Ok i was planning on giving my boyfriend my special gift for his birthday but i dont want to back out and make him mad.....but he said its all up to me and respect that i want to wait.....but i dont want to seem like i cant make up my mind im 15 hes 15 too
2006-10-30 12:31:43 · 15 answers · asked by Tired_of _the_games 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
my special gift = my v-card or virginity
2006-10-30 12:32:33 · update #1
its his frst time too
2006-10-30 12:32:57 · update #2
wait awhile... it will be much better when you are older and aren't scared. You will know when the time is right. Don't be afraid of making him mad. If he loves you, he will understand and wait. He's probably plenty nervous too.
2006-10-30 12:37:04 · answer #1 · answered by tsk tsk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what you are going through. I just went through this same situation about a montha go. I am a little older than my boyfriend. I was already sixteen and his 16th birthday was back in september. We had been discussing the idea of having sex. He told me losing his virginity and having sex would be the greatest birthday present he could ever recieve. It was very tempting and I almost went through with it but in the end I knew it wasn't the right thing to do. If I had sex with him on his birthday I would have felt like I was being pressured and in a way forced to lose my virginity. When someone loses their virginity it should be special. You should feel like you want to have sex and not feel pressured. My advice to you is not to have sex with him, atleast not on his birthday. You will most likely regret it later on. Have sex and lose your virginity on your terms. if you are scared you are certainly not ready to have sex. I am 16 and I still don't feel ready. I have talked to my boyfriend and he told me he loves and and if I don't want to have sex right now it's okay. We can still have fun and be together without all the sex. We have been together for a year and we have yet to have sex. It's not that I don't love him and I don't want to have sex, it's the fact that I am not ready. When the time comes and I feel ready we will probably have sex. Until that day comes, it's called foreplay. You can certainly do a lot of things before you two have sex. And if he ever tells you that you don't love him because you don't have sex with him, he is full of crap. That is just a way for him to pressure you into having sex. Remember that the first time you have sex you probably won't enjoy it. He will but you won't. It hurts the first time, you may even end up bleeding. The next day you will be sore. My friend cried during her first time and my other friend screamed. Thsi is why I am telling if you don't want to and if you are scared don't have sex. I hope I have helped you in making your decision. I hope evrything goes well and e-mail sometime and let me know how everything is going. I am more than willing to give you advice at anytime. Afterall we are pretty close to the same age and are going through a lot of the same things.
2006-10-30 20:58:57 · answer #2 · answered by The All Knowing Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I gave mine away at 15 and looking back (27 now) I wish I would of waited. It just wasn't worth it for me. There was too much pressure and being so scared about the "what if's". If I could do it again I would of waiting till I was a few years older.
2006-10-30 20:34:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not do it. If your boyfriend really respects your wishes he will be ok with it and if he is not you don't need him anyway. It says a lot for you that you realize that you are too young. It DOES NOT make you look bad or like you can't make up your mind. It shows you are using your mind.
2006-10-30 20:57:46 · answer #4 · answered by stariei 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him anything EXCEPT your virginity. You sound like you are contemplating giving in when you aren't even sure. You're too young and why should it be HIS birthday present. It won't make him love you any more. Buy him something. If he gets mad at you, then he's not worth it.
2006-10-30 20:37:36 · answer #5 · answered by jammer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are way way way too young to do it. WAIT WAIT WAIT!!!!! I wish I had waited. The worst thing that could happen is that he gets you pregnant and yes a baby changes your world. Let him respect you more by not doing it. If he doesn't respect that then it is time to move on.
2006-10-30 20:34:59 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it sure doesn't sound like your ready at all & your both very young. Why hurry...you have plenty of time. And the fact that he respects your wishes to wait says good things about him.
2006-10-30 20:35:31 · answer #7 · answered by barbi316 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON'T DO IT! If he really respects u he will wait. Your gift is special so dont give it to anyone They need to earn it. Please wait you wont regret it.
2006-10-30 20:47:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
easy answer if you are scared then dont do it
if he cares for you he will respect your decision
think of him as well he could be up on serious criminal charges if someone found out wanted to cause trouble
2006-10-30 20:36:37 · answer #9 · answered by trader1867 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon, if you can't make up your mind, then you aren't ready.
Trust me, the time will come, and when it does, you will know it all the way to your soul.
Don't do something you aren't 100% about.
2006-10-30 20:34:24 · answer #10 · answered by sammbertt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋