Ok. I'm 15.. Over the summer, I fell in love. Dont say anything like I'm too young, just please listen. Well, here , where I live summer is may to august. ( its' already snowed at my house). So about 3 months ago, I spilled my guts to this girl, whose been my good friend since we were 7. Well she said she didnt like me like that. I suffered through that for about a month. Well then she emailed me, and said she really missed our friendship. So i told her it was just hard seein her, but promised her things would be better. They got better, I thought I moved on. Well yesterday, man I had a relapse. Me and her flirted kinda, ( she's a flirt, so you cant call it that) well anyways, all those feelings came back, and here I am again, wishing she would like me. I dont know what to do. I mean I see her all the time. This weekend, were goin with our youth on a trip to charlotte. My point is, I really love her, and i cant move on. Is thereany hope for the future?? Please help????
2006-10-30 12:46:50 · 20 answers · asked by robinson z 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Her decision is final. I suggest you to move on since whatever it is that you do in order to impress her is a wasted attempt. So dont waste ur time. One day she likes u , one day she does not. That is not life. I know what u r saying that happened to me too buddy. I am right behind u (2 yrs ago it happened- when I was 16)... The answer i gave u is not what u want to hear, but it is the truth and sooner u listen to it the sooner u will get over the situation and sooner u will spend ur time on better things.
When I had that feeling I'd like ppl to tell me to try again... BUT TRUST ME U dont wanna do that buddy. It will be a waste of ur time.
This is what happens if you dont listen:
MOnths (maybe a year) from now... u r gonna be like... there was a silly guy in Yahoo who gave me advices about this situation and I didnt listen: I SHOULD HAVE. (AT THAT TIME U CANNOT GET BAK UR WASTED TIME. )
2006-10-30 12:57:18 · answer #1 · answered by Dave 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Okay, this is a complex question to answer. Nonetheless, I believe there is an answer. If this girl wants to be with you again, after the whole 'seperation thing' we can conclude that either she truelly does want to be your friend, or she did like but when you first asked her out you kinda scared her off and she quickly said 'I wanna be friends'--which most girls often do if they are caught off-guard. Anyways. Important thing is she's back and you dont know the true reason. Never ever forget that she KNOWS how you feel towards her. If she does flirt with you flirt back, and take it slow. Wait a little time longer. Now after this "time" you must come to a conclusion. Does this girl really like you, did she give off hints or did she back away from you whenever you tried to be more than just a friend (Happens when you overflirt. Like touching her hands and hugging her---And she made a sad face or she kinda pushed you back when you did so)? If the answer is that she did give hints that she likes you then ask her out once again. If she "backed away" from you, you have a bigger decision to make. It is, is your unhappiness from her not being your girlfriend outweigh, the happiness you will get if she is just your friend. Which ever one outweighs the other--make the choice. Be clear cut, and never EVER look back. Dont even try to 'be friends' with her again after your decision. Or else you'll be heartbroken. I hope everything works out for you budy!
2006-10-30 12:58:24 · answer #2 · answered by awesome127 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have just recently had an experience kinda like this ( with a guy of course) and i know how hard it is to get over someone. But just like you think, someone else will come along. And if she doesnt like you, then there may be no future more than friendship for you two. But if that is God's plan, let it be. It helps to know that God has someone else out there for you and that they will be even better than this person. He has a plan for your life. Dont ruin it by forcing this relationship to happen. Just be patient, ,she will come around!! :-)
2006-10-30 12:54:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to step back and take a breath. No one can tell you that you shouldn't love her, but she doesn't sound like she has the same feelings for you. Try to talk to her and let her know that it was ok for a while but now the feelings are back and it hurts to know that you can not have her. She would probably understand that better than you just leaving her there.
2006-10-30 12:51:09 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you know what even though you are just 15 your feeling still count but i would give her some time people feelings change and you dont if hers will or not just appreciate being able to be with her as friends for now and if you meet some one else that you like dont hold back ask her out . time will tell you what you are to do but i would just go with what she wants for now and you never know your feelings may change too and they probably will.
2006-10-30 13:32:29 · answer #5 · answered by moe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try not to think of her that way, I had a good friend and he was flirting with me, of course, I tried 2 stay away I ddn't think of him that way ever since because he wuz immature and gross. U try being that way and maybe she'll stop flirting. Just don't push the rudeness too far or you'll never see her so much because she'll feel like your too immature and stop being around u.
2006-10-30 12:54:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love between friends at ur age can get very confusing... especially when they r of the same sex!!
Ive been there and it isnt easy!!!
Try talkin to her and compromise!! if u cant just be friends maybe u should tell her to stop flirting and sending mixed messages!!
2006-10-30 12:52:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This weekend ask her how she feels about you.
If she just wants to be friends, you have to swallow your pain and move on.
I know it's not easy because I went through that myself; only from the girl's point of view. It hurts when you love someone who doesn't love you. It takes time to heal from something like that.
I wish you well.
2006-10-30 12:52:51 · answer #8 · answered by Nancy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hah, it's like, almost the same thing happened to me, except, we weren't friends before.
Well, I don't know what to tell you. But at least now you know that you are in love. At least you KNOW THAT. If you want hope for the future, you gotta believe in love.
2006-10-30 12:59:04 · answer #9 · answered by Maus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i used 2 have the same problamo, i siriously dod not no what 2 to i just couldn't stop thinking about her and loved her reaelly badly. even though i broke up and then again started loving her it, worked out fine we just worked on our problems and now were togheter 4 about 3 years...... and u cant really predict the future....
2006-10-30 12:54:32 · answer #10 · answered by pimpin 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋