After talking to many women it sounds like most of them hate it, tried it but faked that they liked it to please there partner, or simply turned of by it and find it gross and painful. While very few actually get off on it and may prefer it more then vaginal intercousre. Most of the guys I know usually begged to perform **** play, or anal intercourse with their wives or girlfriends only to hear HELL NO. Yet I have been fortunate to have meet a few women who love so much they would have been willing to put a stap-on and show a straight guy how fun it is.
This is just out of curiousity so please share your thoughts.
2006-10-30 13:27:02 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Every woman I have had relations with seemed to enjoy it, but..only after a good warm up, and they all needed to be worked up to it, also...this is the most important, the woman is in total control, if they say stop, the man MUST stop, and some times it doesn't work at all, some times only finger play...some women get off on it, some don't. As for men, we have something called a prostrate, women don't, so with women they have to be turned on, I recommend clitoral stimulation.
2006-10-30 14:26:34 · answer #1 · answered by nitronuke 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm going to go ahead and skip the nonsense of being mentally and physically ready because that's just a load of crap (no punn intended). Now since you two are first timers, I suggest following these steps: Honestly, have a few drinks to ease the pain. Most girls I've tried this with always complained about it hurting the first few times. Either can do this but it would be more pleasurable for you if the guy does this part. Lube your fingers and start my inserting one. Massage in and around the hole before sticking in a second and on some occassion, a third. Once you feel comfortable enough, allow the penis to insert in slowly (I suggest the guy uses a condom to make things more soothing seeing as how it is your first time). Let the motion go in and out gradually so you can get used to the pace. From that point, let the heat and sexual attention take its course. Also, based from personal experience, I would use my tongue sometimes to either arouse the situation more. However, this only factors in if the girl is clean and also allows it. Let me just add that it may be more comfortable for the both of you in the shower, especially for you, the female. The running water will take a little of the edge off. Quite frankly, it can be useful for sanitary reasons as well just in case there might be any problems. I hope this helped and good luck.
2016-05-22 13:38:39 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure all women are different, as are all men. Personally, it has to do with the size of the man and his interest in pleasing me during the act. It can be a great thing if properly approached...or it can be a total turn off if the guy just wants to get his rocks off and totally ignore any feelings that I may have about the issue. It's a matter of personal preference, however I know more women that enjoy it than don't!
2006-10-30 13:34:19 · answer #3 · answered by WhiteChocolate 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Anal sex does hurt, but sometimes it can be very pleasing. You have to be relaxed if your tense then it will hurt worse. You have to take it slow you can't just ram it in there take your time and use LOTS of lube!! There are probably more women than you think who like it. I pesonally like it ( for the most part). It all depends on what kind of mood I'm in. Sometimes I would rather have anal sex, than vaginal sex. If someone isn't comfortable doing it then you have to understand. It never hurts to try, women may say that they don't like it yet they have never tried it and once they did try it they may surprise themselves and actually like it.
2006-10-30 13:43:32 · answer #4 · answered by lem 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I like it from time to time. For all those woman that says it hurts, you letting your man do it wrong.You need to go easy at first until you've did it a few times.It may be a little painful the firs time, but if your man goes slow its not to bad. you need to used a decent amount of lube because unlike your vaginal dex, which ususally makes its own lube ( aka youy wet below). i put some inside to help. It acutually feels extremely good it done correctly. The biggest thing is not to go crazy ,but do it at a more controlled pace.
2006-10-31 15:29:50 · answer #5 · answered by bralesskelly 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's OK. nut you are right I only;y pretend to enjoy it so that my bf gets off. that is what gets me off to please him. I know that he loves for me to use an anal vibrator on him when I am giving him a bl*w job. I wouldn't say I prefer it to vaginal intercourse but I don't hate it either. when you are in the midst of passion anything goes. it's spontaneous never thought out.
2006-10-30 13:32:04 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Playing is fun my girl doesn't mind a finger if she is close to orgasm but she cannot take me inside her yet I think you have to work up to it. They have to be in a really rude and kinky mood too they can just feel like it, they have to be horny as. Anal is lots of fun, even for guys when they are coming. Lots of fun.
2006-10-30 13:32:17 · answer #7 · answered by Tridda AKA K.B.J.G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a girl and anal can be good
it depends on the guy you are with
how relaxed ia can be with him and how patient and gentle he is
I used to hate it but when I found the right combination I realized it was pretty fun
2006-10-30 13:33:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
anal can be fun given the right circunstances, mood and with the right partner. i have used a strap on and toys on partners. males appear to enjoy receiving it a lot.
anything else?
2006-10-31 13:55:48 · answer #9 · answered by mariecaroline43215 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Anal sex hurts like heck! And I cant do it! I am putting in the pre-nup right above no peeing on the toilet. Good luck. I hope my future husband likes it the old fashion way.
2006-10-30 13:30:05 · answer #10 · answered by vanity planning 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋