I am kinda thinking about breaking up with my boyfriend of 5 years, we have been having alot of probs lately and i am just not feeling like we have the same feelings. I have been lied to, yelled at cursed (he never has hit me). I know that i am not the perfect gf, i know that i have been very accusatory towards him but its because he lied to me in the first place. the problem is that i wnat to let him go but i know that i will miss him greatly. I cant even stand being away from him for long periods of time. We do live together so we would have to make alot of changes if i do decied to leave him. I am so confused because part of me says get rid of him the other part tells me not to cause i love him HELP @!!
2006-10-30 12:02:38 · 8 answers · asked by njchic1025 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
talk 2 him and try to change things before u dump him
2006-10-30 12:05:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel.. It is a very hard decision to make, I made one just like it a few years ago, I chose to stick it out and do allot of talking to people and then i told him how i was feeling and the real shocker was he listened to me and thing did change. we are together for 12yrs now. But as you know all men are different so all I can really say is try to talk to him and tell him how you really feel, if you really love him do not give him a ultimatum or he may make the decision for you.
2006-10-30 20:16:58 · answer #2 · answered by Rebecca H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When things between you get bad enough you will leave. At the moment you are just delaying the inevitable. Maybe you should think about moving away; a job offer in another state would be perfect. Start looking into it now. Your relationship is going nowhere.
2006-10-30 20:07:54 · answer #3 · answered by Bethany 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to him and tell him how you feel. It may not be easy but breaking up may be the only way to fix the issue. You also need to ask yourself are you not wanting to break up with him because of the issue of having to leave the love nest that you have made. Is all the cussing and fighting worth your time. You are probably better off not putting up with that crap. Men sometimes don't realize what idiots they are till you show them and the same goes for us women. You have to make sure you want all of this crap to be with you forever or not.
2006-10-30 20:07:22 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes it's hard to let go ....but you do not need all this verbal abuse you're getting .Sometimes ,change is hard to do ,but if you know it's for the better then time will go by and heal all wounds. Have you tried to talk to him about all of this stuff? maybe if you would tell him how it makes you feel than he could do something about it. I sthis something you want for live all this verbal abuse?
2006-10-30 20:09:10 · answer #5 · answered by silverearth1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your guy seems to know that you can't do without him and takes advantage of that. Take a vacation, find a time filler like hobbies, find something that would keep you busy so that you won't thinking about him all the time.
2006-10-30 20:08:15 · answer #6 · answered by lara 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him then there is your answer. Don't leave him. I would advise that you deal with your problems instead of running away from them.
2006-10-30 20:07:05 · answer #7 · answered by Ian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to move on.
2006-10-30 20:04:57 · answer #8 · answered by cramcram62 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋