I met him on yahoo checkers and everything was going great. But than the weekend he was going to come see me he had a family emergency. However since than things have been strained between us. We don't talk as much as we used to and we would get in arguements. We finally talked it out and are talking but he never emails me like he used to and he said he can never get my voice mail when he called or i never answered. But I haven't gotten any missed calls from him. He had trouble with his phone line before in which my call wouldnt go through but it's been fixed. I guess I should tell you we are in a long distance relationship but it's a days drive so it's not to bad. I've fallen in love with him which is hard for me because ive been cheated on before and it sucks and I'm scared that he's cheating on me but i just get a feeling that hes distant with me. And its always up to me to call or to message him if he's online and he gets mad when i dont. Am I paranoid or could my fears be true?
2006-10-30 11:14:30 · 7 answers · asked by jstylez1588 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What you should do is call him from a different number to see if he will pick up like a payphone or a business. Don't say anything if he picks up from the call from a business or a payphone. Then, after a few minutes, call his number from your phone and see if he picks up. That will fix the whole "messed up phone line" on his end. You can catch him in a lie and you know what, if you have that feeling, I really don't want to say this but I know what you are going through and I want you to be okay, he may very well be cheating. So what you should do is ask him up front and tell him to be honest with you and make him talk!!! Don't let him give you one-word sentences like: "No, yes, what"...etc. I hope he isn't cheating cause you seem like a very nice person and I do hope you all the best in happiness!!
2006-10-30 11:23:51 · answer #1 · answered by frakmomma04 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you aren't paranoid, and your fears could be true. I think I would cultivate other (outside) relationships with other guys nearby (not dating, necessarily, but maybe friends, so that you aren't so desperately dependent on your relationship with him). This would make it easier to take if you find out he's cheating, and make it easier for you to not be so hurt if he's cheating (or if you think he's cheating). .
lower his status in your eyes from "the right one" to. . "a guy I like and am seeing, but lives in another town" . .
Maybe you could show up unannounced some weekend to see if he's around and if he isn't out with some other girl. Then you'd know the truth.
Maybe you also could find someone in his town that sees what he does when you're not around and compare notes with that person.
I guess maybe more than anything I'd evaluate (or re-evaluate) if maybe he's the right one for you to be in a relationship with right now . . maybe he isn't, whether he's cheating or not . .
my two cents.
good luck and God bless you.
2006-10-30 19:22:57 · answer #2 · answered by Wayne A 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm guessing you only 13 or a little bit older but hon guess what meeting some one in the internet is the answer for all of your issues. comunication is most important thing on any relationship, talk to him more, tell him how you feel what you think see what he come up with for excuses? ask your parents for advises the best thing in life that you have your parents around you that's what they are here for....listen to what they advised you...good luck
2006-10-30 19:20:58 · answer #3 · answered by kevin n 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is hard to maintain a long distance relationship. They are usually built on faith and trust. Your fears are legitimate, however you might want to have a chat with your boyfriend and tell him how you feel about the situation. If he tells you he is cheating, then it is time to move on.
2006-10-30 19:17:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's avoiding you ... doesn't mean he's cheating on you though.
Talk heart to heart with him, ask him whats up ... if nothing changes, leave him ... You deserve someone's better
Good luck
2006-10-30 19:19:09 · answer #5 · answered by Nicegal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know it seems wrong, but go through his phone. if any girl is on his contacts other than his mom, aunt, & granny check on the problem. if you heard beyonce's song irreplaceable that's how you have to be. hope i answered your question. bye
2006-10-30 19:20:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
cheating or not he doesn't demonstrate that you're important to him
I would end it and meet someone who wants to call you
and doesn't make up lame excuses for broken promises
2006-10-30 19:19:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋