why bother living anymore?

Question

I have just been informed that I'm losing my house along with everything in it. I'm losing everything, my dreams have been shot to hell, my husband doesn't care. Why should I even bother with life anymore?

Answer 1

Death is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. i hope that you are not seriously contemplating ending your life. if you are, please consider calling a local mental health facility or 1-800-SUICIDE. This is a national hot line for people who need to talk.

Material items can be replaced. I am certainly not trying to diminish your pain - My husband and I had to file for bankruptcy 2 years ago after I suffered a life-changing illness, so I believe I can come close to understanding how you must feel. We had some hard times, but we are glimpsing at the light at the end of the tunnel...That light always comes, just sometimes later than we want or expect it.

I am wondering if you are misreading cues from your husband. Men, in my experience,tend to be far less demonstrative than women, and he may just not know what to say. Immediately after my health emergency my husband acted distant and cold. I finally asked him what this was, and he cried and said that he was just overwhelmed and angry because he couldn't "fix" me. After I confronted him directly, he opened up and became my best ally

Good Luck -Please remember that people do care, and want to help. Take whatever hep is offered to you during this time of need. This is probably un-kosher, but I don't care - my e-mail address is [e-mail]. Please think about dropping me a line so I know how you are doing.

Answer 2

Part of life is dealing with adversity. Some people lose jobs, others lose houses, many lose loved ones.

The one thing you don't want to do is to quit living because things are down for the moment.

There are many people in the world who don't have a house and have adapted to life. Starting over is more difficult though.

Maybe it would be a good idea to move somewhere where life is relatively easy and fun. How about a beach resort or a ski town? Maybe not having a house will allow you to travel a bit.

It would be great to find some supportive therapy at this time. Unfortuately that is hard to afford when you are losing your house. Perhaps you could locate some books at the local library about how to handle adversity.

Answer 3

I'm so sorry to hear what has happen to you. I know things are bad now but it will not stay this way. You can pick yourself back up again and start over. You know I lost my job and my truck got repossessed and I didn't have any money for months and I felt like giving up too but I hung in there and kept going and just took it one day at a time. I'm still having a hard time but I'm here and I am going to keep going to try to do everything that I can to take care of my family. You can do this. You can go on and make new dreams come true for you and your family. Don't give up now. Remember this to shall pass. I hope this has helped you and all my best to you. It will be okay.

Answer 4

Losing material things is a type of grief. So go through the denial, to the anger, to the reality of accepting the situation. I bet your life is a lot more than a house and everything in it and new dreams can be dreamed. You're not terminally ill or in the middle of a divorce or have lost a child or something, right?

Answer 5

Look, you are 17 years old. Do you know how long it took Alan Rickman to become a world famous actor, recognized as brilliant world-wide? 40. 40 years of self doubt, of wondering if he was doing it right, if he was a fool and should just give up, but he made it. At your age, you don't have to be brilliant at anything. You can choose to learn anything, do anything. If you don't want to be a doctor, don't! You don't have to be man, there's a million other things you could try. I don't know if you like animals, but what I would recommend is, if you do, go volunteer at a local shelter and help the animals, or maybe take in a foster. I've felt trapped in my job for four years, I can't escape it, I hate it and at that job I feel like a failure, like I've wasted my life. But then I come home to my dogs, and my cats, who wouldn't be here if I hadn't adopted them and taken them from the pound and take care of them, and I realize that that little piece of the world, however small, is better because they are still in it and because I helped them. If you don't like animals, maybe volunteer at a local school or library to read to the kids? There are many people in this world who need help, and you are obviously smart man, you could be that person who helps them learn to read, opens their mind to a whole new world. You have to find something that makes you feel like you matter. For every person that is different, but don't give up. I think your family does not realize how serious your depression is. If you cannot get help from them, ask some school buddies, or even a couselor at your school (don't feel awkward, they are paid to deal with this and they can help you!). Sometimes when I am really really upset, I log into an MMO and talk to my guildies for a while. You'd be surprised how much just being around other people can help (even if it's virtual). Maybe try that? If not, go to a place (like a bookstore or library) and try to strike up a conversation with people about something you like. If you don't know what you like, try something new, and just keep trying till you find something you like, that will give you a jumping off point to start conversations with others. Don't give up on yourself, you are smart. You are capable I can tell that just from how you type. You are so smart that you throw your own image up against the world and ask big questions at an age when most kids just get drunk and party. [Edit] Also, I wanted to add that your Mom is thinking from a place of adulthood, way past your age. To her, all the stuff from her teenage years probably seems like small problems and not a big deal. This is a common misconception that adults carry, they forget what it was like to be a teen. I'd try talking with her again, even show her this yahoo answers page. If you can't get help from her then try school counselors or a real doctor (you should not be scared or feel awkward, just tell yourself that they see this all the time, and that they are prepared to deal with it). Good luck to you, don't give up on yourself.

Answer 6

i feel your pain .we all have moments when we feel like the sky is falling on us and we are dying but that is reason for us to stop living .we must strife to make life fun or the curvballs on that road called life and going to be all that you are driving on.heres what you need to do:talk to your husband,start saving as much money as you can and if you have a car take every single thing in your house that is valuable to you,your dreams-what ever they are try tackling them in a different way.if you have freinds ask them t help you come up with a 4 month long fundraiser of some kind to help you raise money for a new house and more.pretty soon you'll see what has happended and youll see that your life has beeen worth it you lost somthing but gained even more of what you lost.

Answer 7

I know exactly what you mean. The place I was staying in with my girlf and her mom-Her mom is nuts and got the lights cut off today and sold her home. Me and my girlfriend and my 6 year old son had nowhere to go and now were going to stay with some neighbors that I don't even know. I feel sick to my stomach. I am at work now-and I know I am going to feel really out of place when I go to their house after work........ But we keep on living. We just do. Things will get better. All we can do is suck it all up and start again. It sucks but nobody's gonna do it for us. Good Luck Girl =} And just remember-someone else out there always has it worse than we do.

Answer 8

There are better places to ask that question than here, and I mean it respectfully. Go to homeless shelter or soup kitchen for a day and volunteer. If you don't feel your question is answered there, go visit people your age in a burn unit of a hospital, or if you still have questions, the children in the burn wards might be able to help you with your answer. There are many other places to figure out your question, Like maybe visiting a family the day after they buried their baby. Please don't think your husband doesn't care. He may just be dealing with your loss the only way he knows how. I wish you happier days.

Answer 9

I urge you to get professional help for this issue. I hope this is just a way to convey how upset you are, but if not again please get help. You could try a therapist or a religous man, such as a priest or Rabbi. If you are a real danger to yourself go to a hospital ER. After that, just try to think about what is actually important to you. A house is good, but not everything. When things look the worst, it is the best time for us to look at the things we have and truly appreciate them.

Answer 10

You should care, Talk to your husband, talk to a priest. It is a crime to kill oneself. I though about that before. And just ever thing in my life stop it. Life is worth living for. I take care of the elderly with Alzheimer's, and they still want to live they do not have there house anymore,There husband has died a long time a go. They still live a very good life. Please do not do that.