Her dad is not expected to live more than a few days. I have been there for her with her mum but don't know how to comfort her with her dad it's very difficult because she is still greiving for her mum.
2006-10-30 08:58:28 · 19 answers · asked by Candy 5 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Cancer
Unfortunately her dad passed away today it's been an emotional day for all
But i think the days ahead are going to be tough.
2006-10-31 07:18:12 · update #1
My heart goes out to the poor girl. Its going to be hard for her and you also - believe me. She will probably go into auto pilot for a while - maybe until after the funeral of her father and then it will hit hard. All you can do is be there for her - listen to her, cry with her and listen to her. She will get through it in time and she's lucky to have a lovely friend to help her. I lost my dad to cancer, then my mum and then my brother in the space of 6 months. It has taken me a long time and am not really over it yet but good family and friends have helped me xxx
2006-10-30 10:00:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
How sad, I am sending positive wishes across the web to you and your friend! I work with people dying from cancer and know that there are no magic words or actions, grieving is the biggest leveller of people. We will all go through it at some point in our lives yet we fear so much of saying the 'wrong' thing that many people find that their friends avoid them. You are obviously made of stronger stuff and I would advise you to be there as much as you can. Make yourself available to talk to and help out in practical ways such as cooking, cleaning, helping with any children as evidence suggests that it is the weeks after death that people need this help the most as the initial period is spent planning funerals etc and the mind is more occupied.
Blessings to you , I'm sure your friend will never forget your help and I hope somebody is as good to you when you lose someone you love.
2006-10-30 14:11:36 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what a total tragedy in the truest sense of the word.
Well done you for being a strong friend in what is the worst imaginable time for your friend.
And in answer to your question, all you can do is carry on doing exactly what you have been doing for her. This will not be easy for her and it will not be easy on you either. having just buried her mum, it is an unimaginable task for her to be doing the same thing again so soon for her other parent.
Just you carry on being the great friend you are. If she wants to talk, let her talk. If she want hug, give her hugs, if she wants to cry, then let her, if she wants to shout, then you need to let her...
There will be times when you feel like you cannot confort her any more, but deep down you will be. This is a time thing and it will not be a quick process. This may even test your friendship, but when she comes through the other side of this sad time in her life, then she will adore you for this.
She is lucky to have someone like you when she feels so much in her life is being taken from her.
Good luck with everything. It is not an enviable position to be in.
2006-10-30 09:10:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Thats really hard. The only thind you can do is to be a good supportive friend. Cater to her when ever possible, invite her places to get her mind off of it, you dont want anyone to dwell 24/7 on an issue like that. Just tell her that you are there for her for whatever she needs, a shoulder to cry on, to talk to someone, etc. LOL you sound like a great person, I wish more of my friends were there for me when my grandfather passed way.
2006-10-30 09:09:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
So so sorry for your friend. My husband passed June 6th and it is still soooooo hard. Its like he just disappeared. She will need your support for quite sometine Being there for her is the only thing you can do You are a good friend Good Luck and God Bless
2006-10-31 12:05:14 · answer #5 · answered by crumcake422 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be there for her for as long as it takes, she will find it very hard and will need lots of support. Keep doing what you have been doing for her. She is lucky to have a friends that cares so much for her. Good luck to both of you.
2006-10-30 09:03:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just being there is a great help. Just let her talk about her mum and her dad. Don't fuss over her, but be a good listener.
2006-10-30 09:01:31 · answer #7 · answered by poppy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First i might want to elect to assert i'm very sorry on your loss. dropping a mom at a youthful age will be very perplexing. i imagine a strong thanks to enable out all of your discomfort is to seek for suggestion from from someone. you need to attempt speaking on your dad, i understand you do not elect to annoy him yet im particular he gained't concepts in any respect because you're his daughter and he would not elect you bottling issues up which motives better discomfort. My brother died 3 years in the past even as lower than his chum's motor vehicle attempting to fix it, the motorized vehicle fell on him. He meant the international to me and that i loved him with all my heart so it develop into very, very perplexing to lose him when you consider that i develop into very on the fringe of him. i stumbled on closure when I talked about him with my different brother so that you need to do a similar including your dad. also don't be so damaging through declaring "i think as though my existence is slowly getting worse" that would not help. you need to imagine constructive and say to your self widely used "each and every thing receives better effective". yet another large concept is in the course of the summer vacation attempt to shop your self entertained this may shop your concepts off each and every thing else. bypass out procuring with acquaintances, bypass to the flicks, bypass to the park or coastline, swimming pool, have sleep-overs or action picture nights at your position or a acquaintances abode and spend sometime including your dad. you need to also get a small diary and on a daily basis you could write the way you sense, that way you gained't bottle issues up and undergo in concepts crying is nice. that's strong for you to get each and every thing out. i wish i have helped. xx
2016-10-16 06:58:38 · answer #8 · answered by svendsen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mr skeptic is right, you can't do anything but be there with her as often and as much as you are able. This is truly hard. This friend needs a shoulder.
2006-10-30 09:06:43 · answer #9 · answered by antiekmama 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just be there for her as she will need all the support she can get and not just now but for a while even when they have passed away.
2006-10-30 09:06:43 · answer #10 · answered by sweetie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋