im with som1 new now who is great. but my ex is always popping up in the background peeing me off.. he treated me very very bad.. n i left him. but coz he hurt me n my son so much n when we left we left with nothing... i feel so angry at times n want to get back at him somehow .... just to hurt him somwhat back ... he even made my name mud after id left with every1 who new me... do i go n get revenge or just put it behind me ? coz im finding it hard to forget... please help me sort this so i can move on with my new guy in peace c x
2006-10-30 09:28:55 · 31 answers · asked by cathrin j 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Living in peace with your new guy is revenge enough. Your ex is still pissed off cause hes a jerk and realized that he lost a good thing. Dont worry about him and dont waste your time and energy trying to get back at him. He really isnt worth it. When your with your guy and your ex is around, hold your guy and show him how much you care about him. That alone should be enough to get back at your ex. Good Luck.
2006-10-30 09:47:58 · answer #1 · answered by Baby boy blue 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Don't listen to these other people! It's so obvious what you have have to do that you shouldn't even have to ask. GET REVENGE!!
Remember, be creative. Think about what you want to acheive and carefully plan how you can get the desired results. This is something you need to work out for yourself, but here are a few pointers
Make sure it's something that causes maximum humiliation, preferably pubically. You know this guy better, so you should know his weak spots, but usually the best thing to target on a guy is his masculinity and sexual ability, and if you can add an element of homosexuality to the humiliation, that would be even better. The key is to have an end result that wont be forgotten by people he knows for a long time, something that makes others around him laugh always works well. I've taken revenge on someone where the humiliation spawned a nickname that's still used today (almost 10 years later) and still causes hysterical laugher.
Find an accomplice. Your current boyfriend may not be a good choice for this as he may find it uncomfortable seeing as it is you ex, but if this ex is annoying him too he might help. The best accomplice would be a female friend of yours, particularly one who is attractive. Us guys are suckers for a pretty girl, so if you have a willing female friend she would make ideal bait.
Once you have a plan, think things through very carefully. Depending on what you have in store for him, you need to make sure he doesn't see it coming and that you know how he is going to react. The best plans are where the victim reacts is such a way that he ends up making things worse for himself.
The rest is up to you. Remeber, make it original and funny, that while the humiliation will last longer.
Good luck, and if you can, let us know how it goes ;)
2006-10-30 10:39:26 · answer #2 · answered by DJ Rizla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been in a similar situation. Married women stole my husband. (Ok so he's an asshole too). I found out where she worked and wanted to confront her and embarras the **** in front of all who knew her. I got some good advice from my now new boyfriend - Don't lower yourself to their level. Revenge would be sweet I know, but the best revenge is to get on with your new life, and be happy. You also have a son to think of. Imagine what he would think of you doing the same as his dad! Keep your side clean, your concience free, and enjoy your new chap. Besides, your new man may not like you too much if you become a vindictive bird. Leave it alone and be happy. That is the BEST revenge ever. My X hubby has since lost the floozy back to HER husband, I have a wonderful boyfriend, and it's killing him!!
2006-10-30 18:18:52 · answer #3 · answered by dragonfly 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I was badly hurt by my ex boyfriend too, i often thought how i could hurt him, but it has been 3 months now and i have not done a thing.
I think to my self what is the point of doing anything, i will than give him the thought that he got to me and to me that would make him feel proud that he has some affect on me.
But than by me not doing anything i have recently heard that he felt that he had no affect on me at all. I think that bugged him more thinking that he did not get to me anyway.
I would walk away at least you can hold your head high and carry on with your life i would not give him the satisfaction of letting him know how he made you feel
good luck and forget him, You have found your revenge by being happy with someone else. Now just be happy yourself that is all the revenge that you need
smile girl
2006-10-30 09:55:56 · answer #4 · answered by blondegirl 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
The best way to get revenge on somebody is by being happy. It sounds like this is working now that you have moved on. Who cares what people think? Did they have to put up with him? No! People are not stupid and everyone expects a bit of mud slingling when a relationship breaks up. It just means that the one who is doing the tittle tattleing is doing it through broken pride
2006-10-30 09:36:36 · answer #5 · answered by DONNAIS 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Revenge will not stop the hurt that he has done to you.
Moreover if you do try and get him back, the backlash from this may be even worse! He is practised in being cruel and mean so will be good at it.
Bide your time and one day he will make a mistake. Then you can expose him for what he is. The beauty of it is that he will have done it to himself, which will seriously p***s him off!!
Good luck and try to avoid him like the plague he is!!
2006-10-30 10:23:34 · answer #6 · answered by kiku 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
your greatest revenge will be moving on with your new man, no body likes rejection and by moving on thats what you'll be doing, revenge is short lived and reduces you to their level which i'm sure your above, let him see your far happier than you ever have been and you'll get revenge and the moral high ground. besides if you take the time to impliment revenge then it shows he's still on your mind and still getting to you and he will get a kick out of that no matter how bad you planned revenge. like i said, the best revenge is not letting em get to you and to show you dont need nor want them. that'll get to him more than anything else ever would. move on and forget the loser. you owe it to your son anyway.
2006-10-30 09:43:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Walk away. It is very hard to stop feelings of revenge, we all have them, but if you let this guy keep coming in to your head, and making you feel angry and bitter, he is still winning. Treat him with the contempt he deserves, and forget about the snake. It will piss him off a lot more, to see you appear unscathed, and happy with your new fella, than if you went about trying to hurt him. Then he would know he is still "getting" to you, don`t give him the damn satisfaction. Enjoy your new relationship, and put the creep behind you, you will win that way.
2006-10-30 09:35:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
i know it is hard but dont stoop to his level,
people who really know you will not believe him anyway and those that do are not worth knowing,
you have a new partner now who is good to you so concentrate on that and dont let revenge on your ex spoil it for you,revenge can eat you up inside, so although it is sometimes easier said than done, try to let it go and put it all down to experience,
you are worth more than that and are obviously a better person than your ex so dont give him the chance to tell people," see i told you so"
i wish you luck in your new relationship and hope that all goes well for you.
2006-10-30 10:20:54 · answer #9 · answered by mythmagicdragon 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
merely sell off him first and don't sit down around waiting flow seem for somebody new who will savor you. do no longer attempt the revenge component. you be attentive to the previous asserting what is going around comes around and it would actual be back to bite you difficult. So be an grownup and merely get on including your life.
2016-11-26 19:50:59 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋