Ever since my divorce I haven't been attending family functions on my dad's side (6 years ago). Right after I left my ex, I hadn't told anyone but my mom told my aunt the night I went to visit my dying grandfather. The aunt asked me questions about my ex (what was I cooking for him, what was he doing tonight) in front of my grandfather. I told the truth but did not let on that we were seperating because my grandfather had less than a week and didn't want him to worry. After her questions, my aunt made me leave the room (can't remember the reason) and when the door opened again I saw my grandfather's face. She had told him. He died the next day.
The rest of the family acted funny around me at family gatherings afterwards & I felt like they were all gossiping. Next weekend is my brother's wedding shower. I know they will want to come see my house since it is a few miles away--what should I do? Be polite and give in or stand firm and if they don't like it, time to alienate?
2006-10-30 09:29:36 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
They have always been snooty and gossipy and my evil aunt has done more questionable things than just the above mentioned. I don't care to spend my time with insincere people...that side of the family is a lot of gossip, judgement, and indifference to anyone who isn't like them. My parents still have to live in the same town as them and my brother is maintaining a relationship so I am not sure how to handle this situation.
2006-10-30 09:33:48 · update #1
Oh, the mentioned shower is near my house, which they have never been to because it's a few years old. I am very proud of my home but even to show it off does not appeal to me. I could care less about making anyone else happy with my life. I am just not sure how to get out of getting asked for them to all come by. Did I survive cancer just to put up with this BLEEP?
2006-10-30 09:37:14 · update #2
I don't see that you have done anything wrong. I do think that your aunt was very wrong for telling your grandfather anything. Maybe you could try talking to your family about everything,but if they keep gossiping and acting the way they do ,I would keep my distance. Good luck
2006-10-30 09:40:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you should have done was tell your aunt she had no business telling your grandfather that kind of news.
Couples separate, sometimes thats just part of life. Why they are treating you like your wearing a scarlet letter is beyond me. You have nothing to defend. It happened, period. The details are really none of thier business. If your comfortable enough to invite them over, then do so. But if it conversations turn to your marriage, tell them you dont wish to discuss it and change the subject.
I read your additional details. I too have family that I dont associate with because I dont agree with how they live (involved with gangs). You dont have to involve yourself with them just ebcause anyone else does. Be strong, and if necessary, tell them if they cant say anything positive, then you have no intention of sticking around to listen.
2006-10-30 17:33:48 · answer #2 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With family like that you have to stand your ground and speak your mind. If they dont like your house tell them when they give you money to get you a next one then they could complain but other than that shut up and mind your business.
2006-10-30 17:36:40 · answer #3 · answered by baby_luv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This kind of thing happens to people everyday. People DO split
up and life goes on. Their adults, they know this. Besides it is your life, and if it bothers them, well that is on them. Keep your head up dear. Sincerely, Jerry
2006-10-30 17:35:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say stand firm and if they dont like it tough they obviously have no consideration about your feelings so why bother they dont.
2006-10-30 17:34:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi, just keep a stiff upper lip:) :) :)
2006-10-30 17:33:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋