my family has always lived in Tombstone, St. David, Benson and I haven't seen them in years . I live here in Tucson and at once with my ex-husband of 15 years was into drugs and my parents knew about and they were disgusted in me! Know I got divorced, and I have been clean for 3 years and not 1 break down. So know i have no one as friends ( had to get rid of any body that hangs with any drugs,,which was all of my friends. ..............!!!!!!!!! So know i have nobody to invite or be my bridesmaid;, what or even who to invite???? HELP PLEASE!
2006-10-30 10:15:10 · 17 answers · asked by wetherbeemary 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Try talking to your family again I think that they would want to be there and if you have been clean for 3 years with out a break down then they need to know that you are doing good and that you got rid of everything that had to do with drugs.
Congrats on your Wedding and staying clean keep up the good work.
2006-10-30 10:24:56 · answer #1 · answered by Tammy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You poor thing - this is gonna be a real fresh start for you -a time to celebrate and your without family and friends...remember you've got the most important person with you...
You say your family are in Tombstone and you haven't seen them for years - I guess that they are all against drug use - so, is it maybe time to get back in contact with them?? I would hope that they would be proud of everything you have achieved and want to be with you on your special day (no matter what happened in the past...)
Your definately doing the right thing staying away from your old friends (the drug users). Have you yet to make friends where you live ? how about people you work with and/or your 'soon to be' husband?
I just wish I lived near - I've helped organise a few weddings so would have loved to help..
Not to worry tho - I'm sure alls gonna go well....
Wishes n Dreams XxX
2006-10-30 10:34:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a sponsor who helped you get clean? Doctors, nurses? Invite them, especially since they may know your situation and want to support you in your new marriage.
As for rings, why don't you each carry the ring you intend to give to your beloved.
For cake I'm sure there's someone who can make a inexpensive fruit cake and ice it , you don't need it to be elaborate. Are you having the reception at the church hall? Or a restaurant? Perhaps they can recommend someone to bake and serve the cake.
You know many people during war time and for other reasons often had no witnesses or family to be at their wedding either. However when you celebrate your fifth or tenth with your new husband by then you'll have made new friends together throw a big party then. Congratulations and good luck!
2006-10-30 10:29:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations for making a clean start.You may not have a lot of the things that go with a wedding, but you have a man that wants you as his wife.You can go before a justice of the peace and gat married.You can check out the pawn shops for some real good rings or single bands from Wal-mart for now.He can buy you a big solitaire later.The party for the wedding can be small as you want.Why not give your Mother a call and see what she says.I bet that she will be very proud of you.Sounds to me like you are a very strong woman, God will provide.
2006-10-30 10:54:12 · answer #4 · answered by Maw-Maw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
congrats on being clean for three years. I would suggest that maybe you should have a mentor or someone who has helped you to remain clean to participate and support you on this big date. As for the cake, my daughter recently had a small informal ceremony at a restaurant, and what we did to save on expense, was to buy a 8" and 6" round white cake, and they will decorate each cake with little petite flowers of your color choice, we then purchase the columns and stacked the cake. altogether it cost me 22.00 and the cake was gorgeous. wish I could post a pic for you to see.
Also I would ask that you call your parents since, it has been so long they may be glad to hear from you.
2006-10-30 12:04:01 · answer #5 · answered by Betty B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, congrats on being clean for 3 years.....that is quite an accomplishment and you should be VERY proud of yourself!!
As far as your wedding...why not elope?
If you are set on having a wedding, does your fiance have a sister that you could have stand up with you? Do you work with anyone that might like to have the duty?
Good luck and stay clean!!!!!
2006-10-30 11:49:10 · answer #6 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you don't have anyone to invite or to be in your wedding party then what do you need a cake for? just go to the JOP and get it over with...don't even invite your mother...just elope...she'll just think you fell off the wagon anyways....no harm in that because you probably have. what drugs were you on by the way? Weed, Meth, Oxy's, Dilaudas, Zans, Crack, Coke, Hash, what exactly were you on?
2006-10-30 19:53:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
What about your husband-to-be? Can't he or his family and friends help? Wedding planning is not just the bride's responsibility. Good luck!
2006-10-30 10:45:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's ok. If you want, I'll be your friend. Do you have some co-workers, you could invite? I'll also help with the cake.
2006-10-30 10:29:09 · answer #9 · answered by sailorjupiter172003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have any coworkers you could invite? Or whoever helped you get clean?
2006-10-31 10:52:14 · answer #10 · answered by Cinnamon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋