Death...dealing with it?

Question

Why do people often feel it is God's fault when someone passes away? Why do we often lose faith during this time? How do we overcome the struggle?

Answer 1

People think it's God's fault because they suffer from the misconception that there's a supernatural all-powerful person who causes, or at least permits, all events to occur. '

People lose faith because the reality of evil -- especially the evil which death represents, the apparent destruction of the unfathomable locus of value which is the human person -- is in direct contradiction to their conception of God as an omnipotent supernatural person.

We overcome the struggle by forming a new conception of God which accords with the facts of our experience. There are many of these different "postmodern theologies" available for thoughtful believers to consider.

Answer 2

Perhaps God gets the blame because everyone knows he has the answers. But there is a time for everything, especially when that person has done what God had in plan, that person purpose was to do God's will. You can over come the struggle by being busy, perhaps go to Church and volunteer, perhaps help others, and feel God work in your life. There's a reason for everything.

Everything comes from God alone.
Everything lives by his power, and everything is for his glory.
Romans 11:36

God Bless

Answer 3

To relize that death is a part of life.I too wonder why some people never be;lieve in giod but sometimes when they are in their most desperate hours they pray and worship god.God did
indeed arrange a death but it is also a fact that everything that has a beginning has an end. But our conciousness was alwsys there
as well as our soul but the body was created and has an end.

Answer 4

Because people always say that God takes people when they die. How are you supposed to feel about that when your loved one has just died a horrible death. It makes you think that if that's how he wants to play it, who needs it? I think that is a very hurtful thing to say to someone when they lose a loved one through death. And it's a lie. People die because of all kinds of reasons. It's not a punishment, or a reward, or because it's written down in some stupid book somewhere and their time is up.

Answer 5

The grieving process must be understood and blame is a natural response and blaming God is safe because we are taught He is all forgiving.

Grieving Process - Phase I
The grieving process usually begins once the person is informed of the death. During this phase, the person experiences a vast array of emotions - anger, sadness, shock, disbelief, etc. The first phase of the grieving process can last for several weeks.

Grieving Process - Phase II
After the initial reaction to the death, the numbness begins to wear off and the person may feel that the pain of the loss is nearly unbearable.

Although many people may keep this painful feeling bottled up, it is best to express the pain. Hiding it and trying to "be strong" for others is not healthy. It's best to find someone to talk to who can understand the emotions and pain. Seeking help from community resources for support is recommended.

Grieving Process - Phase III
Once the unbearable pain of the loss has subsided, a person may begin to reminisce and try to re-experience past events with the deceased. Looking through photo albums, re-visiting places, and wearing jewelry of the deceased are some examples of how people may choose to remind themselves of past times with the deceased.

Grieving Process - Phase IV
The fourth phase of the grieving process involves a "reinvesting" of ones life. The bereaved begins to show signs of adjustment to life without the deceased. Discussions of "starting over" may occur, as well as changes to the bereaved's physical environment. It is not until this phase of the grieving process that the bereaved seems to be coping with the loss.

Grieving Process - Phase V & VI
During phases V & VI of the grieving process, the bereaved begins relinquishing attachments to past roles and relationships with the deceased. The past relationship is replaced with a new "memory" relationship. The bereaved begins to actively reinvest themselves in the "new" world - a world without their loved one.

Grieving Process - Phase VII
During the final phase of the grieving process, the bereaved is able to think and speak of the deceased person without pain. Although the person may still feel sadness, the pain has subsided.

Answer 6

Once people realize what sin is, the curses in the garden of Eden are, and who God is, the picture becomes clear. But as humans we have a tendency to want to blame God for the things he allows but realize that suffering comes from the world and rarely God himself. Woe to the person that suffers the wrath of God!

Answer 7

time
thats the only answer
and it is normal for one to be angry at God and loose faith
but that will come back in time as you heal
i cant tell you how to do it .. because everyone is different
but i think that the thing you should focus on is not hating yourself or thinking bad of yourself at a time like this
just know that this happens to many people and they get through it xxxx

Answer 8

Death is a part of life and one of the hardest things human deal with.

Some thing you don't get over some things you get through.

I lost (to death) my friend at 31 years old, my grandmas, my grandpa, my beloved pastor who I adored, a Christan brother,
I grew stronger and able to minister but boy did these losses really hurt.

Answer 9

probably because God is ultimately in control. usually there is so much pain to deal with, people want someone to blame.keep praying about it.

Answer 10

We have misconceptions of death. Its a door.