Ok everybody has done things as teens and young adults that may not have been the best idea in hindsight but how do you handle the drug situation now if you have a young adult who is drinking illegally, occasionally alone, and possibly stealing it from work and smoking pot in the house when they think no one is paying attention and possibly other drugs? Works very part time and takes a few college classes but doesn't wake up in time to get there sometimes.
Do you back off and hope it's just a faze or do you take action and if so to what length? I ask because my significant other is going through this will their 19 year old and it is causing chaos in our house. There is also a 15 year old and 14 year old to consider
He also tends to lie or say it's none of your business if you ask anything like where he is off to or details to a particular incident
2006-10-30 10:37:34 · 8 answers · asked by Subi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
he needs a reality check....his living in YOUR house....you make the rules....i tried things in my hey day too...but i was smart enough to not disrespect my parents......i would never of considered doing any of it at home thats for sure.......
i think you both need to address this head on.....if he doesnt like it.....he should try to move out on his own and live by his rules...but lets face it.....he will have to earn some money and be responsible for himself....he might not have the time anymore to get up to trouble......
you have to be sure that the only influences your 15 and 14 yr old have are good ones...so keep that in mind......
2006-10-30 10:42:23 · answer #1 · answered by askaway 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well he sounds like a baby in an adult body and has chosen a really bad road he may not get off of. He's 19 years old...he's living in his parents home and doing adult things that are bad and his attitude and lifestyle are affecting all members of the house negatively. He's out the door as soon as he can pack. Take him to the nearest military recruiting office and hope that he'll get back on track. A 19yo who thinks like a child, wants to do what ever he wants in a grown man's body will never learn to take care of a grown man and he will end up with a miserable life if he's not made to learn to take care of the adult by being an adult. You see....he's a child trying to take care of a man. It is very very destructive behavior. Good luck.
2006-10-30 10:44:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ouch! Feel your pain. Seems so different from this side. We both know he is not going to stop just because you want him to. What I did is to talk to my boys openly and made a deal with them. No smoking in the house , if I find pot it's gone The most important was telling them not to drive or get in a car with anyone who has been drinking. Call me no matter what time it is I will come and not say a word. Must of repeated this a million times, but it worked.
2006-10-30 10:56:29 · answer #3 · answered by dettie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Before my daughter began her "experimentations" I took her on a "tour" of some of the places a few of my friends have landed, three are in federal prisons for drug trafficing, one has been in and out of jail for possession several times, can't hold down a job and is homeless, living on the streets. Two are mental patients in state hospitals because during their "youth" they alienated their entire families to where no one cares about them. So they **** in their pants and drool all over themselves because they no longer have their mental factulties.
Yes my daughter has tried certain drugs/alcohol but because of what she saw when she was younger has decided that isn't how SHE wants to live her life.
2006-10-30 10:54:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
tell him to go into treatment if not kick him out or he will teach the others, if he has not already, to smoke pot and drink too. you are at a critical moment. an older disfunctional sibling can reak havic he should be self sufficient enough by now to live on his own anyway
2006-10-30 10:50:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
The fact that he drinks alone and steals for it shows there are huge emotional problems that have not been dealt with. Professional help might, just MIGHT save his life. It all depends how seriously you and his father take this.
2006-10-30 10:41:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Smoking pot is one thing but drinking alone is a sign of greater issues.
2006-10-30 10:41:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
CHILD OF THE 60"S HERE........THE POT TODAY IS NOTHING LIKE THE POT WE HAD!! OURS WAS HOME GROWN, NO JUNK ADDED TO IT, TODAY IT'S QUITE LETHAL!! I'D PUT MY FOOT DOWN AND GET THIS KID SOME HELP, HE'S NOT JUST AN OCCASIONAL USER! ALSO SOME ONE HAS TO SET BOUNDRIES THAT EVERYONE UNDERSTANDS, ESPECIALLY THE YOUNGER SIBS!! GOOD LUCK!!
2006-10-30 10:43:20 · answer #8 · answered by mamaexfour 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋