I've been dating a guy for about three months now. He says he really likes me but sometimes when I call him he won't return my calls for days at a time. When we get together we go out to dinner and I have oral sex with him and he likes it. He's never sexually penetrated me, but he now wants to have anal sex with me, but I won't bend because he's too big.
Lately, he has been very demanding and very abusive to me by slapping, hitting, biting, and beating me when I'm performing oral sex on him and ususally this happens when he's been drinking.
I think I want out of this type of relationship because I'm not getting anything out of it..But, whenever I see him at work, or when he looks me in my eyes or calls me I find it difficult to say no to him.....
He told me that he wants to start treating me better than he has should I believe him? should I give him a chance? or should I just move on?
2006-10-30 12:45:54 · 23 answers · asked by Ebonee 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like a wimp trying to be a pimp. leave him alone you deserve better
2006-10-30 12:48:17 · answer #1 · answered by Luckys Charm 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you really need us to answer this ridiculous question then you probably deserve everything this jerk does to you and if it keeps up like the way you describe it then you may even end up DEAD this freak doesn't deserve to breath, beating women only proves that he is inadequate and incapable of loving you the way that a real man does and as far as oral and anal penetration go it sounds as though he may be a closet gay, dudette dump this freak and run as hard as you can there are better men out there that know how to treat you like a proper lady and don't settle for anyone that doesn't .
2006-10-30 20:53:08 · answer #2 · answered by TrOpPo 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to move on before his twisted fantasies get you into trouble. He will end up hurting you get out now! What you have is not a relationship it's sexual slavery. You get absolutely nothing from it except a sense of false acceptance. I'm sure you are beautiful and you can do much better. From what you told us you really don't have much self esteem. Maybe you should separate from having any type of relationship until you work out your self image issues.
Please don't be offended I'm just be honest. Good luck!
2006-10-30 21:01:29 · answer #3 · answered by spirit filled 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the best thing to do is do what you want. Regards, of what people may say, your still going to do what you want. It may lead you to the wrong place but if so, hopefully, you would have larn from it. Personally, I would want more and if he his abusive now, then I know it will only get worse. You should want someone to respect you and treat you like a lady. But do you think your worth it? If so, you know what you have to do. Always, follow your first mind. God Luck on whatever you decide...........
2006-10-30 22:26:51 · answer #4 · answered by denise 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once it has started, it won't stop. They ALWAYS say they want to treat you better and stop...
You have to get out of this relationship right now.
There are so many other guys out there that will treat you like the princess that you deserve to be treated like!
I sware you will find Mr. Right. Just get out of the relationship with him...you could end up dead!
2006-10-30 20:48:35 · answer #5 · answered by GirlInMassachusettTOWN 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't want to be man or sound redundant but I risk both. I would move on. Honestly, I just met a guy, twenty minutes after I gave him my contact information he texted me. First thing in the morning he texted me. And this is no clingy ugly dude, he is an Abercrombie model. I'm a model too, and we are both into abstinence and all that. So in other words. If he's into you he'll be at your whim. If he says he likes you it means, in essence, he'll miss your fine body and your sex. Actually I like men who playfully hit and stuff, even a little violence now and then is alright. To me. But Im wierd! I like weird dudes. Anyways. I hope this is helpful. Girl, trust your HEART.
2006-10-30 20:52:02 · answer #6 · answered by Jenny A 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It may be hard, but if he is treating you like that then hes not as in to you as you or he may think. If I were in the situation I would have to say good bye and move on because no one deserves to be treated like that. You can find someone so much better that will treat you will respect and love. Move on hunny, just tell him its over.
2006-10-30 20:51:02 · answer #7 · answered by angeleyes102786 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get out now!!! Do not pass go and do not collect $200. He is an abusive man and you deserve better. Next time he calls, say NO!!! It may be hard, but you can do it. You don't need that and there is someone better out there for you.
2006-10-30 20:48:16 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Move on. There's obviously no pleasure for you in this relationship. You're being submissive to him, and he knows that if he keeps telling you he really likes you, you'll stay with him. You have to get out of there NOW.
2006-10-30 21:32:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you for real?
RUN GIRL. This guy's abusive and cruel. His actions and behaviour shows that his treatment of you will only get worse. Leave him alone now, before anything more serious happens, understand that he is hurting you physically and emotionally - it will take time to heal from his abuse. You deserve much better.
2006-10-30 20:49:24 · answer #10 · answered by shortcake 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes.. Move on, If hes hitting you, he's only going to get worse unless you stop it now. don't wait and don't try to change him. you can't. Only he can change himself.Get yourself out of there before something happens. Good Luck
2006-10-30 20:49:32 · answer #11 · answered by xoaligatoxo 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋