I am not sure what to do. I want to keep him happy
2006-10-30 10:20:48 · 16 answers · asked by hotnsassy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I say its sex! My boyfriend and I argue about it, he says it isnt and I say it is.
2006-10-30 10:25:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Literally speaking sex is only when the penis enters the vagina. Blow jobs, hand jobs, anal sex, and tittie screwing, while very stimulating to the guy is not technically sex. But from a emotional stand point they are all very intimate acts and should be carried out with care. By the way carpet munching is not really sex either, just something to mention next time the subject comes up ;)
2006-10-30 18:26:46 · answer #2 · answered by Trevor L 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sex starts with kissing. So what do you think? Do what you want but don't fall for this line of BS. HJ or BJ or anything else like that is sex regardless of what former Prez Clinton said. You're not likely to get pregnant but you could pick up a disease.
2006-10-30 18:26:16 · answer #3 · answered by Duane Allman 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to take his cigar and go back to Hillary...
(Sorry, that's probably not the most HELPFUl answer, but it's the BEST one. :-)
Seriously, now... if he experiences a violent release of a bodily fluid (we're not talking about sneezing) and you've been involved in bringing this about, it's sex. Doing something with your mouth is called oral sex. Doing something with your hand is called manual sex. (It's usually referred to by the slang name of a "hand job," but manual sex is correct.) They're both TYPES of sex; only you can decide for yourself whether or not you're okay with them.
Now, for practical matters... You can't get pregnant by hand or mouth. You can't get sexually-transmitted diseases by hand (you CAN get some STDs by mouth).
What you really have to think about is whether you want this boyfriend to have such a major role in your life right now. Having been an adolescent male myself, I know how much I wanted my girlfriends to do something -- "well, if you don't want to have sex, would it be okay if we...?"
So you'll have to look into your conscience and your moral beliefs to decide whether keeping this boyfriend happy is worth the emotional cost to you by participating in the level of sexual activity you're talking about. Because the truth is that sex will change your relationship in ways you can't imagine -- it does that. Some of those ways can be very good; there's a special closeness about good, fulfilling sex, especially when it's with someone you are already close to and when it's satisfying to you. And some of those ways can be bad; guys in particular tend to start taking sex for granted and they start "kicking it up a notch" -- always searching for newer and more intense things to do with, or to, you in the search for their own gratification. (Hey, I still do, and I haven't been a teenager in thirty years!)
So I'm not going to say "you'll burn in Hell if you touch that boy's wiener," but beginning sexual activities will change your life in ways you don't currently understand and can't predict.
And frankly, deciding on the basis of making this boyfriend happy is one of the worst reasons there is to start having sex -- you should start when YOU ARE PERSONALLY READY to begin a life as a sexual being, involved and active and getting something for yourself out of it. Until then, it's just something that someone else is trying to talk you into doing.
2006-10-30 18:48:28 · answer #4 · answered by Scott F 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Elvis said the same thing. So did Bill Clinton. Your BF's in good comapny. Hey, if the King of Rock n' Roll and an ex president say it's OK, could he really be wrong??
2006-10-30 18:23:39 · answer #5 · answered by Add Man 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tell your boyfriend that you had your mouth and hand on another man's di**. Wait for his reaction then say, "but it's not sex, what's the big deal." We'll see how he feels about his statement then. It is another form of sex.
2006-10-30 18:24:03 · answer #6 · answered by Aidge 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's not intercourse, but it is sexual in nature. For the sake of discussion, it is sex, but only with one of the sex organs involved (either yours or his). Necking, kissing, giving hickies...that's not sex. Kissing or fondling breasts is not sex, but it is sensual and sometimes inappropriate. (And yes, breasts do make 97% of heterosexual guys horny...as long as they are well formed).
Final analysis...do not do anything you don't want to in order to "make him happy". If that's all he wants from you, tell him to go do it to himself. He's just using you for a masturbation machine.
2006-10-30 18:32:43 · answer #7 · answered by unclewill67 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does your boyfriend plan a run for the White House anytime soon??? BTW, don't forget cigars...
2006-10-30 18:27:14 · answer #8 · answered by gimpalomg 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only do it if YOU want to. NEVER do something because he wants it. Tell him if you want it go find another girl. Pressure is bad and if he cant take your no then get out. No is powerful and it can help you. NEVER do something you don't want to.
2006-10-30 18:26:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to ask the Clinton family.
If you are touching/kissing/riding his daddy parts, it is SEXUAL.
It is intercourse if you use your mommy parts to do it.
Ask yourself this....
If he went to a whorehouse, would he have to pay someone to do it? if yes, than it's likely sex.
2006-10-30 18:25:03 · answer #10 · answered by George Curious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋