I am 43 yrs old and curreently going through a divorce. I live with my sister and her family and my mom has a mother in laws space at my sisters house. I have been here since May of this year. I pay 150 per month, live in a 10x10 room, cook clean and take care of the yard. Here is the problem... my sister and I a real close most of the time... but lately she has been snappy at me and me at her. I feel like I do my share but sometimes I just want to be alone. I do not have a tv in my room but I have my computer and can watch DVD's. I work at a dental office as an assistant, my sister wanted me to make an appointment for our other sister (who is older than both of us) she was pissed when i said that she needed to call the office and make the appointment. She thinks that i dont want to help out my sister! I just dont do schuduling. I get to work call my sister and hand the phone to the front desk.I love my family but they just dont understand me.
2006-10-30 12:05:13 · 10 answers · asked by Kimmy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
She is probably burned out from having family around all the time and is taking it out on you because you all are so close.
2006-10-30 12:07:54 · answer #1 · answered by fyrechick 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe it's time to find an appartment of your own or maybe stay with another family member for a little while s things can cool down before it get worse. It's not easy living with others as an adult no matter who the others may be. As an adult you tend to need more of "your own" space. You're 43, living with your sister and her family, as well as with your mother, you were once married and had your own space to call your own for however long it was. Now, you are in a 10x10 box with out any space to call your own. Can you imagine how cramped your home would feel if your sister and mother had moved in on you and your family while she was going through a divorce? I know it's not easy and there is probably alot of tension going on in the house right now but you should really sit down with your sister and let her know this is not only hard on her but you as well. You are coming from a home with everything in it being yours to a tiny little box 10x10 and dont even have your own tv to watch. Ask her how she would feel if the tables were turned. Maybe she is feeling as if her space is being invaded by sister and her mother and she has no longer has the privacy she needs for her own family. This is a very touchy situation and you are obviously hurting in many different ways. Maybe you should try to schedule more outtings with your friends / co-workers so you arent at the house so much. I'm sorry you are going through this and you feel as if you are alone. Check you local listings to see if there are any support groups in your area.
It'll all work out in the long run, just give it time, you'll see.
2006-10-30 20:46:07 · answer #2 · answered by Help Me Help You 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As much as people love their family, once you are an adult, they can be hard to live with after awhile. Even with you pulling your weight, it might just be getting to be a bit much for her, with you and your Mom there. With the making the appointment thing, for your sister, sounds like she was just being grumpy, it would've have been just as easy for your oldest sister to pick up the phone and made her own appointment. Is it possible that your sister is going through "the change" ? If so, get out while the gettin' is good. Have you considered a small studio apartment, those don't usually cost very much, if you live in the right area, and it's bigger than what you are living in now.
2006-10-30 20:13:09 · answer #3 · answered by Lovebug123 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have a tough situation on Your hands--I've been there before except We had someone staying with Us who still thought We Were not trying to help them enough but there was only so much We could do to help.
For You all I can say is it sounds like You are doing the best You can for the Situation You are in and all You can do is go with the flow and get through it the best You know how--It sounds like You have a great Job--maybe soon You can save enough Money to get back out on Your own so You can live Your own life and not worry about all the arguing and fussing You have to put up with (GOOD LUCK TO YOU).
2006-10-30 20:14:32 · answer #4 · answered by craigyc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I hope that you are saving some money because you need to get out of there! It's hard for everyone involved when living with family. I feel for ya.
Good luck!
2006-10-30 20:28:32 · answer #5 · answered by Encyclopedia Allie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You might consider getting your own apartment now. Your sister is gettting tired of so many people living with her.
2006-10-30 20:10:35 · answer #6 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it is time for your own space ,for you and your sister to remain close .family will be unhappy no matter what you do.
2006-10-30 20:17:23 · answer #7 · answered by deb m 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
get out of her home ,if you dont you will become one of the kids!!! you need your own space a 10 by 10 room would make me nuts!!!
2006-10-30 20:14:03 · answer #8 · answered by just_me_1955 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
pray, tell them how you feel, and accept jesus as lord and repent from your sins so you can be saved and right with god.
2006-11-02 11:51:03 · answer #9 · answered by Dan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why have you been there so long?
2006-10-30 20:11:25 · answer #10 · answered by DeborahDel 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋