if i am a naturally shy person, how do i force myself to be flirty and sexy for a guy that i am involved with. It is really hard for me, but he's the kind that likes a girl to take charge! I'm a little intimidated because he's very very experienced, and me on the other hand, im just to myself....go to school and work. He's a bad boy. But i like him and i want to give him what he wants. I was thinking i could drink a lil bit to loosen me up and then dance for him :-)
2006-10-30 09:55:35 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yeah, you definitely don't need a drink to loosen you up. Just loosen up, relax.
2006-10-30 09:57:20 · answer #1 · answered by Erin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be yourself and find someone that accepts you for who you are. If you feel comfortable with who you are with I dont think you will have a problem, perhaps you arent comfortable is what I am hearing. Why is all about what he wants, you are saying your needs arent important? I think we need to stop thinking of shyness as a negative personality trait, it sounds like it is part of who you are and you should be proud of that, try and be more outgoing if you want but do it because its what you want, not because of some bad boy guy that wants you to do things you might not be ready for.
2006-10-30 10:00:04 · answer #2 · answered by ginny c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a reason why he likes you. And maybe it is that your shy. Maybe hes sick of the girls he used 2 date. So think about that, instead of trying to change yourself for a guy. That never works out in the end
2006-10-30 10:00:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anoukens 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sounds like a sure ,bet to me ,better yet try it in the mirror some before I know it sounds a little nuts ,but just like stage fright it will help you to not be so nervouse kinda like dress rehersal. Good Luck!
2006-10-30 09:59:49 · answer #4 · answered by Alicia S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not EVER force yourself to be someone you are not. A guy should like you for who you are and not expect you to be someone that you are uncomfortable pretending to be. Stay true and know that some guys do like girls that are a little shy. Beleive me he is NOT worth it!!!
2006-10-30 09:58:43 · answer #5 · answered by simon283 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to be confident so bring out the best in your self to look good and go for it. I dont know about the drinking part only if you know your limits if not try not to make an *** out of your self .Dont give him the wrong impression.
2006-10-30 10:03:36 · answer #6 · answered by CALI GIRL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont ever try to be something you not (im not trying to be rude) but you will feel very unfomfortable and dont do something your not ready for. If he expects something your not willing to give then leave him. He is not worth it. Trust me
2006-10-30 10:08:41 · answer #7 · answered by C-Unit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i got over shyness 4 a guy, then we broke up, but im not shy anymore
2006-10-30 09:58:08 · answer #8 · answered by lalalala 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think you should drink to loosen up. i think that if ur not outgoing around that person than you may not like them as much as you think you do.
2006-10-30 10:00:11 · answer #9 · answered by Angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself be yourself be yourself hey just be yourself. If he doesn't like you for who you are then its not a relationship worth pursuing.
2006-10-30 10:03:01 · answer #10 · answered by BluLizard 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋