Is my child being Sexually Harassed at school?

Question

I have an 8 year old daughter who is in 2nd grade. She is having a problem with a boy who is also in 2nd grade. This little boy has thrown her against the wall and tried to kiss her. He told her he was going to have sex with her and today he has started grabbing her butt. The school principle doesnt think it is sexual harrassment because of his age. She thinks that he has a crush on her. I feel completely different. I think it is harrassment and the school doesnt want to deal with it. I have talked to others and have heard both sides taken.Just wanted to hear from someone that does not know either child. If it is harrassment how should I follow through, Because the principle is not going to so anything Thanksfor any help.

Answer 1

i don't think it's harrassment, it is assault. You can't throw someone against a wall or grab their butt.

Answer 2

although the childeren are very young i would still consider it assault or harrassment!
and if you are so uncomfortable with it ( which i would be) you should just keep telling the principle about it. tell him you do not want your child to be treated this way and ask him to move her into a different class, the school is supposed to create a safe, happy and comfortable environment for their students and staff, and sounds to me like thats not happening.
i dont know what the boy's life style is like at home so i cant put the blame on anyone for his actions but the home is usually where the child learns the most. he probably doesnt realise what he is doing is wrong because he is only 8, but the head teacher or principle should talk to the little boy while his parents are there and explain that it is not suitablebahaviour and he needs to stop unless he wants to change classes.
just keep trying until something is done if not there may be a number you can ring in your state you can make complaints too!

when i was 12 & my sister was 8 we were both molested notby a child by an adult who also molested other childeren in our school and it was a horrible experience for me and my sister and i wont stand for it if it happens to my childeren.
just keep trying is what i say! good luck

Answer 3

The same type of thing happened to some friends of mine in third grade. A group of boys kept grabbing their butts all the time, and they never would say anything. One day when we came back from lunch, our teacher had to run and make some copies, so the class was left alone for about 5 minutes...during that time, the boys grabbed my friends, threw them up against the lockers in our classroom, and basically "felt them up." I still can't believe this went on among a bunch of 8-9 year olds. Anyway, my friends still didn't want to say anything, so I told my mother what had happened, and she helped me report the situation to my teacher. The girls' parents and the principal got involved, and the girls finally talked about what was going on. Naturally, they got mad at me for butting in, but I wanted some action taken before anyone got hurt. The boys got suspended for 3 days each. Have another go at it with the principal and if the situation is still ignored, talk to someone with the school board. These things can escalate even at such a young age.

Answer 4

Your child has the right to be safe in school. If the school is not prividing that, then they are in the wrong. It doesn't matter what we label it...sexual harrassment or assault. It is wrong and it effects the well being of your child. Go to the principal and tell him/her that you want the matter taken care of immediately. If no steps are taken to stop this child from physically and emotionally harming your child and possibly others that you will preceed with further actions. Write a letter to the school board explaining your concerns and what your child is experiencing. Send copies to every board member if the principal does not do something.
Ask for the plan that is in place if the child does it again...
suspension
expulsion
counseling
bullying prevention
Also ask what they are going to do for your child emotionally since she has been through an ordeal that no second grader should have to go through.
Take notes while you are talking with the principal. Explain that if it is not taken care of, for the safety of your daughter and the safety of other children you will have to try and prevent it in your own way even though you want the school to take care of it.

Answer 5

I think harrassment is a little too strong of a term for children in second grade. That said, the little boy's conduct is entirely inappropriate and out of line. It should not be tolerated in the classroom and if the teacher can't control this disturbed little boy and the principal is minimizing his conduct, then I think you have no alternative but to call the police and report the abuse.

I think I'd try to call the boy's parents first and talk to the mother. If this has no effect, tell the principal if he/she is not going to handle the situation that you are going to file a complaint with the police and speak to an attorney. This ought to get their attention.

Answer 6

My daughter has had this happen and I immediately contacted the teacher who promptly handled it. It's not sexual harrassment but it most definately is inappropriate behavior that should not be tolerated. If the school that your daughter attends doesn't want to handle it then go higher. Take it to the school board. This kind of behavior needs to be nipped in the bud early on before it can become a very dangerous problem to females later on down the road.

Answer 7

It is harrassement. The sad thing is the boy does not know what he is doing and has picked the idea up from some adult. I would tell the principal to do something about it or you will take it to the authorities. Then take it to the police department. Yes, he is young and he does not know what he is doing but, what is going happen as he gets older . this poor boy needs help and from what you said he needs it now. take it to the authorities and help both your daughter and the boy

Answer 8

I think you should contact the parents of the harrassing child. This is not acceptable. No one can harrass your young daughter. That is just out of order.

I know how it feels like, as my friends daughter was also harrassed, but in Grade 8. We contacted the school prinicipal, but they did not cooperate, infact said, they were having fun.

My friend contacted the parents of the harrassing child, and he was taken to the court, but before he was, the parents beat him and he was ashamed.

I think you should try out the same, except for the taking to the court thing, thats something stupid my friend did.

Bye

Answer 9

OMG! This is sexual harrassment and I can't believe the principle isn't doing anything. My 5 year old, in kindergarden touched a little girl on the buttocks and he almost got suspended. The only thing that saved him was the fact that she did it first. Go straight to your school board office first thing in the morning and file a formal complaint. This is not only harrassment but this could turn out to be dangerous. (Not trying to scare you but kids these days...) Please do something fast!!!

Answer 10

Since it's your word against his, you have to provide proof. A small cassette recorder or digital recorder in your pocket should do the trick! You should not have to put up with that type of harassment. ADDED: I hate to sound mean but if you want this to stop, you have to make a sacrifice and get closer so you can get a good recording. All you need is one. That one recording can end this for you. Don't be afraid to stand up for yourself because if you don't, who will. Get that recording so you can move on and have peace of mind. Invest in a good recorder and don't use your phone. If you had a good recorder, perhaps you won't have to get very close. Give it a try!

Answer 11

This is ridiculous. First of all, I think it is sexual harassment, whehther the kid is old enough to understand that or not, that can be open for debate. However, that is not an excuse to not to do anything about it!!! That boy needs to be told this is a wrong thing to do, and is not acceptable behavior. Change school, the principal obviously doesn't care and is making up excuses. If this is a public school, file a complaint with the school board.