my babe is just born, my girlfriend she has a dauther from her last
husband,she is cheeck to her mum ,she always anwser back and shout to her mum .i do like her i want to help then i want to be a father to her .I met my girlfriend 1/6 year ago ,we decide to have a kid...her douther is 14,she do not help her mum in anything,if her mum ask her to do anything she makes a ugly face like ((( go and do urself ))) she lives shoes everywhere,her room is ashame,dirty close everywhere.Now im concern if it will affect my baby boy ,i love it so much i did cry when see him from the first time .only this girl want is pick the baby up she dont give the baby time ,she start to give a dummy to the baa with out asking to me or her mum ,the babe wasnt crying
been sense 3 days the baby born ,he cried onces but sencethen he was ok ,til the 14 year old pick up the baby and give him the dummy ,he now always wants his mums arms or a dummy.
im original from portugal and she is from northen ireland
2006-10-30 11:37:49 · 7 answers · asked by praia 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
okay, there's a little language barrier here, but I think I know what you're talking about. I think what we call a pacifier is what you call a dummy.
first of all, the 14 year old needs to be more respectful to her mom, and to you. and she sure doesn't need to be shouting in the house with a brand new baby. maybe you and her mom could sit down and make some rules for her to follow while she's living in the house with you. and let her know that she's a big sister now, so she needs to set a good example for her baby brother.
It sounds like you love your girlfriend, her daughter, and your baby boy very much, and you just want everyone to get along and be good to one another. and it's very normal to be protective of the new baby. it also sounds like the 14 year old girl loves her baby brother very much, and wants to help take care of him. and offering him a pacifier even though he wasn't crying was a normal thing to do. babies love those things. and they also love being held. your baby is just fine. I know it can be hard when you have a new baby, but don't worry he sounds like a healthy baby who has a mom, dad, and big sister who all love him and want to take care of him. this could be the opportunity for you and the 14 year old to have a better relationship too. let her help you with the baby and she will love and respect you for it. but also tell her that she can't be yelling and shouting around the baby because it will scare him. tell her that she's a big sister, and she needs to do what's best for the baby. and letting her help you take care of him will make her want to do better because she will feel more grown up, and trusted.
I hope this helps you and CONGRATULATIONS on the birth of your baby boy !!!
2006-10-30 12:41:49 · answer #1 · answered by atiana 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your wording is a bit difficult but i wil answer to what i think u wrote.you are not wrong to be protective of ur child in any way.though automatically thinking this girl will harm him is a lil worry some u should teach her the proper techniques and tell how u want it handled this baby is by all mean yours too. it is hard to play daddy to a girl in her teenage years so let her mom work through that at this piont just because girl are at there worst in there teen years. meaning the talking back and messy rooms. She loves her little brother and would never hurt him and you should know that but if it really bothers u talk to your wife about how you would like it handled fromthis piont on
2006-10-30 19:46:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax. She's a normal fourteen year old girl. Just make sure you show both children the same amount of love and respect and it'll all turn out fine. She's a teenager, she's got to be narky! It's the rules.
Oh and sunshine, english is this guy's second language. Duh.
2006-10-30 19:41:37 · answer #3 · answered by shortcake 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to your girlfriend about her daughter's behavior, then the both of you need to sit down and talk to her and find out why she is doing the things she does. sounds like she wants attention and maybe a bit jealous of the new baby.
2006-10-30 19:42:08 · answer #4 · answered by S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK THIS LITTLE GIRL OF 14 YRS OLD ITS WRONG SHE GOT TO BE EDUCATED BUT NOW ITS TOO LATE, HER MOM HAD TO DO IT WHEN THIS GIRL WAS A KID. BUT SHE GOT TO CHANGE.
2006-10-30 19:43:07 · answer #5 · answered by Antonio D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what is wrong with you.. this is too much .. you have problems with your self also..
2006-10-30 19:41:57 · answer #6 · answered by StarShine G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh my god, you are borderline illiterate.
2006-10-30 19:39:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋