Earlier today I saw a post on here where a woman was talking about hiring a private eye to investigate her daughters boyfriend. Somebody mention the link http://background-records.net/ as a good place to find info online.
Well I checked out the site and entered my sisters boyfriends name and found out that he was convicted of armed robbery in 1999. I know this is him because the name, date of birth, and address are all the same. I am sure my sister doesn't know (and I am damn sure our dad doesn't know).......should I tell my sister or our dad? I don't know how to handle this situation.
2006-10-30 13:03:27 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Considering he could be dangerous Tell your sister and see what her reaction is. Tell her you were surfing and entered everyone you knows name in a sight and you found this and think she should know.
2006-10-30 13:05:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
DO NOT tell her : you've been spying her life through her boyfriend's records, and you should not have done that -unless you have a Big Brother Syndrom. Second: he paid his duty to the society, he is out of jail now, period. Three : this was in 1999, we are in 2006. Four : if you break your sister's fairy tale, maybe she will quit the guy, but there is a serious chance that she will dislike you also,because you'll always look like the "dream breaker" to her. Five : if you feel anxious with your sister's security, then... talk to the guy ! And if he does not seem to be clear with his past, or seems not to have changed, then start a discussion at diner, with everybody round the table , including your sister, and ask him whether he believes people can change after jail,and what he thinks of jail in general. If he is courageous and brave, he'll talk , if he is not... Well, you'll see.
2006-10-31 05:59:47 · answer #2 · answered by lorenzzzo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
id talk to the boyfriend first it may just be a coincidence. a big one i know but one none the less. no sense in upsetting your sis unnecessarily.
see what his answer is or how he reacts. if it is definately him then i'd tell her she has a right to know and to be protected from this guy because if he is capable of armed robbery then what else is he capable of.
but then it must be your sisters choice as to how she deals with the information and it is her choice if she chooses to dump him or carry on seeing him.
2006-10-31 02:17:56 · answer #3 · answered by rosierotweiller 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Armed robbery is serious stuff. Tell your sister and your father. The family needs to know.
2006-10-30 13:12:33 · answer #4 · answered by eddygordo19 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ask your sister if she would want to know if her boyfriend had been convicted... people do change... and it could be possible that he has done his time and is a changed man.. I don't suggest telling your dad though, that could just cause a whole lot more problems then help. Unless your sister wants out of the relationship and requests your father's help
2006-10-30 13:06:11 · answer #5 · answered by echofayette 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋
You better make sure your facts are straight as this could open a can of worms.
If your facts are correct, and I was your sister and you did not tell me I'd be mad a H@@@ at you for keeping it a secret. He could be a changed man, but then again he has kept this a secret from her and one must wonder what else he has hidden......
2006-10-30 13:12:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell the dad and find a right time where you 3 can sit together and talk about the situation.
If you just rush and tell your sister, she might go in denial and ask her boyfriend, which might cause trouble.
Or discuss it with your father/police.
2006-10-30 13:07:03 · answer #7 · answered by fuzzycherrycream 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Talk to your sister! But the guy may have turned himself around. If he has already told her, then there is hope for him. If he has not told her, then she will know enough about him to hopefully make the right decision. If you think he may cause problems for your sister (and consider it VERY carefully) then you may want to let Dad know. But be ready for the fireworks.
2006-10-30 13:07:18 · answer #8 · answered by Nuk.Nuk.Nuk 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
sit downe with your sister with you in frone of your computer and say look sis theres something very very private i must tell will you just let me help you with something i just found out and try and kep her cal,m and tell her its very very personal, dont tel her who its at first and te ll her loook sis this is for your own good iam trying too help you, and let her read it for her elf on your computer after the shock say sis iam so sorriee- what ever you do or how you handle this is up too you iam here for you, but for now iam out of this shut the computer off and let her do the rest you did your part, let her handle it from there but reassure her your there for her--- case closed----
2006-10-30 13:10:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell her, but be prepared for an unexpected response. Depending on what type of person she is and your relationship, she may be glad you told her or she may be offended/angry. If she gets mad and stays with him, then she's making her own decision and she'll have to deal with the consequences.
2006-10-30 13:08:27 · answer #10 · answered by ricktheirish1967 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋