I broke up with my boyfriend of 3 years this weekend. i already feel much happier and believe it was the right decision. I have made him very unhappy however, how can I stop feeling guilty. he keeps saying we can fix things,I dont think we can we have been trying for months.
2006-10-30 11:17:20 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Put yourself first - you feel better off without him, so stick to your guns and think about all the amazing things to come. He'll get over it, don't let him emotionally blackmail you in the meantime though.
2006-10-30 11:19:38 · answer #1 · answered by shortcake 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well girl like you said it was the right decision you made to break up withy your boyfriend and now you are feeling much happier so there is not need to feel bad about the decision you've made just stay strong and get over any sort of feeling i guess your boyfriend is a mature guy and he will try to understand why it didn't work out between you and him....
2006-10-30 13:19:44 · answer #2 · answered by Lord Glyde 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You wanted to smack his ego down because of the way he treated you and you haven't heard back from him, so you got no "closure" in this situation. If you really want to make sure it is over, go talk to him in person or on the phone. But, you DO have an idea what is going on. He blew you off one time too many, so you left him. The end. At least you gave him notice, that is probably more than I would have, lol! I don't think you are a bad person, you just had enough and decided to move on. It's ok to move on. If you don't want to call him and finish yelling at him like you really want to, then you have to make the decision that you did the right thing for you, and just move on. He sounds like he was not invested in your relationship at all and has the emotional range of a teaspoon. Let him and your hurt and anger go and go be with someone who deserves you and your time!
2016-05-22 13:17:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you felt uncomfortable in the relationship then there isn't anything to fix. He may still have a LOT of feelings for you but if he really cares for you he should be happy with the fact that you are happier without him. Tell him you have tried to fix the relationship enough and that it is better for both of you to be single. Tell him he's a great guy and he can definately find another girl but he just wasn't the right guy for you but he's the right guy for another lucky girl. Boost the self esteem while letting him down lightly.
2006-10-30 11:23:21 · answer #4 · answered by hploser712 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you feel happier, then you have done the right thing.
A relationship is a two way thing, two people will either break or make a relationship!
Don't feel guilty, it would never have worked, as you say yourself !
Go and enjoy your new found freedom and don't let him make you feel down about a decision you made that makes you feel you better for it!
2006-10-30 11:25:16 · answer #5 · answered by Welshchick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He just needs to accept that you are moving on... You should not feel guilty about breaking up with someone if you have a good reason. Don't give in to him if he's trying to break you. It's probably for the best :)
2006-10-30 20:35:18 · answer #6 · answered by phobzy85 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When have you ever changed another person?
You can make them want to change, but they have to make the change internally.
He has chosen to heap you with guilt in an effort to make you change and come back to him. You feel that the change was a good thing, right?
He needs to get over it. You have done nothing wrong, and need not feel guilty.
2006-10-30 11:20:10 · answer #7 · answered by George Curious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if so then you made the desicion, the right one. If he doesnt understand and youve eplained then he must be clue less, and like you siad you already feel so much better, so dont get 2nd thoughts, heres something fot the both of u - time always heals the pain
2006-10-30 11:21:12 · answer #8 · answered by Bridgette ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is one of the rare occasions where you need to be selfish and think about what YOU want. You say you're happier without him: so go live your life and ignore his pleas for another chance
2006-10-30 11:22:31 · answer #9 · answered by Ollie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what baby if you guys tried to solve the problems but they could not be sloved, it is not your fault. So you should not feel guilty, move on and be safe baby.
2006-10-30 11:20:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋