Why do kids hit or kick, instead using there words?

Answer 1

I think it depends on the age of the child.

I have five kids (12yrs to 2yrs) and see this a lot. Most of the time it's because they don't understand their feelings. Anger can be so strong and emotional, yet they don't know which words to use to express it. Even if they are a bit older (5-7) and words aren't really the issue, it's the inability to express themselves that cause the child to react with violence. Believe me, I'm not trying to justify it - just trying to explain it.

As the children grow I think it's important to acknowledge when they are angry and help them find the words to express and even understand it themselves. Let them know being angry is a normal feeling and it's okay, but they also need to learn that being physical isn't the right way to deal with it. Eventually the words will come before the fists'. It's all about growing and learning.

Answer 2

This is a normal phase of development. Children who are very young do not have the vocabulary or the ability to put their emotions or frustrations into words.
When a child is acting this way they are expressing anger or frustration the only way that they know how unless you step in and help them to sort it out in a more constructive way. Validating their feelings is the most important step to stopping the action. A child or adult want to hear that their concerns are important and that they count. You may not feel the same way about an event, upset but if you can try to understand their point of view, that goes a long way. Treat your child just as you would a coworker that has had an upsetting episode. Empathize with them and perhaps, offer some solutions. Offer to talk things through (eg. I know you are angry at Sarah for breaking your shovel. Maybe we can get a new one or if we tell her mother, she may offer to get another one.)
You do not want to stop your child from expressing their emotions. You just want to help them to deal with it in a more appropriate way. This may take some time but when your motivation is loving and your intent true, your child will recognize your efforts and respond in turn.

Answer 3

Because they have a low frustration level. It gives them instant attention with little work on their part.

They need to be taught that it is inappropriate and unacceptable. Encourage them to use their words. Make sure they understand hitting and kicking will never give them what they want ever.

Answer 4

They aren't able to formulate their thoughts fast enough and get their point across so they choose to use their hands and feet. Helping them find other ways to express their anger can cut back on the hitting and the kicking. Also explaining and following through with consequences for their actions can also help.

Answer 5

It's called a temper tantrum. When they are babies, all they do is cry, and flail their arms and legs when they need attention. When they become toddlers, they tend to have an all out temper tantrum (falling to the floor kicking and screaming) to get their point across. The older the get the more they tend to understand the concept of understanding.

Answer 6

Because they haven't been taught the difference. If they never see adults talking about their frustrations with others, then they don't understand how to deal with it on their own. As a parent, we teach our kids how to deal with various emotions and situations by our example. They learn to confront problems calmly if they see others doing it, they show kindness to others if they see their parents doing it, etc.

Answer 7

You are letting your kid treat you and other people that way. You need to step up and show the kid who is boss. Because they are thinking they are. Call super Nani

Answer 8

because they have a small vocabulary and it's easier to hit than use words

Answer 9

Because they are spoiled and think they will get there way if they throw a fit. Plus...MORE ATTENTION...whether its good or bad its attention.

Answer 10

Limited vocabulary, and it's quicker.