Okay Ladies, how do you handle finding other women's names in your boyfriends cellphone?

Question

My boyfriend and I have been together for about 7 months. On a few occasions I have looked through his cellphone, yeah I know its being pretty nosy, and found several different women's numbers. When I ask him about it he always has some excuse like they are friends from church or friends from school. I know one of the numbers belongs to an ex-girlfriend that he was with for 3 years. I have never suspected him of cheating but all these numbers make me uncomfortable. Am I being immature or do I have a reason to be bothered?

Answer 1

Snooping like that brings along a lot of problems. Most of all it creates insecurities within yourself and you start questioning everything your boyfriend says or does. I know from experience that checking his phone can drive you crazy! After 7 months you should trust him and what he is saying. If you get the feeling that he is lying than you should re-evaluate your relationship. If him having the number still bothers you maybe you could sit down and explain your feelings to him. Tell him that it makes you uncomfortable and you guys can come up with a solution together.

Answer 2

you obviously have doubts about him (whatever the reason is) otherwise you wouldn't be looking in his cellphone....period.

try giving him the benefit of the doubt and take his word. but also remember, like some women no matter how guys explain it or even tell the truth, once doubt is planted (in any way) that never goes away and it could end up eating away at you and your relationship could end in a way you don't want instead of just admitting you have doubts. just always be honest about your feelings and thoughts. tell him how you feel about him having other girls numbers and do your best to work things out. good luck!

Answer 3

honey threes nothing u can do about it those might have been there before u if not then confront him not in a jealous u shouldn't have other gr ls numbers kind of way jugs play it kook and let him tell u the truth of Ur too aggressive u could make him nervous and hes go in to lie but really a past IA a past and dint get mad at him for old numbers look at Ur phone how many guys nu,Ber's do u have think before u act and speak trust me been there done that!!!

Answer 4

OOO this ones a tough one because you said it yourself it is being nosy and that's not kool. I have never found numbers on my guys phone but then again I don't look just because we have that understanding he sometimes gives me his phone if my bars are low so that already tells me his not hiding things. U need to start paying good attention in a different sense without spying its not hard to tell if he hesitates or beats around the bush over his asset's. If you gotta snoop move on sweetie.

Answer 5

First off I do the same thing! And my BF of 3 years does the same to me... to tell you the truth don't sweat it... the numbers don't mean anything. As long as he isn't getting calls in the middle of the nite or at weird random times i doubt that u have anything to worry about. And, Girl, look through his CALL LOG!! Not the phone book, check out who he is callin and who is calling him... then, if you find something you don't like tell him to delete it. If he sees it bothers you and if he cares about you, he will delete the number w/out a question. U will proly have to do the same tho'
But remember that is healthy for a couple to have friends of the opposite sex. If you have a problem with that, have him introduce his friends to you. But really u have nothing to worry about.

Answer 6

Well first of all that is an invasion of privacy, and if he says they are friends they probably are. If he hasn't given you a reason to believe he's cheating then you just have to trust him. Its pointless to get yourself all worked up over a couple of phone #'s. They could be people he knew before you were together, he has a right to have friends.

Answer 7

Are the numbers just stored in the phone or is he calling them ? Two different things. Everybody has number in their cell from the past. No big deal. But if he's calling these girls behind your back then that's a problem.

Answer 8

Sweetie your just being jealous. If he says their friends then their probably friends. Have a little trust in your guy. Why are you snooping through his phone in the first place? Not cool at all. Im sure you wouldnt like it even if all the guys in your phone really are friends and he was getting all suspicious. Put yourself in his shoes.

Answer 9

You're being paranoid, leading to be bothered, leading to immaturity. Rather normal coming from most young adults actually. Most respectful route, ask him straight up if he's cheating, and stay away from his cell w/out his permission. If he says no, it's up to you to believe him or not. If you don't trust him, you may as well break up with him and find someone you can trust.

Answer 10

They probably are really just girls he knows as friends and nothing more. I wouldn't worry too much about it. Unless he has given you other reasons to think he is cheating, I wouldn't end my relationship over some phone numbers.