Last time I went to a holiday with my family (aunts uncles etc....) I was shunned out and made to feel like I was trash....Now that my grandparents are getting older I feel bad about not going and have been thinking that I might go. I am not sure if I really want to go and have that happen again. But then again my family might has grown up and might have matured (so have I ). Well anyway I was wondering if I should go....I have since gotten married and My family has never meant him. But like I said I am not sure and I would like some help.....Any advice would help...
2006-10-30 09:38:48 · 15 answers · asked by babydove1821 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Well my grandparents are having Thanksgiving at there house before they go to Flordia.
2006-10-30 09:43:03 · update #1
Sounds like you have grown up & matured, hopefully your family has done the same. Since you ask at all, sounds like you really do want to go. Once your grandparents are no longer around, it will be too late. Go, enjoy yourself, show your family your confidence in yourself & in your life now. It is easy to be stubborn & hold grudges, it takes a mature person to let go & show others how to show respect for for each other.
2006-10-30 11:58:30 · answer #1 · answered by pinktabbie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To me, a holiday should be enjoyable and relaxing. It doesn't sound like a holiday with your family would be either of those. However, if this is your only opportunity to see your grandparents, and you really want to see them, why not take the high road and be there specifically for them? Let your other family bs roll off your back...like water off a duck. On the other hand, if your family is all about spewing poison, you are under no obligation to keep them in your life... Is there any other way you could spend some time with your grandparents without the rest of your family around?
2006-10-30 17:42:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is too very short to hold grudges and when your grandparents are gone you will regret that you weren't there for the "good times". But no matter what choice you make you must make yourself happy. You will know what to do when the time comes. I hate Holidays because they are like "duty days" so good time should be spent with the people you care about on any day that you choose. Good Luck
2006-10-30 17:45:58 · answer #3 · answered by Maggie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been there, my husband's mother married a man who sexually molested two little girls about 10 years ago, went to prison and then got out, didnt tell any one, then married his mom. Well when we found out we refused to have any holidays with them, as we have 3 young daughters.
Well problem is they still have holidays with the rest of his family.
this is how we solved this:
we now have holidays with his grandmother at a different time, it is much more special as the girls have her all to themselves, it really is great.
It is a shame that there are people in your family that make you feel that way, but dont let them keep you away from the ones youlove!
2006-10-30 17:42:56 · answer #4 · answered by stephaniencurtis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go, This has happened to me when I was 16, since then I have made somewhat of ammense with my dad and have gotten so close with my step mom, My son (now 2) im 26 now....deserves grandparents, and they are so happy to be a part of his and my life now.....You'll feel more complete for it! I promise, and if it dosent work out, you will not have to wonder !
2006-10-30 17:43:02 · answer #5 · answered by crystald 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should go, but have a good excuse ready to leave early if you need to. Maybe you could see your grandparents alone some other time if it gets to be too much for you.
2006-10-30 17:57:55 · answer #6 · answered by lucy02 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have your husband be there with you and if they act rude tell your grandparents that you love them and then leave at least that way you get to see them and not feel force to stay when people are being mean and disrespectful towards you
2006-10-30 17:40:37 · answer #7 · answered by AngelVirgo9206 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I think you should go. Be the larger person, have poise and only dispute the issues that you feel strongly about. Show them you have matured, have a sense of humor, introduce your new husband with pride and demonstrate your integrity.
2006-10-30 17:42:08 · answer #8 · answered by smecky809042003 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go, but if things get bad, then just leave. Just tell them that you're leaving in a nice way and give your grandparents love.
2006-10-30 17:49:00 · answer #9 · answered by khaileebaby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to focus on your family (being married) more than your family that you grew up with! Whatever issues come up, they will be resolved somehow!! Stop harboring about the past & move forward!!
2006-10-30 17:42:29 · answer #10 · answered by redirishactress 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋