me and my daughter's father have been off and on for 6 whole years and finally I broke up with him he is 27 and I am 24 he always lies to me and it makes me angry because why lie? I am tired of this I try to be friends with him for the sake of our 4-year old daughter but I just had it what should I do?
2006-10-30 09:56:20 · 7 answers · asked by Pretty me :) 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Hi ya, one of the best gifts to have is forgiveness, and a really good way to forgive somebody is to separate yourself from the act to remain in touch with the person.
I know this is possible because I do it myself to keep in touch with certain people.
There will always be things in people we don't like, but we are unable to change them so we have a choice if want to keep in touch because of the other half of them we usually do like, we switch off to it/separating them to the act and in your situation it is lies-in another words, turn deaf.
We all have a protective shield within us, use it so can't get hurt!
If you are unable to separate him to the act of lies and stop allowing the lies to sink in and hurt your feelings then maybe a break will do you good until you have detached yourself enough to be able to for your daughters sake, for her to still have her father, and mother as friends
I pray for strength for you, it requires strength to forgive somebody but it is rewarding when can find the love to do so
Love an' Peace
xxx
2006-10-30 10:10:36 · answer #1 · answered by WW 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very acceptable to hate your father. I honestly don't know how you put up with him! If I were your mother, I'd divorce him. I totally understand that you feel this way to your father but I guess there's nothing you can do. But if he ever were to put his hands on you and hurt you, you would need to get out of there immediately! All I know to tell you is talk to your mom about this and see if she's at her breaking point too. I wish you well! Hope that helped. I'm sorry you have this problem.
2016-05-22 12:59:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should just remain friends with him for the sake of your daughter. As long as you keep sleeping with him,hes not going to take things seriously. Let him know that you wont be going back out with him and move on. Have your friendship and see him when it has to do with your daughter and only your daughter. Move on and make new friends,,,just keep him at a distance. Its not good for you to keep going back and forth with him. And its also not good for your daughter.
2006-10-30 10:03:43 · answer #3 · answered by michelle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is give up on the guy, why put yourself through unnecessary stress. You have your daughter you should focus on. Men come and go but youll always have your daughter. Forget about him and things will get easier for you and your daughter.
2006-10-30 10:00:46 · answer #4 · answered by Baby boy blue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit trying to be friends. Just let him go with your daughter and they can enjoy their time together. Otherwise unless you have something specific to say, don't talk to him. If he lies, just go about your life (in one ear and out the other). Quit stressing yourself out about it, you broke up, and you know how he is, and he probably won't change. Just accept the facts and do the best you can!
2006-10-30 10:16:39 · answer #5 · answered by Michaela 4120 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my goodness, this is a million dollar question!!! It is so annoying and irritating when you know that they are lying. It is rather unfortunate that you have to deal with him for the sake of your child, but for the most part, just ignore him if you can and talk to him only when you need to. Good luck and keep your cool.
2006-10-30 10:06:34 · answer #6 · answered by vanityspice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop "being" with him, keep things off. you need to see him in regards to your daughter and that's it. Don't let him pull you into that void where you feel like you're twisted up inside. Let him take you daughter for visitation or whatever and keep it at that. Everything's for you child, anything else is not his business.
2006-10-30 10:57:32 · answer #7 · answered by puzzleraspie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋