My kids are always too busy to listen. I tell them to do their homework over and over and it gets tiring. What is a good consequence if it doesn't stop?
2006-10-30 11:44:13 · 31 answers · asked by Jules 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
Oops! There should be their.
2006-10-30 12:27:58 · update #1
They are not busy playing video games or watching t.v. They have been grounded from these activities and when they can do them the activities are controlled by me.
2006-10-30 12:29:39 · update #2
They are not allowed to use the computer AT ALL. I do not think it is safe for them. They only use it for homework reasons and I have to be available to supervise.
2006-10-30 12:30:54 · update #3
They do their homework at the kitchen table. A lot of times they do it while I prepare dinner. This way I am right there keeping an eye on them and I am available if they need help.
2006-10-30 12:33:36 · update #4
If you plan to insult me as a mother by saying something like I need to grow up first then please don't bother with your unwanted advice. I asked for advice so I could do right by my children. I did not ask to be insulted. Thank you.
2006-10-30 12:39:44 · update #5
Their ages are 6 (almost 7), and 10.
2006-10-31 04:09:23 · update #6
How old are your kids?
Talk to the teacher and find out how much time they should be spending on homework each night. (Usually 10 mins per year of school.) Set aside a certain time every night as "homework time" and have them sit down and do it then. If it is not done after the hour (or however long) you set aside, put it in their backpack and tell them that they can get up early and do it after they are dressed. If it is still not done when the bus comes, they deal with the consequences at school. Don't get locked in a power struggle with them. It's assigned by the teacher. Let the teacher handle it if they don't get it done.
What we are doing with my homework avoiding son right now is to keep a chart. We write down what the assignment is, how long it should take, and how long we are allowing with extra time to do it. Then he writes the time he starts and finishes and sees how long it actually takes him.
You can try using a timer. Set a kitchen timer and allow them a certain amount of time to do it.
You can try having them do it with a stopwatch and see how long it takes.
Make sure the assignments are worth something and not busywork. If the assignment has no obvious point, the kid is likely to avoid it. Especially a bright child. Ask the child what s/he thinks the point of the assignment is. If it is boring rote work (like copying spelling words) make it more challenging/interesting by asking them to put the words into alphabetical order.
TV/computer/Gameboy/Xbox/etc. doesn't come on until homework is done.
2006-10-30 11:53:14 · answer #1 · answered by momma2mingbu 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't know how old they are but my suggestion be that they sit down as soon as they get home form school, have a snack and do it right then. Not let anything be turned on drug out to play with until you have had a chance to review it to make sure it was done properly and finished. I do this with my son and have not had any problems yet because he knows that he has no activities until he is finished, therefore wants to get it done so he can enjoy the rest of his afternoon. But the most important part i think is having a set time and place for homework to be done. And stick too it Don't let them sucker you into "well just today cant I do this first". Because if you let them do it once they know they can get away with it and will keep trying it until you are right back where you are now. Hope this helps.
2006-10-31 00:18:13 · answer #2 · answered by tlclovemom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know my children where so happy to be home from school that I could not get them to start their homework so, I allow them to have a 1 1/2 hour break when they get home from school. They can have a snack, tell me about their day or play in the yard. They cannot go to any friends house until their homework is complete. I also have a point reward system. The first child to show me all their homework before and after they complete it gets so many points. This works well for chores too. At the end of the school week, the points can be "cashed in" for video rentals or special treats. Good Luck!
2006-10-30 13:26:42 · answer #3 · answered by US Lisa 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi! I think you should sit down with them and with out anger tell them your expectations. Tell them why school work is important. Tell them that there are many things that you let slide (like cookies for breakfast, staying up an hour later than normal etc) School work there is no sliding. Ask them what would work best for them? Let them decide on what time they will do homework, but It must get done. Give them some choices for good study habbits( a bowling game, out to lunch, a late movie ) and let them think of some punishments- these must be good like 10 days of no tv, comp or games. You must follow through with the punishments and the rewards. You have to remember you run the show, they can make some choices, but you really have the controll.
2006-10-30 11:58:17 · answer #4 · answered by earinfection 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Our kids had a routine already that both my husband and I work hand and hand . after school we give them a chance for an hour to relax and do there stuff but after that everyhting shut-off(computers, tv, until they all finish there homework. you have to be firm and give time for this until they got use to it. when there are all done with there homework which we check all there homework, they could do do there stuff until again bedtime. when you said bedtime means bedtime. unplug everything and kept all the controller(TV). so that everybody is in bed. You show your love and understanding to them but you have to show that you'r e parent/s and everything you are doing is for there own good . you need your space too. they recalled that someday when they become a parents too and it will be there guidelines for there children as well. Like our children we don't need to tell them to do there homework anymore. they know there time for it. what I do is just asked them if homework done? i will check them within 10 minutes. that makes them to concentrate and spend more time to finish it. when they reason i will just say sorry sweatheart "homework first" before fun time. they will just smile. Just take it slowly or one day at the time. THEY NEED A ROUTINE AND FREE FROM DESTRUCTION(COMPUTERS AND TV, ETC.) GOODLUCK
2006-10-30 12:59:51 · answer #5 · answered by starjelly2001 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try this for a brief time, I did it and it worked. You might want to let your kids teachers know first as well. DON'T TELL THEM EVEN ONCE to do their homework. Act like it doesn't even exist. The first day they will be like " cool Mom forgot about our homework" they might do it on their own, but if not the day its due (the next day?) they will have to deal with telling their teachers why their homework isn't done. Chances are they will blame you. By the end of a couple days they will be making sure its done. There's nothing like being embarrassed in front of your peers for not having your homework done to make you not forget again. Plus their teachers will probably want them to do it even if its late so they will have 2 or 3 times as much to do. Try it. By the way, don't take this as criticism, but by nagging them about it continuously they have become dependent on you for getting it done, it's their responsibility.
2006-10-30 13:08:41 · answer #6 · answered by Wendy N 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Kids are always too busy to listen; it is part of who they are. Your kids are lucky - I wouldn't ask 20 times.
A good consequence is they can do whatever activity they want to - ONCE the homework is done. Until then, they sit there and work on it. If they refuse to do it, that is a question for a different post.
2006-10-30 22:55:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't ASK them. That nonesense people are saying about reward is ridiculous. Children are not dogs and need to be responsible for some things without a treat. Have them do their homework right when they get home from school, no exceptions at all and nothing else is aloud until it is done.
2006-10-30 11:56:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK sounds like you have tried the basic ones already (grounding, taking toys away, time out) I don't ask my girls more then 3 times before they get a spanking. I know it sounds harsh, but it works.
First = warning
Second = taking something away (toys, play time)
Third = Spanking
This is how it goes for my older girls ages 7, and 10. It's very rare you get to #3 after doing the spanking once. I don't care how minor people think the deed is (like not doing homework when asked) that's not why they are being spanked, it's because they disobeyed you 3 TIMES, for us that's unacceptable.
Just don't spank in anger, but make them count. We do the old fashioned thing, pants down over the lap for a good long time. It's very productive. We recommend it.
Best of luck to you
2006-10-30 21:11:20 · answer #9 · answered by olschoolmom 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You set a specific time and place and make it the same time every day. For example as soon as dinner and the dishes are finnished have them sit at the dining room or kitchen table and supervise while they do it. Don't let them take their books to their rooms when they come home, keep them close to the work area until the homework is complete.
Make this routine, same time every night and stick to it.
2006-10-30 11:50:57 · answer #10 · answered by nellie 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋