I've been dating a guy for a few months, he lives 3 hours away, after I came back from spending the weekend at his place, he started ignoring me, like when I would text, he wouldn'nt reply, but if I call, he'll answer but never take the initiative to call me first. After 4/5 days passed, I sent him a text saying 'I thought u were special not like the guys I've had in the past, guess I was wrong'. He didn't reply. Until he called today and said that calling each other too often is excessive, and calling every few days is how he prefers it, should I act like everything is normal and carry on with the relationship? or should I be weary to the fact that he's not into contacting me as often? or am I over-reacting?
2006-10-30 08:57:47 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's always been like this but I wasn't really too bothered cuz i was doin my own thing, but since we've got more serious, he's still doin it, it seems odd. Plus, we have awkward silences on the phone
2006-10-30 09:01:39 · update #1
Dump him and find someone that will treat you the way you deserve to be treated.
2006-10-30 08:59:16 · answer #1 · answered by Dennly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it depends on how strong your feeling are towards this guy. dating can be many different things. Just remember you deserve the best, and be treated like your special. If you feel that he is ignoring you, couldn't that be enough reason for you to see that maybe his feeling arent the same as yours. If two people are so much into each other, it shouldn't matter how many times you call. I think you should go by your instincts.
You deserve a normal, (if any relationship is normal) happy and awesome love life. That will do anything for you.
I don't think your over reacting, I think your being pertective to your feelings.
Good luck
2006-10-30 17:08:49 · answer #2 · answered by mountaingirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmn.interesting..typical although interesting. Is he the kind of guy you really want to be with? I mean if he does not want to spend time with you as often as possible then don't you think something is wrong? Is he really into you? or it's just a fling thing that when he finds another he can always say to you that you were nver serious or exclusive in the first place? you have to ask yourself? will you allow yourself to fall deeply in love with a guy that wants to call you every after a few days? that even a text won't do? unless you were to exessive? play around, try not calling or texting him then if he comes around good for you but if he likes you, then I am right your a day short of being his booty call..that's bad sweety..
2006-10-30 17:03:32 · answer #3 · answered by hypnos 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I doubt he has found a girl that is okay with that- she was probably a push over, or really weird. Because, most girls like to hear from the guy atleast every other day, just to see how they are doing. I wouldn't over-react, or even be mad, because that is how its been with him previosly. I would just let him know that doesn't work for you, you'd prefer more communication, even if its only for like 5-15 minutes a day, just to say hi. It is hard enough having a long distance relationship, but lack of commincation will ruin it. If he wants it to work, he should change his ways a little bit.
2006-10-30 17:03:48 · answer #4 · answered by Fran Y 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not over-reacting. You both already live far away from each other and you can't even communicate...? That's not a very assuring relationship. Find someone who's "special and not like the guys you've had in the past....." He's definitely not!
2006-10-30 17:08:55 · answer #5 · answered by kz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl. you are defenitely not over-reacting. I actually think that is something rude to tell someone. because if You are both feeling each other equally, he should not have a problem talking to you often. I wold give him some space and let him start calling you. dont wait around for him to call though, get on with your life.
2006-10-30 17:08:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're texting him every ten minutes or so , then it's too much. At most, since you're away from each other, maybe call him once a day, maybe. Life goes on whether you're there or not. Sometimes you just can't talk everyday. Settle down.
2006-10-30 17:00:45 · answer #7 · answered by krisski 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would go along with what he says. It can be expensive but do not appear needy and text message things like "I thought you were special....Then if you do not hear from him in a month, I would move on as it would be clear he has lost interest.
2006-10-30 17:01:53 · answer #8 · answered by Sparkles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From my point of view, I think that's a clearly stated, "You're interesting, but I'm not that interested". I'd just not contact him at all anymore & find someone else who is more interested in you than this guy. He's not worth the time, effort, or emotion.
2006-10-30 17:00:46 · answer #9 · answered by its_me_horses 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hummm???????? I would drop him. You can get better then that, somebody who doesnt mind, in fact, loves the idea that you want to talk to him a few times during the day. Sounds like he may have something else, other then you on the side.
2006-10-30 17:00:12 · answer #10 · answered by ItalianPrincess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well mayb callin everyday isn't the best idea cuz it could cost. and about text messaging him that and how he didn't text bac, mayb he doesn't prefer text. my bestfriend never texts her bf..becuz she thinks it can be ANYONE texting her from his phone. And with the phone call thing, she didn't lik talkin to him all the time on the phone wen hes not close, well she didn't wanna talk to him that much at least. she prefer seeing him. ur guy could b the same way. so u think about it, is he worth it..do u wanna do wut hes saying hes wantin to do
2006-10-30 17:01:47 · answer #11 · answered by ursosexxii 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋