i wanna tell my bf that he upset me by talking about another girl, he said that he wasn't gonna do anything with her, but she wanted his number and if he wasn't with me he would have gone for it. he has been away even though we are on the phone ALL night. now he's back he wants to make love and stuff. but i feel like he was talking about being physical with this girl so i dont feel like being physical with him. i forgive him but i dont feel like having him touch me.
2006-10-30 12:26:53 · 23 answers · asked by sleepyme 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
that is i think i'll be totally ok when i tell him what's up. but i dont know how to.
2006-10-30 12:27:59 · update #1
i don't blame you about you not wanting him to touch you. But after a while i think that you should move on after he realizes that what he had done was wrong.
Just ignore his bad behavior and
reward his good behavior i swear it will work.
2006-10-30 12:30:17 · answer #1 · answered by franklino 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow thats gotta suck. Have you ever thought that maybe he wants to get you jealous thats why he told you? Maybe he wants to see your reaction. you know like how much you care and love him and all that jazz. If I were you I would tell him exactly how you feel without an arguement.In the first place if he really loves you he shouldn't be talking about another chica. If he said he wasn't gonna do anything with her that means he did give his phone # to her and maybe even more. It doesn't matter that you talk to him all night long.You didn't know what he was doing 24/7. I know you don't want to hear this but I doubt that you can trust him.
2006-10-30 12:41:46 · answer #2 · answered by teena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you need to know he is committed to an exclusive relationship BEFORE you feel comfortable having intimate relations, then be honest and stick to your boundaries. Trust your instincts, your conscience. If you don't feel comfortable, then do not compromise -- or you will surely regret it later. If he is serious about you he will drop that other girl and any thought of that. If he is not serious, you are right -- you do not need him touching you.
I'm glad you have good sense not to put yourself in a dangerous position to get hurt. Be up front and honest with him about your emotional needs. If he can meet them, then your relationship is right for you. If he cannot, that will tell you where you stand instead of playing games. Stay true to yourself no matter what. Do not compromise what you truly need and feel, as you have nothing to gain by selling yourself short and everything to lose.
2006-10-30 12:35:21 · answer #3 · answered by emilynghiem 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
his choices are bad, and if he loved only you he would not encourage this other girl. he is using you for what he can get, and hurting you at the same time. time to end it, cause once a cheater always a cheater. i learned that when i was very young and with my first love, he cheated on me, i forgave, we married and the cheating and heartache continued until i divorced him. best to get out now before you invest more time and love in him.he is way to immature to treat you the way you deserve to be treated.physical love is nothing but lust, not true love, true love means you can trust him, that his intentions are honorable, and he puts you first.i would say he disrespected you, and if you decide to keep him get use to this kind of treatment.
2006-10-30 12:35:11 · answer #4 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you don't want a player for a boyfriend.
I don't think there is anything wrong with having friends -- just not cross the line friends -- meaning ones he cheats on you with.
Ask him what his intentions are with this other girl -- is there anything you need to be concerned about with this relationship. He needs to be straight with you.
Go with your gut instincts -- they are usually right.
But it is better to ask than to continue assuming.
2006-10-30 12:33:06 · answer #5 · answered by JB 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him how you and if he really loves you he will understand and stop. But you cant get up set if he talks to her or she asks him for her number but if he always talks about her though then that's not fair on you is it.
2006-10-30 12:33:01 · answer #6 · answered by lindsay R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess he likes dirty talking with some other girl-which makes him to get aroused and when he feels like doing IT, he seeks for you. which is so annoying of him to even think such like! if he loves you dearly, he will never treat you like some kinda sex doll. tell him cleary on how this makes you feel. he may say that your too complex or being insecure.Let him.Stand up for yourself. Your not cheap for this guy to treat you such way.If not this girl, he would find another one.So, get up and get it right!
2006-10-30 12:33:48 · answer #7 · answered by chandni 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel like that around your boyfriend, then you probably feel betrayed by him. It sounds like he is trying to see how far you will go with him. If you don't have sex with him, then chances are he will do it with someone else behind your back. Don't let him pressure you into anything. Do what you feel, but if I were in your situation, I would probably dump him.
2006-10-30 12:31:45 · answer #8 · answered by BrandyB 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of take him by the hand,and keep eye contact.Whatever he says do not get upset.Cause men r so stupid i am one.i know on my part if i find a lady i would quite looking at butts,and flirting the love factor would take over.I feel he just wants to get laid.Should it not be u then it would be someone else.
2006-10-30 12:35:59 · answer #9 · answered by hunchie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how he is. I'd say be forward about it. But, if you think he would get mad quickly then take a more smoother approach. If he gets pissy say, " Be in my shoes, how would you feel if I told you that IF you werent my boyfriend, I would've gone for him?" Should work.
2006-10-30 12:33:59 · answer #10 · answered by steven 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋