I feel guilty that it started so fast and ended just as fast too. Now there is someone else I'm seeing so soon after the break up. Was I too hasty with the first guy? He just wasn't putting the effort that I expected and I thought it was pointless to work it out. He seemed set in his ways. The 2nd guy and I have developed a friendship for at least the length of time I was dating the other guy. And now he knows we've broken up...things have taken a more romantic turn.. He has always been open about his feelings about me despite knowing I was dating someone else. I feel guilty for ending things with the first guy and now I'm out with this 2nd guy. But I feel more compatible with this second guy. Was I wrong or am I wrong to be involved with either one?
2006-10-30 10:31:36 · 14 answers · asked by Wondering40 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like you made the right choice. If you didn't feel it was working then you have to make the choice that is right for you. If you felt it wasn't worth working out then it probably wasn't. True companionship is how you feel, trust, caring, putting the other persons feeling before your own. If you feel that with this second guy then keep going with your gut. It is leading you on the right track.
2006-10-30 10:34:40 · answer #1 · answered by vancie121 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you might have jumped into this realtionship too fast and ended the other one to fast. I think you should have talked to your first bf and told him that you wanted him to open up a little more. Talking is a huge key in a relationship. and as for the secound guy...well i don't know what to say about but i think you should have waited a little longer before you hooked up wit this guy cause who knows you might have been able to work things out with him. But from now on try to take it slow.
2006-10-30 10:37:09 · answer #2 · answered by Jaybezchild 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ah, that is why we need to take our time with intimate relationships.
Did you make a bad decision in having a relationship with the first male?
At that time, it may be seem like it was a correct decision. But now as you look back, you know that you should not have rushed into it (as you yourself mentioned). It seems that you need to talk with this male and ask for forgiveness. He may still be upset with what happened, but you need to hear him out, and hopefully healing will begin for both of you.
It is nice that your current relationship is working out. Please make an effort in your relationship. Life is about growth; stay in the current relationship for awhile before you move on. Please do your best to make it work, and communicate well with your partner.
Remember, treat others as you would like to be treated. Then there will be no guilt to weigh you down.
2006-10-30 10:42:50 · answer #3 · answered by tranquil 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is an extension of self. that's thinking the self activity of yet another as though it have been your individual. this would not precisely supply them the skill to interrupt you. you'll be able to spend too a lot time & attempt of the behalf of a lost (and enjoyed) reason yet finally this remains your call. And as for the malicious merchandise of affection, looking after somebody's activity does not mean forgetting your individual OR dropping person-friendly experience. Love is approximately giving somebody what they desire, not what they choose.
2016-10-16 13:38:58 · answer #4 · answered by bridgman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do think you acted too fast...just because someone isn't dealing with the evolving relationship in the same way you are doesn't mean there aren't feelings there. I mean would you want to date someone who acted just like you?
I think you needed to be more open about communicating your needs and desires for the first guy to open up to you....then you coudl see if this wasn't happening just because he hands feelings differently or if the feelings weren't there for him.
2006-10-30 11:47:41 · answer #5 · answered by smileshere2000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't feel guilty. You should be glad that you found a good guy, because the other one may have used you. Be happy that you've found what so many people are still looking for.
2006-10-30 10:36:29 · answer #6 · answered by Jerome E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let me ask u a ? did you tell the 2nd guy about why you were upset about ur first fella. so does he know what buttons to push for you to fall for him because he listened to what u were looking for.i do feel a little that it was too quick in between. but dont compare between two guys it isnt fair to be like that
2006-10-30 10:37:55 · answer #7 · answered by raudidave 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you did the right thing ,you are not married or have kids with the guy ,so dont worry about it ,just make shure you tell them why you are dumping them so they can learn about there mistakes ,i know a few of my exes told me and it hurts but also helps later when you meet another girl you dont do the same mistake
2006-10-30 10:39:36 · answer #8 · answered by acierman2006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's why I love my pets so much....hahaha. I just got seperated after 17 years of marriage. Don't rush into anything
Relationships should happen over time, although I know that things happen. Be yourself but be careful.
2006-10-30 12:17:53 · answer #9 · answered by Psycho 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to realize that not everyone is gong to be like you or act like you in a relationship. just because you want to completely open does not mean that the other person does too.
2006-10-30 10:33:40 · answer #10 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋