I have a 3 year old and for the past month she has become attached to my pillow and pillow case! I have a pillow case on it that I had since I was a child and it's almost 30 years old. I don't understand why she suddenly loves only this particular pillow. She carries it with her into our living room and it keeps it by her side while she plays or watches a movie. I really don't mind that she likes my pillow but I am afraid she is having security issues.
2006-10-30 10:29:30 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Oh my! Deja Vue! When my family moved to our new home after living with my mother-in-law for a few months, I went back to work and my husband stayed home with the kids. My 2 year old little girl did the same thing, commandeering my pillow. As best I can tell you, it is a connection thing. Probably a combination of many variables. It smells like you, she associates it with you, it has (as most pillows do) a comforting effect because it is soft and fluffy.
Its funny that you mention the pillow case because I did a little test and put my pillow case (also old, from my grandma), on a new pillow to see if she would notice. She went for the old pillow in a different case. Children at this age are at a crossroads where they are trying to be a little more independent, BUT they also become insecure in their own independence. She will likely grow out of this phase before too long.
Standard rule for dealing with toddlers- Don't make it seem like a big deal or she will know she has a way to get a reaction out of you.
2006-10-30 11:37:10 · answer #1 · answered by Pixie Dust 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Has anything significant happened in the last month?? By significant I mean something like you going back to work, her going to pre-school or a new sitter?? The pillow more than likely smells like Mommy and it comforts her to have you with her at all times. Have you tried asking her why that particular pillow is her favorite?? Ask in a manner that doesn't make her feel as though it's a bad thing "Mommy loves her pillow too (explain WHY you love it) Why do you love it??" Maybe knowing why she is attached will help you determine if it's something you need to be concerned with or it's just a passing phase.
2006-10-30 10:42:48 · answer #2 · answered by RAVENCRISS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son got his first pillow at about 8 months old.. a very flat pillow, but pillow none the less. He's 3 now and refuses to sleep without a pillow. A trick I used though, and have recommended TONS of times is this.. if you are concerned about a suffocating problem from the baby getting trapped UNDER the pillow, simply put the pillow UNDER the sheet! It works just the same, and the baby won't get trapped under the pillow in the middle of the night! =)
2016-05-22 13:08:06 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has attached herself to the pillow as if it were you. It probably smells like you and comforts her when you are not able to be right there at that moment. I would let her have it and if at school age she still is very attached, she will be a little older and better able to understand why she physically doesn't need it anymore. Best of luck
2006-10-30 11:19:28 · answer #4 · answered by Erin D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It smells like you and she knows you like that pillow, so she's formed an association with it. It's a compliment. If she were having security issues, she would form an attachment to something that is hers and hers alone, and would panic if you left the room.
2006-10-30 15:19:15 · answer #5 · answered by ihave5katz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's because she associates it with you, it is soft and cuddly and smells like mommy, so she takes it (and therefore, you) everywhere she goes. I read the other day that it is a sign of emotional Independence and maturity to have a security object like this, but I don't know where I read it!
Please, feel honoured and privileged that she is this mature.
2006-10-30 11:01:06 · answer #6 · answered by ♥Pamela♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It smells like you and is comforting to her. Most kids have an object that they are attached to (like a teddy bear or blankie).
2006-10-30 11:01:34 · answer #7 · answered by missyhardt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because it smells like you.
2006-10-31 03:41:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
cuz it smells like u and it is comforting to the toodler
2006-10-30 10:32:41 · answer #9 · answered by Jonathan B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its proberly be casue she loves you,its yours and it has your scent on it...she feels safe with it,just like she would with you.
2006-10-30 13:36:52 · answer #10 · answered by lovedove662000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋