Been with my girlfriend for 9 months, I love you so much and truly believe she is my one and she believes that also. I lied to her over something stupid in a few months. i said i was going somewhere, where i ended up going out with the guys. She doesnt trust me now for anything and I think she is about to break things apart with us cause she says she loves me, but she cant trust me 100 percent. Do you have any suggestions what to say or anything?? I cant lose her, she means so much to me and we are planning a future together....
2006-10-30 09:29:40 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Show her that you truly care about her. Give her something nice and sincerely apologize to her. DON'T LIE TO HER AGAIN!
2006-10-30 09:33:02 · answer #1 · answered by adviceguy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll have to wait it out. My boyfriend lied to me a year ago and I'm still kind of leery. Look at it from her point of view, if you had to lie about something so small, what will you lie about when something major happens.
Give it time and don't lie anymore. If something strange or embarrassing happens have proof to back it up and tell her the story whether it affects her directly or not. This will reinforce the fact that you are truthful and willing to share even your embarrassment.
Oh, and don't make trust a topic of conversation as it arouses suspicion
2006-10-30 09:37:41 · answer #2 · answered by tien_kou 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her what you just wrote. You can't lie to someone and expect them to believe you all of a sudden. You have to earn her trust! And she's right, you shouldn't be with someone if you can't trust them. What kind of relationship is that? It's always better to tell the truth because your lies will always come out and it's worse that way...
2006-10-30 09:33:39 · answer #3 · answered by Lexy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first i don't think that's a lie i think things change all the time but it depends if you called her or not and i am guessing you did not. Now on what to it is hard cause some girls when they get in that thought process there is no Way out well other you just need to sit down and work on it with them i would need to know more to Say more sorry.
2006-10-30 09:33:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just say that u like her n that it would be kinda sily to break up over something so trivial as this, but ure gonna have to make it up to her for liein, take her out on a romantic night out n show her that u r truly sorry for what u have done, n say that it will never happen again. n u shouldnt have to lie to her when u want to go hang out with the guys instead of herm she should understand that u need to hang out with the guys sometimes, n explain this to her nicely, but then say there will always make time for use, then u should be good again
2006-10-30 09:34:50 · answer #5 · answered by snooppoopaloop69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds insecure and unforgiving unless you have given her some other reason not to trust you. You might be better off without her if she has to keep tabs on you every single second of every day.
2006-10-30 09:32:04 · answer #6 · answered by smecky809042003 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
next time dont lie and especially if its something stupid a relationship is built on trust and if you cant trust someone 100% then theres always douts
2006-10-30 09:32:19 · answer #7 · answered by lost_in_love_still 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her the truth you obviously know you killed it by lying to her dont mess it up ask her for a chance to show her you wont do any more stupid stuff its hard to gain someones trust but if she really loves you she will give you that chance right?
2006-10-30 09:39:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls do that sometimes... I remember one of my relationships I had a few years back... My girlfriend all of a sudden got mad at me, and every time I asked her what she did she just said, "You know what you did!" So I apologize for whatever it was, and she didn't believe me 0_o Ends up I didn't do anything, and she just wanted to dump me *sigh* Girls....
2016-05-22 12:54:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her if she will give you another chance and tell her that you are willing to earn her trust back. Don't lie to her again.
2006-10-30 09:32:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋