If you have a relative who is pregnant and she's only 7 months pregnant. You realize that she is very sick and that they have to operate her, but they tell you that you have to chose. Who would you save the mother or the unborn child? Knowing that she already have 2 children...
2006-10-30 10:41:56 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
God help anyone that has to make that choice. As painful as it is, you have to think about the two children she has now. What kind of life would they have without their mom? There really isn't a choice to make here...the two children need thier mommy...
2006-10-30 10:45:03 · answer #1 · answered by Mom of 3 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
This is where knowing the family's social history comes in handy; if she has relatives (and they seem of age and fit) then go ahead and save the baby. Of course try to save the baby and mother ANYWAY, but if it comes down to it, and the baby is in distress and mother has no accountable relatives, it is probably better for the mother to be saved first since her child would go to a children's home IF mother died and s/he survived early birth and whatever defects would be caused from all the trauma at surgery time. Mother already has two children.... Now where it would hurt most is the fact many babies can survive at seven months, but I imagine there must truly be situations where perhaps there has been a car accident or something and things go wrong and it has to be chosen. Scary to think of; I probably don't know what I'd really do until it ever happened to me....
2006-10-30 10:47:50 · answer #2 · answered by *babydoll* 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That is an awful situation and everytime I was pregnant I always told my husband to save the baby~so I think whatever the mothers wishe were and if she did not express any I would say the mom because she already has the other 2 children that need her.
2006-10-30 10:54:15 · answer #3 · answered by ♥ to ...... 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You would save the mother, as she can always have more children! Otherwise the 2 children she already has would not have their mummy!
I lost my baby at 7 months of being pregnant, & he was my first child... It has been 7 weeks since I had him but I am fine... I can't wait til I fall pregnant again to have another one!
Also, I know this sounds terrible, but if the mum died it would have a bigger effect on everyone compared to if the baby died.
2006-10-30 11:03:16 · answer #4 · answered by liss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The mom. The children that she already has need her. Even if she didn't have any children she should still be saved first - unless she made it quite clear to everybody in advance that she wants the baby to be saved. She is the only one who should make that kind of decision, it's her life after all.
2006-10-30 11:08:19 · answer #5 · answered by Butterscotch 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have two children and I am 19 weeks pregnant, If my husband had to chose I think he would pick to save me. As hard as it is to lose a baby, It would be harder raising three kids without the mom.
If I had to chose it would be the mom hands down. Knowing that there are two other kids out there depending on her, how could you not?
2006-10-30 10:54:01 · answer #6 · answered by tnmomof2as 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Save the mother,she has 2 children to care for!
2006-10-30 10:47:51 · answer #7 · answered by carmel_candy_cane06 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
It wouldn't matter if she had 2 kids or this was her first time, when it comes down to the mother or unborn child you pick the mother, you could always make another baby, you cant can't make another who ever she is.
That is just my oppinion though, somebody might pick my the unborn child but, that is thier oppinion.
My mom was having a baby and the doc. told my moms husband at the time, "We can either save your baby or your wife."
And he told the doc. to save his wife because, they could always make another baby.
Both of them were fine though, so that is good.
Hope everything works out for you, or what I said helps.
2006-10-30 11:00:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it should go by what the mother would want. I am 17wks pregnant with my first baby and have told my fiance that if something were to happen and he had to choose then i'd want him to choose our baby. I know he has a hard time comprehending this and if push came to shove i don't think he would carry through with my wishes, but that is my personal stance on this issue, for me. I would want my baby to be saved and go on and live happily ever after because even now i feel baby comes first.
But i could think differently if i already had children.. its a tough one... what does she (the mother) think?
2006-10-30 10:58:37 · answer #9 · answered by Smiley One 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a really tough decision. You have to decide whether you want to bring a new life into this world and let them have all the opportunities that it can and live a full life but then you also have a life that is already in progress and she has kids already who need her. Either way, there will be sadness and a life will be lost. It's something that the family needs to sit down and seriously discuss.
2006-10-30 10:56:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't choose because there is a chance that they both could be saved. Doctors don't know everything, and miracles happen all of the time. With faith, the operation and the birth of the child can be a success. Think positive.
2006-10-30 11:10:00 · answer #11 · answered by MissUrban 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋