 cops a lot of crap from bigger girls, they see her and say stuff like 'oh my god, she's disgusting, she's like, anorexic!' so that she can hear it. She hates being so skinny and eats as much as she can to try and put on weight.
- Just like being too fat (NOT a size 10, more like 18 or something) being too skinny is unhealthy.
Anyway that's a really long answer but I hope it helps and you get through to her : ) Good on you for liking her the way she is.

Answer 3

Was she skinny when you first started dating? if so, then u should have known what u were getting into. I can tell you love her and i understand the way you feel. My BF used to be chubby. I will suggest you sit her down and tell her how much you love her, but her constant weight gain is becoming a small problem. Tell her you don't want to loose her in ur life because of such a silly thing. Both of you should go on a diet together, schedule time to workout together, use ur couple time to do some exercises . If she was skinny when you first met, let her know that you want to be as attracted to her as u were when u first met. Let her understand that u love her and want to be with her, but she has to put in some effort in taking care of her body. Expressing ur concerns to her will be enough motivation for her to choose rice cakes instead of donuts. She might scream and get angry at you for what your saying, but be persistent with telling her how much you love her, but ur scared she is gonna keep gaining weight and ull loose sexual interest. Good Luck. BTW, How fat is she that its starting to be a problem? Are you also making an effort to take care of ur body? if not, u will be a hypocrite

Answer 4

Well do u think she's showing signs of a possible eating disorder? If it's not that bad then let her know you don't want her to change & if she does that will hurt your feelings. Tell her you're worried about her & you care for her. You can't force her to do anything but be supportive like you have been. It's all up to her. Maybe show her a pic of someone anorexic or petite & tell her you don't find that sexy at all! Maybe she'll get the hint! Good luck

Answer 5

There are a ton of articles now about how girls are geting so thin that there are sizes going down below zero!The really really thin ones look gross! Many girls diet but that actually slows down there matabelism which burns the fat so dieting can actually make girls gain wait. let your girlfriend no that u dont like girls who r so thin and bony.a lot of girls just say they think they are fat so they can here you tell them they aren't. i dont know u could try talkin to her with the facts to back it up.it might help.
Well i hope this info helped!

Answer 6

well just to give u a heads u p (and i am not trying to b rude) but usually wen u are dating someone u think they are the slimest perosn there is. and then u see another gurl that is the same size as her and u call her "fat". if she really wants 2 b a size 6 let he be.

Answer 7

You seem like such a wonderful boyfriend, keep telling your girlfriend how much you love her and that you love how she looks and that their is no reason for her to change. Just let her know that she is the most important person in your life. If only all guys were like you. Well hope your relationship lasts forever !

Answer 8

Well all girls wanna loose weight thats her thing maby.Instead of telling her that she not fat you should say i think your compleatly skinny but if you wanna do this then i have confidence in you.This makes her think that maby she wrong about being fat.See if you tell a girl shes skinny she might think she not skinny so tenchniclly you doing the oppisit making her think the oppisit.GOOD LUCK

Answer 9

Mitch. It's all talk. How many girls do you know who have dropped two sizes? But how many do you know who talk about it? Body image is a real problem for girls. Just keep telling her she's perfect the way she is. One day she might even believe you.

Answer 10

well if ur in Ausrtralia then you should know in america every girl and teen is weight consinsh because, well truthfully its because of all the models and sluts tht are extra thin, we see tht and want to be lyk tht so people wiill notice us, tell her she is the sexiest thing alive and find a "special" way to show her how hot she is, good luck.