I'm heartbroken after splittin wiv my boyfriend of 3 years. I thought a fling would help, but now I feel used ontop of unloved. I am so low right now. The other guy has just left, & isn't comin back. I last spoke 2 my ex on Friday. I'm so lonely. I feel really unwanted.
2006-10-30 11:38:28 · 18 answers · asked by viv friend 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Welcome to my world!! i split from my partner of 4 years a few months ago and have been doing the same thing.The past few months have been a hectic/drunken/sexual party, that i have just woken up from. I too feel so low, on the floor, he called to let me know he was seeing someone else on fri, how nice of him, and i have no-one, feel like ive lost everything and feel seriously down. so whats the answer...we have to pick ourselves up of the floor, put your face on, a nice outfit and get back into the world. we must regain our confidence, feel good in our own skin and move on. We dont need someone else to validate us, we are strong and desirable so remember that. Men always ruin everything, so look at them like kids and just have fun with them, but DONT sleep with them....make someone work for your affection. My thoughts are with you sister.
2006-10-30 22:44:25 · answer #1 · answered by k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey honey, come on, it's OK. We have all been there (and if not then they will). You have had companionship and a sexual relationship for 3 years and it takes a while to get out of the habit! But maybe the guy was being used too, eh? So you've realised that sex for the sake of it makes you feel worthless. That is a good sign.....you still have your self respect in tact. Tomorrows another day, and the first day of the rest of your life. Book a hair appointment, buy a new outfit, build a new you. Go out there and hit the world right between the eyes with that new you. If you mope around feeling miserable then no one will want you. Show that ex of yours what he's missing............then tell him to b****r off!
2006-10-30 11:54:00 · answer #2 · answered by Ann 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
three years is a long relationship, and splitting up after that long is bound to make you heartbroken. you need time to get over that before you look for another relationship. a fling is almost never a good thing, unless thats what youre looking for in the first place, but it should never be a cure for a breakup. its hard being lonely, i know what your feeling, i had a relationship that laster four years and broke that off, and fealt just the same way you do right now. it helps if you have someone to talk to, and if you ever need someone, im here for you. but a fling isnt the answer. you do it because you think the attention will help you get over the other person, but it doesnt, it just makes you feel used and so much worse. good luck to you, ill be around.
2006-10-30 11:47:50 · answer #3 · answered by potato head 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Feeling low breeds vulnerability, if you want to get what you want out of life you must be more confident about yuourself.
Start with the simple things like holding you head up and putting your shoulders back take a deep breath. Take it from there and start attracting the type of people you want to be with around you.
The people you see having it all in life are no less vulnerable than you but they show confidence and gain the respect from that.
2006-10-30 11:50:00 · answer #4 · answered by philipscottbrooks 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are trying to replace your emotional intimacy with a physical one. Problem is, physical intimacy only lasts as long as the encounter. Live life with some friends for a while, keep your pants on, and feel free to act normal for a while.
This should give you time to heal your emotions.
2006-10-30 11:44:16 · answer #5 · answered by khanofali 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you did it to feel close to someone the way you felt when with your ex we all do things to get what we need just in different ways give yourself some time you'll either A: not do it again or B: keep doing it because you crave some closeness and you dont care where it comes from either way if you find option B happening more be careful and stay protected
2006-10-30 12:15:08 · answer #6 · answered by m1dget69 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because u feel the need to b loved. NOt a joke but u should get a pet the decress stress and blood pressure and cholesterol. Ppl with pets live longer and happier
2006-10-30 11:41:40 · answer #7 · answered by do you know me? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are on the rebound and still hung up on your ex..try to get some good friends around you to help you through this and to stop you making any mistakes that you regret later
2006-10-30 11:42:31 · answer #8 · answered by Brown_Sugar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Meaningless sex can be great, IF that's what you really want.
But you don't.
You want to be loved again... or loved by your boyfriend again.
That takes time.
You will be wanted again.
Put this one down to a learning experience. You may find that in a few months, meaningless sex has it's own attraction... or you may not.
But take your time.
I hope you find whatever it is you REALLY want.
2006-10-30 11:41:11 · answer #9 · answered by George D 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't ever think any of it is your fault. It's just not your time. I have had my heart broken many times, and am now about to get married to the nicest woman ever.
Don't feel guilty about what you do, have fun. Just try not to hurt anyone.
2006-10-30 13:54:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋