Killing myself?

Question

I'm a biology major, so I know plenty of ways of doing it and not feeling a thing. But should I? I'm usually pretty upbeat, and generally like life. I'm in the honors program, I'm in NROTC, I have all A's, lots of friends, a job I love, I run cross country, and I'll be 20 in a few months. Here's the point; I love the guy I'm with, but the relationship isn't very stable, and he isn't really the best match for me. Slacker meet overachiever. I can't stop thinking about him, I care about him a lot. Yet our relationship is going too fast. Of late I've had a few bad things happen, and I'm a little shake'n.

Answer 1

So, killing yourself is the answer? Huh, I thought my life sucked. Here's the deal... I'm 34 and suffer each and everyday of my life with Major Depression, OCD, and a bunch of other garbage. The Doctors have me taking Zoloft and not a day goes by where I fell like killing myself, but I don't. Why? Simple, life is not about me, but about those around me. I have four beautiful children and a loving wife who care about me. There are others who can also benefit from my help too. Don't be selfish and think about how others may lose out upon your death. I'm sure you have tons to offer.

Regarding your boyfriend, there's a lack of information on him for me to tell much, but it seems the two of you are complete opposites. Ask yourself these questions: Does he beat you?, Does he cheat on you?, Does he yell at you or call you names?, & Does he lie or commit crimes?

If you answer no to these questions, he's pretty decent. Since he's a slacker, you should take a step back. Tell him how you love him, but if he's serious about you he needs to make a decision on what he is going to do to support you. Make sure he's the type of guy that will not skip town if he gets you pregnant. If he really loves you he will make the necessary changes. He may get a small job, but be patient.

My wife and I married when we were 20 and had our first child at 22. We both have our degrees, but I slacked off quite a bit, and it took me a couple of years to get a good career going and be responcible. I'm no angel either, but we have stuck together. Unfortunately, due to my current problems, I'm out of work. I continue to fight and slowly I'm getting better. What I'm saying is stuff happens and you need to stay positive and focus. Death is a cop out. Take care and pull back if you need time.

Answer 2

Honey, you shoud NOT commit suicide. You shouldn't commit suicide for any reason, even if it is painless! It sounds like you have a lot going for yourself. That's great! You're young...you're going to fall in love, in like, in dislike when it comes to guys. Don't let this one falter your steps. Opposites do attract, but it sounds like you're both in different paths in your life right now...so make a decision. Do you love him enough to be in an unstable relationship? Or do you love yourself more? No one deserves to be in an unstable relationship. So I hope your answer is you love yourself... because think about it like this, if you kill yourself, he is going to continue to be a slacker. So what would be the point of suicide?
Could you and him just be friends if it doesn't workout while being boyfriend/girlfriend? Then at least you'll have him in your life. Right?

Answer 3

Oh dear, it sounds like you like yourself except for the way he makes you feel. DO NOT EVEN THINK ABOUT IT AND IF YOU DO GO GET HELP IMMEDIATELY. Speak to someone in the college, there should be a counselor around. As for him, slowly break it off, learn to live without him by becoming very busy, involved and be surrounded by other people. You have so much going for you, someone will adore you for exactly what you are, and you'll get over him. Let him go and concentrate on liking yourself more and a beautiful future

Answer 4

Maybe you need to get rid of slacker even though he turns you on. Maybe you need to know that life is precious don't throw it away by commiting suicide. Talk to a reliable pastor or counselor. Remember that God Loves you and that you are precious in his sight. Read the gospel of John. Also, start listening to ttb.org to give your life a solid foundation. Do not commit suicide. God loves you. Sometimes bad things happen because we make bad choices. But sometimes adversity just comes to test our character. Don't give up. Listen to TTB.org for 6 months it will make you feel better. God bless you.

Answer 5

your life sounds awesome, i wish i was u. gosh, u shouldnt even be close 2 thinkin bout tht. Dont do it-even though this is commin from a complete stranger, we are all put on this earth for a reason and we should live our lives to the fullest. dont do it, did u even think about wht the peeps tht u know and love will do? try ro work things out w/ ur bf.

Answer 6

thats not the way out, you can fall and love alot of times and none of them probably would work out, the only thing you have to do is never give up if he was meant for you,you wouldn't be having this problem,so just come down and think about everything, cause when you're gone he's going to still be here and you're not. think, he's going to cry for a second and then there he go gone on with his life, it's always somebody better for you, and think you will hurt the one's who really do love you like your family members or if you have kids. that man don't mean you no good if you're talking about hurting you're self. you never put anybody before your life,but your kids. pray about it and everything will be alright.i want you to pray with me cause and away i know what you're going through things happen and you can solve all things withen him i am only 24 so don't think i'm old and i don't know what i'm talkin bout cause i do i'm not ugly one bit and i can have any man i want out here but i rather have jesus cause i know he ain't going to let me down and hurt me and leave, lets pray. lord i come to you today to bless this child in the name of jesus show her lord that everything will be alright, and let her know lord that u spared your life for hers,not for her to spare hers for someone else, bless her lord and show her the right way and let her follow you lord and take that devil from her ears, cause that's all who's is talking i pray for you and jesus name amen

Answer 7

See a psychiatrist, you seem to be depressed.

About the guy, thinking more about the slacker-overachiever part, rather than what he means to you?

Answer 8

First of all, get rid of the boyfriend. He is a loser. You need someone, who will be their for you, someone who will inspire you, someone, you just can't wait to see, every day! That is what is going to make you happy, and wanting to be alive, to enjoy him or life! so as far as he is concern, you can do better by yourself! You can have heaven or hell, right here on earth, it is all up to you. You are in charge of your life, want more for yourself! Love you! You need to have some happiness in your life. but you are the one in charge of doing that, so work on you! I will be praying for you! Hang in their!

Answer 9

Hmmmmm...let me see here....suicide..that will cause a lot of people unnessisary horrible grief...that might work...tell you what would work....set down with him and have a straight out talk about your feelings and his feelings and then possilbly you will come to a mutual conclusion that satisfies both of you...but, it's just an opinion from someone who knows.......

Answer 10

it sounds like..you have so much going for your self. from all your activities and your acheivements....you seem to be a very positive individual. Maybe we can chat on IM sometime. I would love to hear about some good running tips. Please...drop me an IM sometime.