I'm a single Dad who's youngest son is about to graduate and go away to college in the spring. I'm already depressed and I know I'll have a hard time watching him drive away. Any coping suggestions?
2006-10-30 13:31:49 · 17 answers · asked by exnavykds 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
This has got to be one of the hardest things ever! But just remember that YOU raised him and helped him grow into the man that he's trying to become. Tell him how proud you are, sob a little and pray always for his safety! He'll be fine - after all - you taught him everything he knows! :o)
2006-10-30 13:34:05 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ Tracy ♥ 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Start exploring the kinds of things you'll be able to do with your freedom and his adulthood. My son is almost 17 -- in just another year and a half, he'll be off to college and while I'll miss him and be nervous for him, I'll also still be young and free from the worries of "did you do your homework" and "did you clean your room before you started playing that video game" and "no you cannot have the car"... It's not like you'll never see him again -- be happy for him growing as an individual in this universe. He's always been his own person -- now he'll be truly out there doing it on his own. Be happy for him.
2006-10-30 13:38:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Always lean on the positive things in your life. Your son going off to college is a positive thing. Dwell on all of the good things that will come of him going to college. Being sad is a phase everyone goes through. "This too shall pass". Don't sit idle, get out & get together with the guys for some sports, raquetball or basketball. Physical activity will help overcome depression. Kudos! to you for being such a great dad!
2006-10-30 14:23:55 · answer #3 · answered by its_me_horses 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah. E-mail me. We can get to know each other and take your mind off the empty nest. You don't know how lucky you are. Every time my nest gets empty some freeloading relative decides I have plenty of extra room. Like they say after 3 day's unwanted company is like 3 day old fish. E-mail was just a joke unless you want to. Not to many people on here to talk to.
2006-10-30 13:39:24 · answer #4 · answered by CuervoBMed 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OMG... I have never heard of a dad that even considers he might suffer from the empty nest syndrone...kudos to you for being a caring dad... don't worry... it be quite around the place a first... this is what we live for as parents... peace and quite and also seeing all the hard work we did trying to raise a compitant adult and finally we get to wittinesss it... hopefully.. relax and enjoy...
2006-10-30 14:39:17 · answer #5 · answered by Sandy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OMG - My sis went thru this and all too soon, I will be too. Not ready now. My daughter is going to be 16. I feel for you. Maybe join a group or something. I don't really know, but I'd better be checking too! lol
Try not to think about it too much, it will make you more depressed! Take care.
2006-10-30 13:35:31 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find a hobby. Volunteer work. That stinks, I feel sorry for ya! I know that me and my daughter are very close because for a long time it was me and her against the world! I dread the day she leaves, it depresses me to think about it now and I've got 5 years left! Maybe it's time to start focusing on your life for awhile! God Bless!
2006-10-30 13:36:12 · answer #7 · answered by *~BETHY~* 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get married and have a couple more, keep yourself occupied.
I suggest a trip to the Philippines, the poor mans Hawaii, and enjoy yourself, and maybe come back with a gal in tow, I did.
You all can just keep your thumbs down to your damned selves.
You are Ex Navy so you probably have been there already. Subic is not an accurate picture of the whole country.
2006-10-30 13:33:02 · answer #8 · answered by Paul S 4 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Look right now for a hobby or interest that you've always wanted to take part in. Find and make other friends. Get involved in your community. The list is endless!
2006-10-30 13:35:47 · answer #9 · answered by Ceci 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get involved with something that will keep you occupied. Volunteer for some cause that you believe in. If you help someone with their problems it will distract you from your own.
My son moved off on his own and it was difficult for me for a while. Then, just as soon as I got adjusted to living by myself, he came back!
Good luck.
2006-10-30 13:36:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋