Ok well there is this guy, lets call him Jeremy and he is my best friend's(lets call her Brittany's) ex-boyfriend. He dumped her a couple of years ago over something very stupid and people still tease her about it so she is not COMPLETLY over it. This year I have 2nd period with Jeremy and I have to say, that he has definaltly grown up over the summer. He is really easy to talk to, has gorgeous crystal blue eyes,is tall, and has a ka zillion freckles all over his face. I know he had a crush on me earlier on in the year and i am not sure if that is still true, but now really like him. The only problem is that he is Britanys ex. And it is impossible for Brittany to be friends with her ex's. For her, once her relationship ends, they are enimies for life. And it's not like I could just ditch Brittany, i mean we have been friends since the 5th grade, and she knows me better than anyone, but I don't want to miss out on a great relationship, so what should I do??
2006-10-30 09:28:31 · 7 answers · asked by Lydia - Lou 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
baby girl, go out with him; let your friend know it also. if she is your true friend, then she would honor your wish. it's childish to dis someone for life just because she has a different or have a bad experience with any given person. you want to remain friends, but in the same time, you want what is good and right for you. don't worry about brittany, she's just a friend. she can't control your personal life. baby girl, go get what you want.
2006-10-30 09:34:05 · answer #1 · answered by harmony 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is all a big grenade and your about to pull the pin. Drama Drama. This girl is gonna emotionally freak when you do that, she has a history with this guy. Even if she was his friend, it would bother her. They'll be plenty relationships later after this guy, so why go there? You're just asking for an emotional roller coaster. Keep those crazy hormones down.
2006-10-30 17:35:25 · answer #2 · answered by CheezyYumYums 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have the same kinda problem. except im dating my ex's best friend. lol first fnd out if he still likes you or not. and if he still does, then start to hang out with as just friends. after a month or so, if you are still interested, ask him out on a date. if its been that long sonce jeremy and brittany were together, then it might be enough time.
2006-10-30 17:34:49 · answer #3 · answered by Raven 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask Brittany, I want to ask you a hypothetical question, How would you feel if I start to go out with you ex? check out her reaction. Then if she says, I do not care, then say I like your ex, but our friendship means so much to me, I just had to see if it would be okay with you! But if she says, No I do not want you with him. That will be a tough one, So I hope every thing works out for you!
2006-10-30 17:38:17 · answer #4 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
although i don't think anyone should ever have to choose between friends, you probably will have to make a choice in this. many people (both males and females, of all ages) see it as a betrayal of friendship to date someone they dated. pretty much the only thing you can do to possibly salvage a relationship with her and have one with him is to talk about it with her beforehand. and you're still young, there are plenty of other guys out there. good luck.
2006-10-30 17:36:21 · answer #5 · answered by Renee B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't go behind Brittany's back ask Brittany what she thinks about you liking Jeremy and possibly dating him, but over all it's your choice but boyfriends will come and go but you'll always have your friends good friends are rare treasure them. good luck!
2006-10-30 17:32:44 · answer #6 · answered by valley1800 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to you friend about it. this sounds like you should be working it out together.
2006-10-30 17:31:31 · answer #7 · answered by Generation-Chick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋